Indlela baziphathe xa singqongwe louts?

Eyona amandla ubukrwada kunye crudeness ukuba abanaso. Ezi engenamsebenzi, kodwa iintsholongwane noluhleli lukhona ngokweemvakalelo kudluliselwa ukusuka komnye umntu iye komnye, oku kwenzeka ngokufuthi igama elinye okanye nje. Akunamsebenzi nokuba apho isisongelo kuvela - ebantwini esitratweni, xa ukuthutha abakhweli, abathengisi kwivenkile okanye abahlobo zasekuhlaleni, kukho izinto ezimbalwa iindlela enkulu ukuze ube namandla okuzikhusela sakho coarseness kunye krwada.

Khumbula ukuba luhlaza kunqabile nokunokujoliswa kwabo wena

Ukuziphatha kwabanye kunqabile ixhomekeke kuthi, yaye ngakumbi kunqabile wathumela kuthi. Ingakumbi xa coarseness. Ihlabathi bantu baninzi kangaka abantu bavuke kwindlela yokucinga kusasa, "Namhlanje ndiya nagrublyu ezantsi kummelwane wakhe." Amaninzi ngamazwi arhabaxa nezijekulo ukrwada - indlela ukruthakruthwano ubukrwada enye inxalenye kwabanye, okanye ngenxa yobuthathaka kunye self-kwamathandabuzo.

Ibhaxa oluqhelekilyo akukho sizathu ukufumana ummelwane ezimbi - ukusabela chain. Kukangaphi ingalindelekanga ubukrwada ngenkani ngamnye kuthi ukuba ulahlekelwe yena "asesitalini" phezu kwabanye. Kodwa kubalulekile kusoloko ukuba ukukhumbula ukuba ukuziphatha kwethu kuxhomekeke phezu kwethu, kungekhona ngabamelwane okanye ezinzulu abasebenzi ekliniki, andazi ukuba baziphathe njani. Asikwazi ukulawula ukuziphatha nabanye abantu, kodwa ulawulo mda iingcinga kunye nezenzo zakho. Ngaba akukhuthazi oko?

Khetha ngumbala

Ukuphazamisa "chain reaction" xa uziva ukudubuleka ngumsindo, kufuneka uyeke kwaye ukunyanzela wena ukuba wenze into eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo imiyalezo krwada. Akukho lula, kodwa emva kokuba le ngcaciso yokuqala kuya kuba lula, yaye ukuba ubanyanzele wena ukuncuma ngexesha elinye, intlungu esikuyo uya kunyamalala ngokupheleleyo.

Musa ukuthatha ukungafuni kwawo okanye ukungakwazi ukuba krwada kwabanye njengophawu lobuthathaka. Ukwala sikhokelwe iimvakalelo ezingakhiyo, wena ukukhusela ibhalansi yakho engqondweni nangokweemvakalelo. Emva lo mthetho olula, ekuhambeni kwexesha uya kuphawula ukuba iphuhlise omzimba ukuba krwada ngokwenene crudeness. Kungcono kakhulu ukuba ukusahlukanisa esikhundleni sokulungileyo, eqaqambileyo, obungunaphakade.

Ukuzingisa akufunekanga abe krwada

Kukho amaxesha xa sengqondo esihle amazwi alungileyo ngokwaneleyo, kuba ukuziphatha boorish kwaye akrwada akusoloko ayiphelelanga amagama. Mhlawumbi kungcono ukuba usikhwezele impikiswano, ukuba umntu wahamba waphuma ke, okanye ndazikhamela kumlanjana yeemoto, kodwa ke kukho iimeko apho ubukrwada umntu xa kuyimfuneko ukuhlangabezana yobulukhuni.

Ngokomzekelo, omnye asebenza wabhalela off kuwe impazamo yakhe, kwaye ngoku unoxanduva lwayo kuyo. Kule meko, ngoyaba le ngxaki okanye isibini amazwi amahle musa ukunika isisombululo. Nangona kunjalo, lo impendulo ndikrwada ziya mandundu kuphela ubudlelwane kweli qela, Awonakalise isimo wonke. Nyuka ubukrwada yabo omncinane "ukulaya" okanye ngezakhono ukuze akwazi ukufundisa isifundo ukuba akungenise ulwaneliseko yokuziphatha ayikho ngaphezu kweyure, uze uzive nangakumbi. Kwiimeko ezinzima ezifana ngokwaso maluqhutywe ngolu hlobo:

• xelela nje umoni nto ucinga ngayo ngezenzo zakhe ukuba likuchaphazela njani na ngobungcali nasemphefumlweni.
• Ukuzahlula ovela kumntu okukhubekisileyo.
• Ukuba oku ukuqinisekisa umoni ukutshintsha imeko, azise ulawulo ngesi siganeko, ukugcina uzolile kwaye owomileyo, ithoni yoshishino. Oku bubuthathaka hayi yabednichestvo - ukuba ilungelo lakho lokuba azithethelele yaye umsebenzi wakhe.

Sebenzisa namaqhinga zengqondo

Ukuba Kwakunzima ziqulathe ubukrwada kusiyiwa emva, zama enye okanye ngaphezulu oneninzi amaqhinga zilandelayo:

• Khawucinge ukuba amkele ndoda bekrwada kuwe. Zama ukuba uyavelana naye nokuba Ucinga ntoni ukwenza ukuba niziphathe ngolu hlobo. Eli nyathelo liza nangoko kunciphisa isimo sakho asenokumqumbela umntu.
• Nika inkcazo ecacileyo iimvakalelo zabo. Elibanzi nokuhlola ngalinye neemvakalelo kokugubungela, bathi kwaye ufumanise ukuba kutheni. Lo msebenzi uya umoya wena nokutshintsha ingqwalasela ukusuka snapper kuwe ngokobuqu.
• Fumana umntwana omncinci uze uthethe naye. Singanikezeli impembelelo lwangaphandle neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo, thina ngandlela abaninzi benza njengabantwana, ukukhulisa ukukhala phezu nangaphandle. Ndandikhula, siyayeka ukhalela kuba zokudlala nekuplennyh kuba umbono wethu esandisa, siyaqonda - ngoku, ukongeza zokudlala, kukho ezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo, izinto ezibaluleke ngakumbi. Xa sele ukulungele ukuba ube krwada komnye umntu, uthethe nomntwana wakho ngaphakathi uze ubonise indlela le umsindo azibalulekanga xa kuthelekiswa nezinye izinto kunye neemvakalelo.

amandla kancinci kakhulu ukuba umoya kwaye jonga kwi imeko ukusuka ngaphandle kunokusinceda ukuba ukwazi ukuzibamba kunye lwesilinganiso ngokweemvakalelo ebusweni krwada kakhulu nikatsongo kunye udelela.