Indlela uchazele umntwana ngeempazamo zabo

Family - oku linyathelo elibalulekileyo kakhulu ukuba ufuna ukulungiselela. Amaxesha amaninzi, abantu abaselula betshata kwindawo hawu, uvakalelo, ngaphandle ndicinga ukuba uyafuna na ukuhlala naye kuze bonke ubomi. I-Institute of Marriage and Family kwilizwe lethu ongaphuhliswanga kwaye yathandwa. Ethatyathwe kunye nesibakala sokuba abazali ndingasihlawuli ingqalelo ngokwaneleyo kwimfundo yabantwana babo, kwisizukulwana sethu kwabantu abaselula phantse akukho iimbono malunga yintoni intsapho, yaye ziziphi iingxaki baya nazo xa zadalwa.

Ngokutsho manani, malunga nesiqingatha imitshato kweli lizwe kuqhawulo-mtshato. Ngenxa yoko, kukho ezininzi iintsapho kunye nabantwana abakhubazekileyo, ogama ubomi akukho uyise nokuba ngunina. Le nezengqondo kwaba bantwana zifuna ukukhathalelwa kunye nengqalelo. Ngelishwa, abantu abaninzi musa nokuba ucinga ngendlela uchazele umntwana malunga iimpazamo abazenza.

Ngokutsho bengqondo

Zengqondo bathi abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezineziphene xa bekhula, nobunzima kakhulu xa kudalwa usapho lwakho. Xa abazali ukuba umtshato, ize ke umntwana lowo, kwiimeko ezininzi, ngaphandle ingqalelo kayise, oko kushiya i istampu engqondweni yakhe yobomi. Kwiimeko ezinjalo ayibalulekanga into ukuze achaze izizathu zesigqibo wakho ukuba lahlukanise intsapho womntwana, kuba imiphumo ukuba alandele yena, abazange basinde. Umntwana kwimeko enjalo, ulahlekelwa ukuzithemba, imvo ityala, uyayeka nokuthemba abantu. Ngenxa yoko, xa sikhula, ehlangana kunye kukududuzela ukuba alazi yintoni indima usapho kufuneka kwenza umzali, leyo yena akazange.

"Ukuphila kunye Awukwazi ukufumana umtshato!" - ufake isiphumlisi

Yonke intsapho kufuneka yokuzibonakalisa kakuhle ukuba isigqibo atshabalalise intsapho - ikakhulu umtshato nomntwana - kunye nokwala kwakhe nokungayihoyi ixabiso layo. Kuba wonke umzali kufuneka kakuhle umbuzo yendlela ukuchazela umntwana ukuba akusabalulekanga. Ngenxa yesi sizathu kuyimfuneko kukudala usapho eyomeleleyo oya kwakha ulonwabo zabo, alwe yona. Akwenzeki ukuba ukutshata ngokwesiseko iimvakalelo ngokweemvakalelo. Ngenxa yoko, kuya kubakho ithemba impumelelo kunye nekamva elibhetele abantwana babo.

Kuhle ukukhumbula ukuba iingxaki kunye linye kusapho kungenzeki, kodwa ungasoloko ukumelana nazo. Iiplastiki zombini ukwahlukana beqwalasele isakhi ebalulekileyo. Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba umntwana - hayi nje abanye abazali babo, kodwa ithemba labo elizayo. Ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukuba anikele ingqalelo ekhethekileyo kumzekelo ubudlelwane ubona umntwana kwintsapho yakhe. Yiyo lo mfanekiso uya kuhamba naye ubomi bakhe.

Konke oku kukhokelela ekubeni yokuba phambi ukhangela impendulo yombuzo njani uchazele umntwana yezizathu mtshato, kufuneka ukuba basebenze kuyo ukuze ukuthintela iingozi ezinjalo. Kufuneka wenze ukuba umthetho lo mtshato kunye nomntwana - engahambelaniyo amagama. Bobabini abazali kufuneka benze konke okusemandleni ukukhusela usana ukusuka ziinkedama, ukulahlwa nokungabi nalo uthando. Enoba kwenzeka ntoni na, ke asikwazi ithemba - kusoloko kukho indlela yokuphuma!