Kutheni ukudakumba ngabantu kuba nzima kakhulu ukubona

Kukho omnye ulwazi olunomdla ukudandatheka eyindoda. Kubonakala ukuba uninzi loogqirha kwiqela lwempilo ayikwazi ukwazi ukuba ngxaki. Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Lo mbuzo uphendulwa ngugqirha bengqondo lwezonyango eHarvard Medical School Uilyam Pollak. Into yokuba iingcali bakhangela efana ngokubonakala iimpawu ababhinqileyo edandathekile: lusizi, iinyembezi, ukudinwa. Kodwa ngemiqondiso yokuba umntu ubonakala ukudakumba, iimpawu ezifana phithi kunye nomsebenzi, ukuba nochuku, impulsivity kunye ndlongo.

Ubunzima zokufumanis

UGqr Pollack wagxininisa ukuba inkqubo diagnostic iphelelwe, kwaye izigulane ezininzi uzakufun aukugqithisa nje nqanaba ukutyhileka iimpawu zokuqala zesi sifo. Kungenxa yoko le nto ukudandatheka amadoda kunzima kangaka ukubona. Ukuba ngaba uzifumanisa kwezi mpawu zichazwe ngasentla, kufuneka wenze idinga nogqirha wakho.

Ngaba ubusazi ukuba umthambo ukumelana karhulumente enkulu depressive? Unako kwakhona ulungise ingqondo yakho noko. Landela ezi zikhokelo.

Lahla lo umsindo edubulayo

Ekuhambeni kwexesha uyakwazi bafunda ukuqaphela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kwi ibakala kwazo. Ukuba uqala ku nyangatseka kunye nomsindo, zibuze ukuba kutheni na le niyenzayo? Ngoko ke, uyakwazi ukubona isiganeko okukhuphileyo kule meko. Ukuziva intlungu, usizi okanye intlungu, unako kwakhona i "dig" elincinane engqondweni yakhe. Musa hlalutya imeko yedwa, uthethe ngale nto yenzekayo nomfazi wam okanye umhlobo osenyongweni. Yiloo ndlela wena ngokuhlaselwa umsindo okungalawulekilyo ukusindisa.

Musa ukuba tu

Ukuba umfazi uthi waphelelwa ngumdla kuwe, musa bahlale bethe cwaka. Mxelele ukuba ungabona indlela enomsindo, kodwa musa ukuqonda isizathu. Ngaba ukuba akazange akwazi ukuqhubeka kuphindaphindeko, okanye ebangela ndinenza buhlungu? Emva koko buza ukuba ungakwazi ukulungisa into.

intetho Okunye ngeemvakalelo zabo

Abanye abantu bakholelwa ukuba umntu ongathanda ukuba ahlale phezu iimvakalelo zabo, ingakumbi ukuba ezi mvakalelo ezingakhiyo. Noko ke, akunjalo. Kwaye izifundo ezitsha ukuqinisekisa oku. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthe wadibana into isihlobo okanye umhlobo oluvunjululweyo, mema ukuba incoko uthethe intliziyo ntliziyo.

Camngca cwaka

Amadoda bakulumkele nokucamngca, ziwugqala into lihlazo. Ngoko ke kunokwenzeka kusoloko ukuququzelela le nkqubo, hayi ukusebenzisa mantra. Nje bahlale bethe cwaka kwindawo esitheleyo kwaye zibonisa kubukho kwisithuba imizuzu emihlanu. Yenza indlela yonke imihla enjalo.