Umhla wokuqala: oko ukuthetha malunga nenye intombazana?

Xa ubomi ngomntu wonke yenzeka imihla emininzi yokuqala, yaye phambi kwabo bonke, ngendlela enye okanye omnye, engaqondanga nexhala kuba akukho nto imiyo, ukuba ngaba uya ungathanda iqabane lakhe. Kakade ke, abasetyhini ukunikela ingqalelo engakumbi kwimbonakalo yabo, kodwa ngaphambi komhla wokuqala athathe bona esandleni nokuba amanye amadoda ucingela ukuba kubhetele ukuba ukunxiba yaye yintoni uhlobo niqhumisele ukukhetha. Asikagqibi ukuthetha ngabo iyivume abaya kuthathwa-up izifundo kwaye ndicinga ukuba amantombazana amaninzi zataschat kulala, kungekho umgudu, ngoko ke kuyabanda. Ukongeza, ezi guys musa ithathele ingqalelo into yokuba amantombazana ukuba ziziyatha, kwaye lula "ubale" wayifaka endaweni.

Sithetha ngabo bantu abatsha nezifuna ukuba ukuthandana luhleli kunye nalowo uthanda intombazana. Ngoko ke khumbula: ukuba wabuza wakhe wathabatha sivumelwano, ngoko sele unomdla kuyo, ukuze kuloo ntlanganiso, zama ukuba yena hayi ingakumbi ezintsonkothileyo. Unakho, Kakade ke, cinga kwangaphambili into eniya kuyithetha kumfazi kuloo ntlanganiso, kodwa musa ukulibala malunga spontaneity, Ukungaqiniseki. Kakade ke, akukho mfuneko yokuba uxoxe ngawo kunye wangaphambili okanye mbuze ukuba amadoda amaninzi kwakufuneka ukuba. Okwangoku, uthi kuye qha, kwaye kufuneka kusibekela nto. Ngapha koko, ukuba ngokwenene ufuna ukuba le ntombazana, musa ukubuza ukuba mbuzo akazange atshintshe kuba elidluleyo nangoku akathandi kusebenza, kwaye ubuhlobo zimbi.

Ukuba awuyazi ukuba athi umfazi xa sidibana naye kakuhle, zama mbuze ngoko unomdla koko yena unomdla. Ukuba lithe ikuba othandwayo, yena ndithi kuni ngovuyo ngayo, kwaye kukho igama negama ... yena uwuthandayo into intombi umdla ngokuyimfuneko cela ukuba usixelele ngoko ukuba unomdla, kuba umdla. Mhlawumbi ke uyithandayo wakho uya kufumana echo engqondweni yakhe, kwaye ngokuzenzekelayo uza kuba nomdla jikelele.

Xa ufumene into ukuthetha malunga nenye intombazana, zama kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuze bajonge kuyo rhoqo. Echwayithileyo kwaye kwakha nobuhlobo, makabe uyazi oko opholileyo ngenene, kwaye nje bubuso bakhe. Abaninzi "amakhwenkwe" IQonga icebisa ukuba ngokufuthi bachukumise intombazana (lwamagxa ukuba abachukumise, aphathe kunye ezifana), ngelithi kubafazi zonke zingqondweni eluthandweni. Musa ukukholwa nto! Akukho mntu uthanda ukuba omnye umntu ukuba zihlasele zaloo mntu. Mfazi - nayo indoda, kwaye ngoku - umntu ongamaziyo. Ukuhlala umchukumisayo, kuthiwa-ndenzile, wena woyikise nje ebemndulule, yena uya abaleke kuwe kungekudala kunokuba ucinga. Ukuba ufuna, ngoko uya kukusa ngesandla (yaye intombazana abafundileyo ngakumbi kwaye ucele ukuba unako ukukwenza oko).

Yintoni na ukuthi intombazana kodwa? Ewe, nantoni na. Thatha ukuba imovie uze uxoxe umboniso, uthethe umculo, malunga amagcisa zabo abazithandayo. abafazi abaninzi namhlanje ebona abantu kwezemidlalo, kuquka ekhatywayo. Ngubani na owaziyo, mhlawumbi iqabane lakho - musa kuba ngomnye wabo, ngoko ke ungoyiki ukucela naye malunga naloo nto. Kodwa musani mbuze imibuzo yobuqu, kwaye uqale incoko ngesondo, imali (ngaphandle kokuba ukukhankanywa yokuqala kubo).

Namanje abazi ukuba sithethe nenye intombazana? Unakho ukumenza up ngokubalisa ezimbalwa funny amabali ebomini bakhe. Kuba Qinisekisa kwakhona inento ukwabelana ochwayithileyo kwaye behleka kulungile kakhulu kuyakunceda ukuba akhululeke. Mxeleleni nendlela yokuncoma ezimbalwa, kodwa musa wayezithandi-. Amazwi akho makabe ukunyaniseka, amantombazana siyivuyele loo nto. Xa onyhwalaza phantsi owazenza kunconywa, bavakalelwa zibhityile kakhulu, yaye wena uya kuthi kukhubeka xa iqabane lakho nani "kukunika 'into ngomoya ofanayo.

Nakuba kunjalo, ezinye iiphatheni ezingundoqo, oko ukuthetha malunga nenye intombazana, ngokwenene. Ukuba wenza zonke iingongoma zitsalwa kwi site pikaperskie okanye imagazini yabantu, uzibeka esichengeni sokwenzakaliswa kusala ungenanto, kuba ngeke wazi njani ukuba baziphathe intokazi. Nje kuba banyanisekile yaye naye, yaye ukuba awufuni ukuba yesibini emva komhla wokuqala, kungcono ukuba emxelela malunga ngqo, ube yindoda. Kulungile ukuba kube buhlungu ngoku, kodwa uya kukuqonda ukuba ungakwazi umbona ngakumbi, kwaye iza ukukhangela abanye loo mfo, hayi Tesha ithemba phezu kwakho. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ufuna kwakhona ukubona le ntombazana - ukuba ibone kulo, uze uqhubeke ukuphuhlisa ubudlelwane.