Ingozi engaguqukiyo yesini

Abantu abafani ngokwendalo enye kwenye - nangona zingenako ukuba ulusu ezahlukeneyo kunye nombala iinwele, basonta iintlanga ezahlukeneyo ukuthetha iilwimi ezahlukeneyo, kodwa eyona etyalwayo umahluko ebonakalayo umahluko yi sex - umahluko zemveli phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi. Le yantlukwano ezichaphazela ubomi bethu nokuqonda kwethu efanelekileyo. Kodwa, iyantlukwano ngokwesini ababazalayo kuphela isiseko nabanye, uMenzi sikhokelo inkcubeko kunye noluntu, izithethe kunye nemigangatho. Le migangatho - iingcinga ngokwesini - abe nembono ifana iinkolelo eqhelekileyo ukuba siziphathe nendlela kufuneka ibe yintoni amadoda kunye nabasetyhini.

Ezo zikhona kuyo yonke indawo, kodwa kuxhomekeke kuhlobo oluntu, ixesha zembali okanye kwindawo okuyo, tywa izimvo malunga yintoni indima yentlalo kunye nenjongo madoda 'yokwenene "kunye namabhinqa ziyahluka kakhulu. yokusebenza ezinzileyo eqhelekileyo kuyo nayiphi na kuluntu oluthile malunga "libhinqa" olululo 'yindoda' ukuziphatha, injongo yabo, iindima zentlalo kunye nemisebenzi zigqitywa neemeko zentlalo, zenkcubeko, ngokufanelekileyo, yaye zisenokutshintshwa. Nangona ukungafani kwethu kunokunceda, kwaye singaphili, iingcinga ngokwesini badla kunokuthintela uphuhliso ngamnye, kuba ezilindelekileyo ifomu isini, apho abanye abantu wokusilawula, kwaye ukuziphatha kwethu alawule kuthi oko simele kwaye kufuneka bakwenze oku ozilindele umdlalo.

inkcubeko Human ngokwembali savela ngendlela yokuba umahluko phakathi ngokwesini abadlale indima enkulu ngaphezu umehluko ngabanye. Ngaphezu koko, kwi ezingqondweni zikarhulumente psychology zaye esisigxina ufakelo, apho iimpawu ezithile ngokubanzi kunye neempawu ezendeleyo kwindawo ethile amadoda kunye nabafazi (akukho mfuneko yokusetyenziswa ngaphezulu) usebenza kubo bonke obhinqileyo okanye eyindoda. Ngoko ke bakha nemvukelo isini, leyo uthwala iimpawu zebhayoloji lweempawu zokuziphatha kunye nezithethe zentlalo phakathi kwamadoda nabafazi, kwakunye nobudlelwane phakathi kwabo, kwaye oqondela ezi mpawu njengoko enyanzelekileyo. Umzekelo, ukuba umahluko sex ziyalela iintlobo zokuziphatha ukuba abasetyhini bancancise okanye azale, yaye umntu unako wazala umntwana, ezi mpawu ngenxa iingcinga engqondweni, ize idluliselwe nokuziphatha ekuhlaleni. Inkoliso zobulumko ezaziwayo-kakuhle yehlabathi lamandulo zigcinwe iingcinga isini, esithi bendoda - kuyinto esisebenzayo, esebenzayo, ingqiqo, elibalaseleyo, neemazi - yinto akwamkele zezenzi, enobuchwepheshe.

iimbono ezinjalo kwakhokelela zesithethe kwimbono ye zentlalo iindima yabantu onesibindi, womelele, silwe, namabhongo, ekrelekrele, nabafazi neemvakalelo, amandla, nibalulamele, akakwazi ukucinga nzulu. Le kungalingani lisoloko ekhutshelwe intsalela ngokwesini uhlobo okunene idala ukungalingani ngokwesini. Okokuqala, amabhinqa ingqalelo angakwazi ndlela kwande, ulawulo nokubalwa, inzululwazi ezingeyonzalelwane yalapha nocwangco, ngokunjalo yonke into enxulumene benesidima. Okwesibini, ezi nkolelo hlamusela ukungalingani ngamandla, nto leyo aliliso kubo abafazi namadoda, kokubini entsatsheni eluntwini. Ngapha koko, zichaza umfazi njengoko igorha kunye esebenzayo sizithobe nokunika uthando lwakhe kuye njengesipho sokukhuselwa bakhe, kwaye ngexesha elinye njengesidalwa ngubani akukho ukuphatha umkhaya, nokuba urhulumente okanye alahle imali.

iingcinga Gender adla ngokusetyenziswa njenge ileta ebhaliweyo echaza isizathu ubundlobongela obujoliswe kwabasetyhini, njengoko enza imbono egqwethekileyo kwingcingane kwabafazi - ukuba ekuthiwa uyakuthanda kwakhe kakubi, wabethwa, ndihlazekile kwaye badlwengulwa. Nkqu uSigmund Freud wabhala ukuba masochism - umqondiso ubunjalo ababhinqileyo. Iingcinga kule ndawo kunokubangela iingxaki ezinkulu kwezentlalo - bona isizathu sokuba ucalulo ngesondo ngobulungisa, ke, ndayihluthwa isidima abasetyhini kwaye nabo ukuba ingasetyenziswa indima yabo kuthotywa, yaye ke ngoko, ukuba ukunyamezela ubundlobongela kunye ukulwela amalungelo abo.