Kutheni uphuphe elinjengelofileyo? Yi notshintsho kwimozulu okanye utshintsho ebomini bakho?

Kukho iinkolelo ezininzi malunga yintoni ngephupha abafileyo umntu. Umntu ucinga ukuba eli phupha uxela utshintsho yemozulu, yaye umntu ofuna ukukholelwa ukuba umfi uzama into yokulumkisa. Kaloku, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba ekunene nabo kunye nabanye. Makhe sihlolisise izinto amaphupha kwabafileyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Ngapha koko, kukholelwa ukuba nokuba emva kokufa umntu ezama ukuba ukulondoloza kunye nabo babathandayo. Ngokomzekelo, abazali abaye bafa ukuze uhlale kakuhle kwebala kunye nabantwana babo, esiza kuye ephupheni kwi zihlandlo ezininzi ezibalulekileyo. Ngoko ke sokulumkisa ngayo nayiphi na ingozi okanye ukukhumbula into ebalulekileyo.

Kuyo nayiphi na imeko musani, ukoyika ukuba iphupha kwabafileyo umntu, emva kokuba onke la maphupha ngenene ukuba sisiprofeto. Umzekelo, ukuba waphupha umntu ofileyo kunokuba edandathekileyo belusizi, ukuba eneneni kufuneka elungiselelwe ezithile lembandezelo. Ukuba ochwayithileyo umfi kwaye wonwabe, ungalindela utshintsho ebomini elungileyo. Kwakhona kubalulekile kakhulu ukuba ukuphulaphula oko bathi abafileyo ephupheni. Ezinye amaphupha abalinganiswa baye bangakwazi ndinixelela inyaniso, yaye uswelekile idla musa bakopele. Kwakhona ayekholelwa ukuba umbono beza umkhulu emva kwexesha okanye umakhulu, onephupha ibonisa iziganeko ukuba kwixa elizayo iya kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ebomini bakho.

Yintoni enye uthetha incwadi phupha? Umntu ofileyo, ngubani ephupheni onibizela ngokundanga, ngokwanga kwaye azame ukuba baphile, ngaba bangawuhambeli okulungileyo. Icacile ukuba iphupha akusoloko kusenzeka ukuba ukulawula le meko. Nakuba kunjalo, kufuneka uzame ukuba singaweli esilingweni ukubaleka baphume, ukubanga ndaza emva kwabafileyo. Ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza le nto, ngoko uya kukwazi ukuthintela ukufa ngenxa yokugula okanye ingozi. Kwakhona, kuyo nayiphi na imeko akanakuba ephupheni ukunika ukuba umntu ofileyo, nokuba loo mntu ngexesha lokudla kwakhe dear lakho zivaleke. Kodwa uthabathe izipho kwabafileyo Kuyakwazeka futhi, kuba eli phupha uxela ubutyebi nolonwabo, nto leyo kude.

Kutheni iphupha wendoda abafileyo ukubuza uhlobo lwesipho ongathanda ukufumana? Eli liphupha umdla gqitha apho kungcono ukuba igama into ungasekhoyo ezithile. Eneneni, kusenokwenzeka ukuba into efunekayo nguwe ephupheni, eneneni, bekuya kuba akufuneki. Ngoko ke kungcono ukuba sithi ungathanda ukufumana isipho kakuhle kwaye kakhulu eninzi. Kulo mzekelo, akunamsebenzi nokuba yintoni na. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ngenene yonke yakho lalinamandla amaphupha ziya kuzaliseka. Kwaye zonke izinto ziza kuba bhetele wanomfanekiso.

Yaye oko iphupha umntu ofileyo, olele okanye uhamba ze? Eli phupha kunokubonisa ukuba ekugqibeleni wazimisa enye ehlabathini. Umphefumlo wakhe ngonaphakade ndlelantle okusemhlabeni benamaxhala inomvandedwa, akukho nto yawo kuyakhathaza ngakumbi. Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ukuba amaphupha, eyayinesihloko wemka ngcono iphathwa ngenyameko. Ngokomzekelo, oomama abaninzi baye balahlekelwa abantwana babo, ngokufuthi uyakwazi ukubona kuye ephupheni. Kwaye hayi nje rhoqo, kodwa iminyaka emininzi. Kwezi amaphupha, umntwana ekhula, uqala ubomi elizimeleyo. Maxa wambi kuyenzeka ukuba lo mntwana unina ephupheni, esithi ndlela-ntle kuye, ze ucingele ukuba endaweni yokuba kungekudala uza kuba omnye umntwana. Maphupho Badla ngokukhuthaza abantu ukuba babe nalo. Okanye ngesiquphe kwenzeka ukuba umntwana umfi wabalisela umama wakhe malunga nokukhulelwa. Musa litshitshiswe amaphupha, ngokuba wayedla akuyomfuneko ukuwuqonda into uphupha umntu ofileyo, kuba la maphupha okunene kwazisa ngqo malunga okulindeleyo.