Le mifanekiso anganceda abazali babantwana

Abazali abaselula namhlanje basoloko bathuthunjiswe ingxaki efanayo. Le ngxaki iye moya ezimbini ezinxulumeneyo: 1) ukuba simthini na umntwana, ukuze aphazamise ekwenzeni imisebenzi yasekhaya kwaye ukhululeke, kwaye 2) ukuba benze njani na, ngoko akazange va ishiywe yaye ndingathandwa nazo zonke iingxaki umlindi zengqondo. Kuba uSolomon osisilumko wayedla ngokuthi, "Intonga nesohlwayo sinika ubulumko; Ke yena umntwana oyekelelweyo udanisa unina. " Intonga - hayi indlela yethu, kodwa ukuba jonga malunga abahlobo kunye nabazana qiniseka ukufumana ntsapho apho abantwana bohlwaywa bahlukunyezwa ngakumbi eqhotyoshelweyo eya kubazali babo ngaphezu kwezo ntsapho apho mpatswa into ngaphandle nje imfundo vice. Kodwa akukho malunga namhlanje. Eyona nto kukuba abantwana bashiya ngasemva ngabazali ngokuqinisekileyo kanye wenza 'ihlazo unina. "

Kwaye ke phakathi amatyala kunye abantwana kufuneka ukuba babe nesimilo esihle abantwana. Oku, kungekhona enganobungozi ishishini. Ngaba ukhe wazama ukusebenzisa njengendlela yokuphumeza oku imifanekiso injongo abantwana? Sithi indlela hayi namhlanje okanye izolo. Kulungile ke kuba ingakufuni naliphi na ixesha imali eninzi kwaye idla, iphuhlisa ukuyila, ubuchule bokucinga komntwana nomzali, izisa enye ukuya kwenye, ukuba siqonde ngcono omnye komnye, yaye vice versa. Kwaye okuninzi kunye nentshukumo ethile elula ebizwa ngokuba 'imifanekiso abafanele ukuqwebela abantwana. "

Qala ukufundisa kule game mntwana wam bhetele ukusuka ezalwa. indawo ukuzazi, kodwa iluncedo kakhulu abantwana iyahambelana imithambo. Ukwenza imithambo kunye nemiqhathane, tsalela zonke iintshukumo: "Oko gusenichka aqala. Owu, indlela gusenichka! "," Amaphiko Butterfly wendiza. Yintoni ibhabhathane omhle, njengoko unako swing amaphiko! "," Le nomthi osandul 'ukutyalwa olukhulayo ngokunyuka. Kwaye ngoku umthi njengokuhexa umoya. " Yaye phantse Akukhathaliseki ukuba ezinye intshukumo ayikho embhoxo into ibiza umama, ngoko bhetele, musa ukuvumela thina iingcinga ukuba bagqwese indlela abacinga ngayo umntwana wethu.

Xa ke ixesha elinzima ezinxulumene nesibakala sokuba umntwana wema waza wavuka ngaphezulu inkululeko lwesithuba kunanini na ngaphambili, nokwandisa ithuba kulingisa. Ezi izigcawu abantwana kwifomu imidlalo yonopopi ngayo. Ababukeli musa mfuneko, ngoko bonke abathathi-nxaxheba. Umzekelo, kuya kuba luncedo kule holo yobudala fingerling. Nyuka imizobo, ezihlekisayo ukuze abantwana abakule minyaka yobudala, akunzima. Ngamana usana ebambelele iminwe yonina, "enxibe" ku oonopopi, kunye nomama wakhe ucacisa, ngokweemvakalelo yaye ngokucacileyo kunaye Akwenzayo ngoku, "Vanya ufuna ukudibana ne Tosha. - Hello Tosh, - uthi Vanya. - Aw-aw - idibana Tosh ".

Ibali umntu amaziyo Vanya kunye Toshi kungaba waphinda ngaphandle kompleksuya malunga yokuba akukho okunye Bacinge, nokuba, sicinga ukuba akukho funny kunjalo, umbuzo kweliwaka. Oku neze eyoyikisayo--ubudala ezifana uphinda, vunywa njenge mntu ukuphindaphindwa isenzo esithile.

Uya kubona oku xa iinyanga ezintandathu kamva - uya unokukunyanzela unyaka ukwenza into efanayo izihlandlo eziliwaka. Kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu zeempendulo zakho miniatures kumabala emidlalo ungakwazi sele ubomi eneenkcukacha kakhulu ngakumbi. Ukuba umama okanye utata awunalo energy nangezakhono ngokwakho ukuba ucinga ngento (nangona kulula - khumbula nje oko kwenzekayo namhlanje ngexesha ukuhamba, umzekelo, kwaye ufake kwi ukuba umbala elincinane), ngoko xa ukulahlwa kwabo ababhali abantwana creative ngayo . Kwaye hayi abantwana nje. Kakuhle umdlalo, umzekelo, phantse ulibele sesi sizukulwana Mayakovsky mbongo "Yintoni okulungileyo kokubi."

Kungcono noko, yintoni "ezilungileyo" yintoni "okubi" IBhayibhile ichaza. Kwe Kukho. Kwiminyaka emithathu, abantwana bayakwazi ukuhlola nangezenzo. Qala iincam abazali ke wena. Bible ngaphezu akukho ncwadi isifundisa aphathe olunovelwano iintshukumisa zokuziphatha kwabantu. Kamva, xa umntwana afunde ukucamngca njani, oko kuya kuba lula ukuba senze ukhetho phakathi "ezilungileyo" "nokubi." Singasathethi into yokuba kweengokuhlwa esichithwe kunye nosapho, imidlalo kunye skits abantwana - oko nanto kwi nobungakanani nomgangatho ixesha ulonwabo.