Ukujonga njani ngenyanga: kuthetha ngesihloko esithandanayo

Amantombazana asebuntwaneni, ababenokuqala ukuba neenwele zabo kuqala, bahlala becela abantu abadala ukuba bajonga njani amadoda. Ewe, ukuba bayakwazi ukuchaza okokuya esikhathini, kodwa ibali liphela liphela ibali liphela ngebali malunga neentlungu zasendle kwisisu esisezantsi kunye nebala elizama ukuhlamba iimpahla.

Nangona intombazana ingaqondanga ukuba ixesha lifikile ekufikeni komntwana, inxaxheba yesikhokelo kwimijikelezo yokuya esikhathini kukuthatha umama okanye ugogo. Cacisa umntwana ukuba akufanele uloyike xa ufumana iziphazamiso. Mxelele ukuba ubuntwaneni sele buphelile, kwaye uqala ukuqala ubomi obuninzi, apho kukho imithetho ethile yokuziphatha.

Buza intombi okanye umzukulu: "Ziyabukeka njani iinyanga zenyanga?" Makhe azame ukukuchazela oko akuvakalelwa ngeli gama: ukucaphuka, ukungakhathaleli, umdla okanye ukuhlazeka. Ukuba ngeminyaka eyi-12-13 intombazana icinga ukuba yintoni ukuya esikhathini, ingxoxo eqhubekayo ayiyi kuyenza intloni. Kuya kuba ngcono xa ubonisa ngokucacileyo i-tampon, kodwa ingeyona yinyani, kodwa ikhwebu. Mema umntwana ukuba agcwalise isikhala samahhala kunye nemicu ebomvu aze amxelele ukuba igazi libukeka njani linokubonakala kwiingubo zakhe.

Ukuba akukho ntambo ekhoyo okanye awukwazi ukudibanisa, ngoko xa uthetha malunga nendlela iifoto zenyanga ezibukeka ngayo, iifoto kwiphepha lezonyango liya kuza. Nika intombazana ihekethi ezandleni kwaye uphakamise ukubambelela entendeni phezu kobuso bayo. Intombazana kufuneka iveze ukunyameka kwendlela yokucoceka, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kucinga ngokukrakra malunga nomhla apho uya kukulungiselela kuyo.

Ukukhululeka kokukhululeka kwimihla kuphele iintsuku ezingama-2-3. Qiniseka ukuba utshele intombi yakho malunga nayo ukuze angabi naluvalo xa ejonga ngasese. Mfundise ukuba azihlambe ngoncedo lweendlela ezizodwa aze anakekele umzimba ngexesha lokuya esikhathini. Bonisa ukuba uluphi ulwaphulo lwezonyango ozithathayo, ubuninzi kunye nento oyenzayo, ukuba ayisebenzi. Intombazana kufuneka iqonde ukuba kuphela ugqirha uyakwazi ukumnceda, kungekhona isiluleko samantombazana angenamava.

Umntwana akumele azi nje ngokujonga kwenyanga, kodwa kwakhona uhlele ishedyuli yokubonakala kwawo. Kwiintengiso ezinjalo iithebula zithengiswa, ukuze ukwazi ukufundisa lula intombi yakho ukuba izalise. Ukuba umntwana wakho uzama ukubuza abadayisi bemveliso abamdlayo, bayigweba ngesandla. Ngelo xesha, sixelele malunga neentsuku ezingamashumi amabini anesibhozo kunye nokungahambisani kwayo. Intombazana kufuneka ikwazi ukuba umjikelezo wokuya esikhathini ayixhomekeke kuphela kwiimeko zempilo yakhe, kodwa nakwiimeko zokusingqongileyo, ngoko ukubonakala kokuphuma kwegazi ngexesha leentsuku ezingama-21 emva kokuqala kokuya esikhathini, kunoko, kusemgangathweni kunokuphambuka.

Isixa segazi esilahlekile ngexesha lokuya esikhathini siya kufakwa kwi-50 ukuya kwii-mililiters, ngoko kunye nolwazi malunga nendlela amaxesha abukeka ngayo, umntwana wakho kufuneka afunde ukuba ilahleko elincinci libuyiselwa ngokukhawuleza ngumzimba.

Qiniseka ukuba uthethe nentombi yakho malunga nokuba ubomi bakhe bobulili bobudlelwane bobulili obuhlukile buya kudibaniswa nabameli bobulili obuhlukile, ngoko ulwalamano olusondeleyo lwabantwana abasenamava ngolunye ixesha luphela ekukhulelweni okungafunekiyo. Ukuze ugweme imiphumo emibi emva kokukhipha isisu, qalisa ukuxelela intombazana malunga nokukhulelwa komzimba.