Uyakusikelela njani kwaye unokusikelela njani unyana wakho ngaphambi komtshato

Ngoko, umfana osemncinci, onamandla nesigxina, wagqiba ukutshata, wathenga indandatho, wathetha amagama amathathu athandekileyo "nditshata," wamkela impendulo enhle ... Ngoku ihlala nje kuphela ukufumana imvume yabazali. Indlela ongayibusisa ngayo unyana ngaphambi komtshato, wonke umama kufuneka aqonde, kuba isi siqhelo sasendulo sisebalulekile. Kukho nawuphi na umdala isigqibo esinjalo, kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba sinokuphikisana kangakanani-amagama ahlukanayo kubazali abaluleke kakhulu kubini ababini banquma ukubopha iqhina. Nazi iindlela ezimbalwa zokusikelela unyana wakho ngaphambi komtshato.

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Emva kokuba unyana etshele abazali bakhe ukuba wayebandakanyekile, kwaye nabo baxhasa isigqibo sakhe, unina noyise kufuneka bajonge isibini esitshatileyo ubomi obonwabileyo, babasikelele indlela yabo yentsapho kunye ne icon. Ngenxa yale njongo ilandelayo yenziwa: abazali abane icon kwizandla zabo bawela unyana kunye nesithandwa sakhe kathathu. Ukuba awukwazi ukuba yiyiphi imbonakalo inentsikelelo yonyana wakho, ngoko ungathatha uphawu lwe "Kazan Mother of God" okanye "uMsindisi Ongenziwanga Ngezandla". Isibheno esinjalo kuMdali siya kwenza ukuba lo mtshato uvuyo kwaye uzaliswe uthando lukaThixo nenceba.

Ukuhleleka okuhle

Enye indlela yokusikelela ngokufanelekileyo unyana ukuba ilula, kwaye iququze kwingxoxo elula, entle kwimiphefumlo yabazali kunye nabantu abatsha. Njengomthetho, abazali banamava abathandekayo kubomi bentsapho kwaye banokubelana ngokukhawuleza, banike iingcebiso ezilungileyo kunye namazwi okuhlukana. Incoko enjalo njengendlela yokusikelela unyana ngaphambi kokuba umtshato ungabalulekanga kwaye ujikeleze izithandwa ezinokufudumala, uxolo kunye nokunyamekela. Amazwi enobubele anjalo evela kumama noyise abonakalisa uthando lwabo kwaye acebise ihlabathi elingaphakathi labantwana babo, awanike ukhuseleko kwaye athabathe intlungu ebomini babo.

Lindela ixesha elithile

Ngokuqhelekileyo umbuzo uvela: "Indlela ongayibusisa ngayo unyana wakho ngaphambi komtshato, ukuba awuyixhasi isigqibo sakhe okanye awuhlali ujabule ngokukhetha kukhethiweyo?" Impendulo ilula kakhulu: linda kancane, zinike ixesha kunye nabantwana bakho. Mhlawumbi ngexesha zonke izinto ziza kuhlaselwa: ukukhetha okungazi kakuhle kuya kudixeka unyana wakho okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kukhathazwa ngokukhetha kwakhe okulungileyo.

Ngomhla womtshato

Kwakhona abazali abafanele bawulibale malunga nomzuzu obalulekileyo njengentsikelelo yonyana ngaphambi komtshato ngaphambi kokushiya indlu ngosuku lombhiyozo. Kulo thuba, abazali bangalungiselela intetho ehlelwe ngaphambili. Lo mzuzu obaluleke kakhulu kumyeni, ekubeni ukususela kumandulo yakudala indoda, insikelelo yentsapho ibonwa njengemvume esemthethweni yokwenza intsapho yakho.

Ewe, ukwenza loo mboniso okanye akunjalo umcimbi womntu ngamnye. Kodwa asimele sikhohlwe ukuba umtshato uyisiganeko esigcinwe ngokuhambelana nemigangatho ethile kunye namasiko. Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo kwakukholelwa ukuba umtshato ongekho intsikelelo uyenza intsapho encinci kwimpilo engonwabanga. Ngako oko, ngamanye amaxesha abantu abatsha bazama ukufumana "imvume" evela kubazali babo sele sele emva komtshato, ukwenzela ukuba bangayigxeki intsapho yabo entsha ngenxa yentlungu kunye nentlungu. Ngokukodwa ngokukodwa, uMama noTata bafanele bathathe umcimbi wendlela yokusikelela ngayo unyana wabo ngaphambi komtshato, ukuba yena kunye nomntu akhethiweyo bakhetha ukutshata ecaweni, ukudibanisa isigqibo sabo phambi koThixo.