Indlela ukubazolisa abantwana hysterics?

Bonke abazali badla ngokujongana umntwana zomntwana wakhe. Ngamanye amaxesha abantwana "Ikonsathi" nangxola yaye ixesha njengoko ukugcina uzibambile kakhulu kunzima ... Indlela ukubazolisa umntwana hysterics? Yaye ngaba kunokwenzeka yonke? Eli nqaku uyifundayo ngoku isekelwe kwi eziliqela iinkalo ngengqondo ocoliweyo nogqirha Ray Levy, nto leyo kakhulu efikelelekayo ucacisela abazali ukuthuthuzela njani abantwana abafumana wayevele.

abantwana bethu okwangoku aphuhliswe ngokwaneleyo ukuze ugcine iimvakalelo neminqweno phantsi kolawulo. Awu, Ityhwatyhwa - ebuntwaneni ngemfanelo. Ke yena wachaza nje: usana lwakho unento umnqweno wakhe. Abantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka emibini ubudala, iingxaki zolwimi, fane - indlela yokunxibelelana malunga neemfuno mzuzu ( "Nika into yokudlala", "Ndifuna ukuba ndisele," "yiya kulala", "ukutshintsha ilweyile"). abantwana abadala baye bavakalisa inkcaso kwabo ukulila. Ukuba sele bazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni abafuna, kwaye sikwazi ukuvakalisa iminqweno ngamazwi. Ntoni ke ukuba uthe akwavuma? Injalo loo nto - uqale memeza ndize ndikhale. Yintoni ekufuneka umoya usana lwakho?

1. Funda ngoyaba umntwana wabo. Man ngexesha azifune ngetshova alukho ngokwayo. Iimvakalelo zicinezelwa ndawo zobuchopho onoxanduva uvavanyo eyaneleyo kwezigqibo. Awunayo ukuphucula imeko kule kwimizuzu. Zonke iinjongo zakho elungileyo kuya kubangela Usenokuzingomb entsha neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo. Vumela umntwana ukumkhulula umsindo, njengoko umphunga. Akukho mfuneko kumphazamisa. Vykrichavshis, umntwana wakho uya kuqalisa kwakhona ukulawula iingcinga zakho, yaye uya kukwazi ukuthetha ngaphandle bekhwaza kunye noxinzelelo.

2. Kumphazamisa umntwana. Baby ungasoloko sinikele into eyahlukileyo - nkqu ebhegini yakho zokudlala, izinto ezincinane okumnandi, le ncwadi. Into ke ngokuqinisekileyo unomdla umntwana. Ukuze ukwazi ukuba akwenze abantwana, kufuneka, kodwa kungcono ukuba 'ukubamba' ekuqaleni babesaba - kweli thuba kusekho umntwana wakho "imisebenzi" ubambe ingqalelo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ukunxibelelana umntwana ethethela ukuziqinisa ngokwenene. Hi ndlela leyi, basebenze kunye meko: inja, ikati, imoto, intyatyambo eliqaqambileyo. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo - ixesha yokutshintshela ingqalelo.

3. Kufuneka siqonde ukuba yintoni na ngokwenene umntwana ikruqula kangaka. Ingakumbi kumayelana abantwana abangakhange uwagqibile amashumi amabini. Isigama bona yayisathe ezincinane, unxibelelwano lilincinane, kodwa kukho iingcinga, iminqweno kunye neemfuno zikhule. Ukuba umntwana wamqonda, uba uyaphazamiseka, ikhuphe ingqumbo. Apha uyakwazi ukunceda lwezandla ulwimi. Kakade ebonisa nje ngomnwe kumba olifunayo wenza imimangaliso.

4. Ukwanga umntwana. "Mhlawumbi eli xesha akuyi lako, kodwa, kholwa ndim, ukuba kuza kukunceda ngokwenene ukuthoba usana lwakho!" Kwaye amalungelo bakaLevi. Kuphela nje akukho esentlungwini, yaye omelele, ezinkulu. Yenza oku cwaka, okanye kungenjalo kuya kufuneka kwakhona inxaxheba abalinganiswa imfazwe ongenangqondo.

5. Mkhuthaze umntwana wakho ukuba ukutya okanye ukuphumla. Levy, ethetha malunga nendlela ukubazolisa abantwana, wakhankanya umntwana ezimbini ezinkulu umnyele - indlala okanye ukudinwa. Ngeli xesha, umntwana wakho sele elunxwemeni, kunye negalelo encinane ngokweemvakalelo ukulungele entsha umsindo. Nawe, nazo, udikwa ngokukhawuleza ngakumbi xa ulambile okanye ulale kakuhle. Musa ukulibala ukuba kwiimvuthuluka nzima ukulawula iimvakalelo.

6. Bakhuthaze. Into kubangele ubuhlungu (imi ebandleni, ehleli phezu ibhasi, belinde emgceni) ukuba bacinezelwa isithembiso umvuzo ngenxa yokuziphatha kakuhle. Yicinge nje uhlobo sicengo. ukunyoba ezinjalo bathi, kodwa iimeko kufuneka bizela kuwe. Ukuba umntwana uza baphumle, khumbuza loo kutshanje bagqiba "isivumelwano".

7. Thetha ngokuzolileyo. ilizwi lakho axakane uya mandundu kuphela Ityhwatyhwa.

8. Beka uncumo imperturbable ye-Mona Lisa. Abantwana smart kwaye siziva ungaziva. Ukuba ngebhaqo uya iingxaki entsatsheni okanye sinikezele, ukuvumela umntwana wakho ukuze ufumane isandla asentla, ukuze ukutsala ingqalelo yabanye ukuba benze izigcawu, cinga ukuba ulahlekelwe: umntwana wakho ukuba ngokukhawuleza bana phandle yintoni na esebenzileyo nokuba kutheni. Qiniseka ukuba usana qiniseka ukuba ashiye indlela esemthethweni kwinkonzo. Hi ndlela leyi, uphando lubonisa ukuba abantu abasabela ngazo enokubacaphukisa womntwana, kwaye abasabela ngayo abazali. Ngoko ke, bazole ngokwangaphandle, ubize ekugwetyweni yoluntu, nokuba umntwana wakho ekhala esitratweni.

9. Susani mntwana. utshintsho bume rhoqo kuyayitshintsha indlela yokuziphatha.

Njengoko ubona, impendulo yombuzo yendlela ukubazolisa abantwana, ilula: zama ukujonga ihlabathi amehlo iimvuthuluka ukuqonda kwaye uzive akufunayo kunye neemfuno. Thatha icebiso lethu, kungekhona nje isikhokelo inyathelo, nendlela ukucinga malunga nesihloko.