Omama Umbuzo kunye abazali: "Xa umntwana eqalisa ukuba ukuncuma?"

Uncumo umntwana oselula - oko kusoloko kancinane iqela ngenxa umama wakhe, utata kunye nootatomkhulu. Yaye yintoni na malunga uncumo lokuqala sithi - wayefana isipho esivela ezulwini, umvuzo ebusuku kunye nokusebenza nzima umzali. Xa umntwana eqalisa ukuba ukuncuma? Kwakutheni ukuze benze njalo, lo gama i-ubudala yommelwane efanayo ukupha zonke encumile? Le mibuzo eziphakanyiswe ngabazali abaninzi abaselula. Phezu kwabo, siya kuzama ukuphendula kweli nqaku.

Ncuma somntwana - ukuba isiganeko nice usapho nje, kodwa sisalathisi uphuhliso oluqhelekileyo engqondweni, ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni, ngokwasentlaweni yokuqala umntwana. Ngoko ke, ixesha xa umntwana eqalisa ukuba ndincume ngengqiqo, kukho uhlobo kwinyathelo elilandelayo kwindlela ende yophuhliso lwayo.

"Umntwana wam waqalisa encuma naye esibhedlele!" - bathi komama ezininzi. Musa ukuthatha amagama abo ngentliziyo. Into abayibiza uncumo, grimace nje, nokuncipha zingqondweni zezihlunu ezithile, elijongeka ngoncumo.

Ukuphendula nabazali abachaphazelekayo kwi umba yimbonakalo uncumo yokuqala abazi usana olo, wezifo Ndizakuyibiza kweminyaka iinyanga 1.5-2. Intetho uncumo ngokuqhelekileyo nomama (okanye umntu, indawo yayo). Kuxhomekeke kwimeko iimvuthuluka, ukuba ecaleni umntwana kubazali abagcina sinxulumene naye khathalela, kaninzi kuthatha phezu kwezandla zakhe, kususela kwimihla yokuqala, ukugcina iliso kunye zoqhagamshelwano ilizwi, uqala ndincume kwangethuba kwiiveki ezi-6. Ukuba umntwana anikwe ingqalelo ngaphantsi, kuya kwenzeka iinyanga kuphela ezimbini okanye ke kamva. Ngoko ke musa utyhafe ukuba umntwana wakho uncuma inyanga, ungakhathazeki ngayo. Kufuneka nje ukuba ulinde.

Xa umntwana eqalisa ukuba ndincume, singathetha ngayo ukuyilwa kwento ekuthiwa-bakhe ukuvuselela ezintsonkothileyo. Oku basabele kunye motor usana ukuphendula inkangeleko okanye isibheno kuye omdala. Iqala ukuyilwa zakhiwo xa eneminyaka iiveki ezintathu ukususela ekuzalweni: umntwana zokumisa kwaye akubheka ngenyameko, xa ejongene incoko yabantu abadala. Kamva, iinyanga ezimbini, le indlela uguquguquka ibe uncumo, Gulen kunye umsebenzi weentshukumo xa usebenza nabantu abadala. ukubunjwa Incopho ukuba ukuvuselelwa complex - kwiminyaka nyanga-emine. Kamva, kukho ukuhleka, kodwa uncumo ngaphantsi yaye ngaphantsi aye abasemzini, nakuba labo ububele ethetha umntwana, ngokufuthi ebeya bakhale kwiimeko ezinjalo.

Ukugweba zingaphi iinyanga umntwana uyancuma, sinako ukuba ngomlinganiselo othile ukuba kugweba umoya entsatsheni, ngokubhekiselele unina, ukuchaza iimvakalelo. Nokuba ucinga ukuba umntwana akayiqondi into, thetha naye, ukuze ukukhawulezisa intetho yakhe ingqondo-iimvakalelo: iya kuqala phambi gulit, encumile.

Iingcali zithi amakhwenkwe mancinane amathuba ukujonga emehlweni am kwaye uqale ukuncuma emva bondlekile ngaphezu kweentanga zabo intombi. Ngoko ke wena, xa ekhula nyana, ukunika ixesha ukunxibelelana naye.

Ixesha apho umntwana eqalisa ukuba ndincume, inokuba isigqibo kuphuhliso ulwalamano lwakhe kunye noyise. Itakane iqala ukuthumela iimpawu, yaye ukuba uyise uphendula nembonakalo bakhe yobuso kunye ilizwi, ukuseka iqhina ekhethekileyo ngokweemvakalelo phakathi kwabo, kwanokuba oko ngaphambili kwakungenjalo.

Ngengomso xa umntwana wakho uqalisa encuma, kuba sisiqalo senkqubo elide, kodwa umdla ebomini bakhe - elihle kwezentlalo.