Kwemiqobo

Bonke wasamkelayo ngokwazisa le ngcaciso siyazi, ngamava ethu, izibonelelo ezikhoyo, kunye njengokuba bemilo ngayo ngokunxulumene lethu luluvo ukuba interlocutor. Amaxesha amaninzi akeva leswi ukugqithisa iqabane lethu. Amaninzi nje ngokuchanekileyo aveze iimbono zakhe akunakwenzeka ngokupheleleyo ngenxa iimvakalelo nophuphumayo. imiqobo ezinjalo, okukhokelela ukudideka kwaye kube nzima ukunxibelelana inzuzo nolonwabo - oku imiqobo yonxibelelwano.

iintlobo zezithintelo

Kukho iindidi ezininzi iimpawu, leyo zihlelwe njengoko kwemiqobo. Siza sixoxe ngawo iinkcukacha zokuhlelwa ekhoyo, kodwa kuphela umnxeba uze uchaze ezivame.

1. Izithintelo umbono

Ezi imiqobo kunxibelelwano, ezifana isithintelo intetho, okuvelayo kuqala, kunye nabanye abaninzi. Kakuhle, simele sibe nako ukubonisa ngokucacileyo iimbono zabo. Amagama, ingakumbi kunxibelelwano ishishini, kufuneka kubekho ngokusengqiqweni kufanelekile, kunye nendlela ukuthetha - nokuzethemba. I ngcono isithethi ulawula iimvakalelo zakhe, kokukhona ukuba uya kukwazi na ukudlulisela into afuna ukuyithetha. Ukongezelela, iimpawu ezifana amagama nga ezonakalisa imbonakalo nayiphi na intetho elungiselelwe kakuhle, yaye kuyakukuqhwalelisa ukuqonda yayo. Ukuba nobabini unomdla dialogue, omnye kuya kufuneka ukuba ziziqhelanise awohluke zentetho, kwaye eyesibini kufuneka acinge ukusebenza kwi inkalo eziyingxaki (kwiiklasi ubuciko, umsebenzi inkuthazo kunye owayendifundisa ukuthetha).

Kudla kwemiqobo esinokubakho ngenxa uluvo lokuqala (lidla ngokuba umqondiso non-ngomlomo) xa unxibelelwano olululo kuthintela sengqondo ityala ngokungeyomfuneko esibi ukuya interlocutor. Njengoko kungabangela kakuhle ukungathandi iimpawu ezithile sangaphandle iqabane loshishino, kodwa kufuneka uyazi ukuba kufuneka kuchaphazela isifundo ingxoxo yakho.

nempembelelo njengoko ufakelo ezikhoyo, ukutyhefa kwimbono ulwazi. Thina a eyahlukileyo inkqubo amaxabiso neentsingiselo ezahlukeneyo ilizwi elifanayo. Ukuba uyazazi umahluko okhoyo phakathi kwakho nomnye umntu, kwaye ungamsa ingqalelo (oko kukuthi, sebenzisa kucace kumntu omnye kunye ilizwi echanekileyo), izithintelo zonxibelelwano ziya inxenye ukuzoyisa.

Ngokwahlukeneyo, ungenza chaza oku kukwenza umgangatho wonxibelelwano njengoko bokungakwazi ukumamela kwaye ezendeleyo zonke zive nocococ, siva ukuba sifuna ukuva.

2. Izithintelo intsebenziswano

Le miqobo ngokwasengqondweni kunxibelelwano athe anxulunyaniswa izizathu ezahlukeneyo, isikhundla yokuziphatha, inqanaba lobuchule kunye nesimbo thethwano. Ngoko ke, kunzima ukwazi ukunxibelelana kwindoda olindele ukuqhagamshelana nawe ube nemiphumo emihle kakhulu. Ke ukuba ubani iqwalasele ukusombulula ingxaki ethile, kunye nezinye - on kwincoko bengasebenzi, incoko akakwazi ukwanelisa zombini. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kucetyiswa ukuba ukuchonga kwangoko iinjongo zabo.

Kunzima ngokulinganayo ukufumana ulwimi kunye abo kwinqanaba lobuchule lo mbandela yahlukile kakhulu, nto leyo okruqulayo kakhulu kwaye zibe njengesizathu ukunxibelelana konke konke.

3. Izithintelo sizive sikhathazekile

Ezi ziquka imiqobo njani kunxibelelwano ezivela phantsi kwempembelelo ntshikilelo nzulu kunye neziganeko enzima, xa umntu sele ukufotokopa okuxoxa kude umfowunelwa, kunye nezithintelo ezibangelwa iimvakalelo ezinamandla (umsindo, fear). ifuthe elibi nobudlelwane nabanye kunye izakhiwo ezinzulu neemvakalelo ezingakhiyo (ezifana ihlazo okanye ityala), kwaye ungatyhilekanga, leyo kuba nje ezidlulayo kodwa "esinganyangekiyo."

Unga bhala amaqela amaninzi kunye neentlobo imiqobo kunxibelelwano, kodwa zicinywe ngasinye kuzo, ngokuxhomekeke ukubaluleka komntu othile wena kunye neenjongo zakho intsebenziswano ukuzikhethela: ungazama ukuza nazigqibo kulo meko, okanye ukwala ukunxibelelana kwaphela. Kukho iimeko apho njengomqobo lupheliswe ukuba unomdla kuyo omabini amaqabane.

Ukuba une ngokwaneleyo self-ukugxeka, yaye uvakalelwa kukuba unobangela le miqobo yezenzo zakho, ke wena sele isiqingatha-indlela eya emzimbeni yabo. Musa ukuba livila ukusebenza baze bacele uncedo umntu onokukunceda nale.