Le phansi ezintsonkothileyo Overcoming yayo

Kwiimeko ezininzi, kukho yanto kwi yabantwana abasaqalayo ke ukufuna umntu bonke ubomi bakhe, kwakunye uloyiko zabantwana, nto leyo esele umntu omdala kunzima ukulwa. Oludale ilizwi elithethwe kwidilesi umntwana phambi kwakhe malunga ngembonakalo, ubuchule, ngeempawu kunokuba basisiseko ekumiselwe kuso le kamva ukwakha isakhiwo enamandla kunaye. Maxa wambi igama elinye, kodwa cinga imeko xa kwenzeka izihlandlo ezininzi ngosuku kwaye sihlala ukuba ngaphezu konyaka omnye? Akumangalisi ke, abantu ngisho elithile babeqhele kule imeko emncinane, ukungakhuseleki, kwaye kulula ukushiya yonke into njengoko kwenzekileyo, ukuba alwe, ukuba balahlekelwe kancinane ukuba ngelo xesha.

Kwelinye icala, ukuba yinto yanto edudulela abantu abaninzi ukufikelela phezulu amatsha umsebenzi wakho, imfundo, ubugcisa njalo njalo. Kuthini na ke ngoko kuphosakele? Enoba eziphakamileyo bengekafiki abantu, loo nto iya kuba kukholiswa kunye naye, yaye ngenxa yoko ke akanako nayo inzaliseko ulonwabo kunye iziyolo kwempumelelo amatsha kunye nempumelelo. Kungani na ke ukuba le mpumelelo?

umntu omnye kuphela wonwabile yaye anelisekile ebomini babo, nto leyo ilawulwa yiminqweno yabo. Kukho ingongoma ebalulekileyo kakhulu: akunakwenzeka ukuba aqonde iminqweno nezenzo zabo phantsi yengcinezelo ndingento yanto njengoko iminqweno yakho yokwenene okwenyaniso. Ukuze uqonde oku, zibuze umbuzo: "Ukuba hayi kunomyeni entsonkothileyo yam, ndingathanda ukwenza okanye ukufezekisa." Kakade ke, ukuba kunokwenzeka, ngeli xesha uthi "ewe", kodwa ke uluvo namkhethe, njengokuba awukwazi ukucinga ubomi bam ngaphandle kweli ezintsonkothileyo. Yonke into isalamane, kwaye musa ukuthelekisa, ngoko ke sigqibo ngokwalo. Noko ke, oku akuthethi ukuba ichanekile!

Kukho enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo - abantu nje ngeke wazi ukuba waba ezintsonkothileyo okanye nzima ukuzama ukuba ukwamkela oku: "Mna ndingento yanto? Suka! Oko akuyi kubakho! ". Into yokuba kuphela abambalwa mahala izakhiwo, inkoliso yabantu abachatshazelwa kubo shiyana. Phendula ngokunyaniseka le mibuzo ilandelayo:

Ndiyayithanda ukubukeka?
Mna ndicinga ukuba okrelekrele?
Ndithanda ukunxibelelana nabantu?
Ndizithanda nam?
Mna ngokwam uyazihlonela?

Ukuba le mibuzo iphendulwa negative, oku kuthetha ukuba kukho yanto! Kodwa ulwazi ngxaki kunye nokwazisa ukuba sikhona - 80% izigqibo zayo, ukuba asingabo bonke 95%.

Inyathelo elilandelayo ukuqonda isizathu sokuba kubekho ndingento yanto, libeyise kufuneka ibe usukelo lwakho. Ngubani na wabeka nanku ezintsonkothileyo, apho akabonakalanga, isizathu real - ukuba ndinganithandi wena. Le nyaniso elula yaziwa bonke, kodwa ngeenkani siqhubeka yokucima icala layo. njani na kuwa eluthandweni, ukuba ndinganithandi wena? Ngubani na oya ukuhlonipha ukuba ucinga ukuba abanakuze intlonelo? Abo banqwenela ukuya ukuqhagamshelana nawe, ukuba wowudela wena uze ucinge wena jerk? Ukuba bethana wakho, kutheni ulinde ukuqonda kunye uthando kwabanye?

izakhiwo K kufuneka zithathwe kakhulu, bona akakwazi ngoyaba okanye benze ngathi azikho. Ngabo bazise umntu noxinzelelo, lithemba kunye azibulale. Ngaphandle ekusombululeni ingxaki, u mandundu kuphela.

Khumbula, wena - umntu ekhethekileyo! Wena - an indalo emangalisayo, ubuhle bakho wahlukile kwaye egqibeleleyo! Love ngokwakho - yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye akukho malunga ukuzingca, yaye ngokwam ukuhlonipha njengomntu, unako uthando, ukuba wenze okulungileyo nokunika ulonwabo kwabanye. Wena - intwana kwalo eli hlabathi; yena wayengekho ngaphandle kwakho kuya kuba mnandi kakhulu! Ube nenjongo enye - ukuba wonwabe!

Ekugqibeleni, khumbula omnye esithi odumileyo: "Phatha abantu indlela ongathanda ukuba bazenze kuwe." Phinda ngayo: "Zonwabise ngendlela ongathanda ukuba isicelo kuwe enye." Kwaye xa uqonde umahluko, ihlabathi liphela kuvula phambi kwakho!