Elisezantsi ukuzithemba kunye ukulwa njani

Ngokutsho bengqondo, esona sizathu siphambili ezininzi iingxaki zomntu mihla inokuba kakuhle phantsi nokuzixabisa. Makhe siphande manani. Kubonakala ukuba kwihlabathi-80% yabemi akuthethi ukuhlangabezana ubume babo emsebenzini okanye isikhundla ekuhlaleni. Ngayiphi indlela? Ewe, a lot of yintoni! Umzekelo, ukungakwazi ukufumana umsebenzi olungileyo, okanye ukuba ukujongana yokuzonwabisa engathandwa kwaye uyadika, ezinye ezijongene rhoqo neengxaki entsatsheni, ngoxa abanye basokola ngenxa ubulolo okanye ubuchule kufezeke. indoda Diffident kunzima ukufumana ulwimi nabanye, yaye, njengoko umthetho, kuxhomekeke iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ukucalulwa.

Yintoni ukwenza ntoni? Zonke iingcali ngazwilinye bathi ukuba bazimisele ukuba babe sempilweni kwaye wonwabe, aninako ukwenza nantoni na ngaphandle indlela yokujamelana self-kwamathandabuzo.

Kweli nqaku, ndithanda ukuba atyhile kakuhle eli ingxaki, zalatha imvelaphi imvelaphi yayo, kwakunye ukunika amanye amacebiso ngendlela ukuze sibe nesibindi, izigqibo, kwaye ke uya konwaba ngakumbi.

Low-ukuzithemba self. le nkcazelo

Sonke, kwaye ngaphandle ukuba sibe lapha, ndiyacinga, akakwazi, kukho ekuthiwa-umfanekiso kweyakhe "Mna", nto leyo nje kwaye ingqalelo embindini ubuntu. Of oko luqulathe ntoni? Ndingathi kuqala kwiinto zonke ukusuka ukumelwa ifanelekileyo ngokwakhe, yaye oku ukuzoyikisela, njengoko umthetho, vika ngenyameko kakhulu naluphi na uhlobo ukugxekwa.

Entliziyweni, ngamnye kuthi ukuqinisekisa imfezeko wayo, ukubaluleka kunye nentsusa. Kutheni? Ewe, ngenxa yokuba abantu nje ababa nakuhlala ukuba ibikholosile ngokupheleleyo ukungafaneleki yam, nokungancedi lutho. Oko kukuthi, ekuqaleni ngamnye kuthi semvelo iimpahla ezithile kwetalente kunye nokuzithemba ukoyisa iingxaki. Kodwa, inyaniso kukuba yonke imini wafumana iimeko yendyebo, phofu, ukuba phantsi ukholo lwethu amakhono abo, yaye nantsi ke ngenxa yoko, nokuphuhlisa ezifana imizwa ephambene unawo, ubutyala, uloyiko ngokupheleleyo yokunganeliseki na isiphumo. Kukho phantsi ukuzithemba, ndlongo, ukuba nochuku kunye buthathaka.

wenza njani okufanayo kwimeko umntu oqhelekileyo? Wena andazi? Into oyikhangelayo. Eqalisa ukusulela ityala kwabanye yaye yena nzulu ngakumbi zokurhoxa, ngokwenjenjalo kwandisa kuphela meko.

iintlobo ukuzithemba

Ngokubanzi, iisayikholojisti bakholelwa ukuba kukho iintlobo ezintathu yovavanyo ngokwayo;

• low self-esteem;
• eyaneleyo;
• landa.

Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba ukuzithemba kakhulu kufuneka ingqalelo yemvelo kunye nokwanela yokuziphatha. Makhe sihlolisise indlela abantu baziphathe kunye nokuzixabisa ezahlukeneyo. Umzekelo, ungamthabathi unina kunye nomntwana omncinane.

Abantwana abantwana. kid ngoomatshini yahamba ngeenxa eyadini, wawa izihlandlo eziliqela, amalaphu ngamadolo kunye neentende, izihlangu, Kakade ke, azicocekanga kakhulu. Umama low self-esteem uya kuba neentloni umntwana uze uzame ukuba emke ekhaya, ukuba akukho namnye abamelwane abazange ukuqaphela 'uqulukubhode "nenzala yayo.

Umama kunye ukuzithemba eyaneleyo usoloko ekulungele ukuba olu hlobo adventure, ngoko epokothweni apho kuya kubakho manzi okanye eqhiyeni. Itakane akazange nokuba phawula indlela kwakhona abe Ukucoceka.

Kaloku, umama ukuzithemba iza kuzama ijike ibe uhlobo feat uncleanliness, yokumakisha phezu kwezinye mummies ukuba umntwana wakhe - i (nkqi, ngqindilili, nesibindi) iimpahla kakhulu unesiphiwo, kwaye zimdaka - yinto ubungqina nje ngakumbi omsulwa.

self Phantsi: ukulwa njani

Ngoko nangoko Ndandifuna ukuba alumkise ukuba ukuzila, kwaye iziphumo ngokukhawuleza akafanele ukubala. Le nkqubo Kungathatha ixesha elide. Kutheni? Ndicinga ukuba kuba umntu ukutshintsha indlela abacinga ngayo nendlela abayibona yabo ngokwabo, yaye oku akuyi kwenzeka ngobusuku obunye.

Ngenxa yoko, phantsi ukuzithemba - ingxaki leyo, ukuba oyifunayo, ingaphatha nabani na ukuba wenze le nto, nje zama ukulandela la macebiso:

• Ungaze ukuzithelekisa nabanye. Wena - nguwe! Khumbula kanye nabo bonke. Ewe, mhlawumbi into ebalulekileyo ukusuka koko abangani bakho, wena zilahlekile, kodwa bakholelwa into kwaye nguwe.
• Musa ukumthethisa wena zonke iindleko ukuphepha izimvo ezijoliswe self-deprecation.
• Kuba nezincomo kufuneka maz kunokuba ukuzama kubo.
• Yiba HIV.
• Cinga benze uluhlu lwe impumelelo buqu kunye ezintle iimpawu zobuqu. ukuba they qinisekisa ukuba nawe!
• Ngakumbi ukupha ngaphezu kokuphiwa.
• Bandakanya kuphela olo thando.
• Phila ubomi zayo.