Iingxoxo kumba 'enoba okanye ukuba angayichebi nasemiphakathweni "abaliqela obude antsonkothileyo. Kuxhomekeke ezahlukeneyo izimvo ngalo mba, fashion, izinto ezithandwayo kunye neenkcubeko. Umzekelo, oku kubonakaliswa ukuba Bamandulo Phaya kusetyenziswa iimela ilitye ukususa engafunwayo "ixhonti". KumaXesha Aphakathi, oku kangako ihlawulwe ingqalelo. Kwaye ngexesha lethu, abaninzi xikhundlha xa le yokuba kuyimfuneko ukubuyela ngokwemvelo, ukuba feminists ubuncinane mihla. Ngelo xesha, izigidi zabantu, Kakade ke, inkoliso yabo - umfazi bathuthunjiswe umbuzo malunga iinwele kwindawo olusondeleyo kunye nomtsalane yayo. Ngoko ke, enoba kuyimfuneko wazicheba na ubudoda? Wonke umntu kufuneka isigqibo ngokwakho ngokwam. Kodwa kukho inani ezinye iimpawu ezibalulekileyo.
Oogqirha bayacetyiswa ukuba ukususa yonke into, ngokuba entlonzeni sikhusela nasemiphakathweni ezahlukahlukeneyo zizifo. kushishino izithambiso ngonyaka ngamnye inika uluhlu olukhulayo lwezixhobo zokususa iinwele njengoko phantsi iingalo kunye kwindawo bra. Ngaloo ndlela ukuphendula umbuzo buhlungu: "? Ngaba kufuneka ukuba achebe ubudoda yakho" Eyona ndlela ethandwayo, Kakade ke, utsheva. Oku kunokucaciswa ixabiso elincinane zemali, impendulo ekhawulezayo kunye nokhuseleko impilo esikhumbeni.
Kuhleli impikiswano ingaba utsheva nasemiphakathweni ukususa iinwele okanye ngenxa "lokubhalela" kunye fun banye. konke kuxhomekeke kwi inkanuko.
Ke ukuba niphikele ukuba le nkqubo, kungcono ukuqala egeza. Ezikucaphukisa kakhulu eluswini, yaye oko kuya kukunceda ngcono ukumelana yonke into. Utsheva kuyimfuneko kuphela bejonge ukukhula iinwele (xa kuthelekiswa no kuthetha ayinakwenzeka!). Emva koko uya lokubhangisa aphazamiseke kunye iinwele ingrown. Kwakhona, musa sukela, ngenxa yokuba ushiye kundikhumbuza krakra amanxeba. Uyacebiswa ukuba achebe ulusu asha okanye axakane. Oku kunokukhokelela irhashalala kunye nezinye iingxaki.
Amabhinqa ngaphezulu okanye ecacileyo ngaphantsi, kodwa umbuzo yenkqubo enomdla kwaye efanelekileyo ingaba okanye hayi wazicheba amadoda ubudoda?! Apha kwakhona, yonke into ixhomekeke incasa kunye nemigaqo. Ngokomzekelo, abanye bakholelwa ukuba umbhiyozo elula isiko kococeko lomntu buqu, kwaye abanye abantu musa yale nezesondo.
Kwaye kufanelekile itrayi. Ubuncinane ukuze babe ezinye ukushukumisa ezintsha. Ngaphezu koko, indawo olusondeleyo uchetyiwe abangaboniyo uyanamathela ubungakanani umthondo enkulu, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba sex ngakumbi! Enye impikiswano kukuba iqabane othanda ngesondo ngomlomo, ufuna ukuba uyolo kuyo, hayi tickling. Esinye isiqingatha yabafazi ukuya lo mbuzo: "Ngaba kufuneka achebe umntu ubudoda?" - ihlangana categorical "hayi." impikiswano wabo ukuba iinwele ikhula kwiintsuku ezimbalwa nje, oqinisekisa umntu ukurhawuzelela kunye ukuluma krakra - umfazi. Okukhona ukuba inxalenye enkulu ngokwaneleyo abantu nemazi kukha ngengqondo komfanekiso eyindoda, leyo ukuba yonke entlonzeni. Amadoda achebe iindawo abasondeleyo kufuneka uqale kwakhona, kuphela bath. Kakade ke, kuyimfuneko ukuba anyamekele sokuguya elungileyo nezithambiso, kokubini ngaphambi kunye nasemva utsheva. Kwaye musa ukulibala ukuba lo mbuzo: "Ngaba kufuneka ukuba achebe nasemiphakathweni yakho?" - wonke umntu abe uluvo.