Ukuba umyeni utshintshile: ukuba siziphathe kunye nokuba okanye ukuthatha nantoni na indlela

Ngelishwa, abakrexezi - into rhoqo. Ke ukuba indoda utshintshile, ukuba baziphathe njani kakuhle, uninzi lwabafazi andazi. Yaye akakho umntu onokukwazi ukulichaza kakuhle kwangaphambili, njengoko bonisa ngokwayo, ukufunda malunga nesiganeko esibi ngolo hlobo. Kodwa Kudala kwaziwa ukuba azikho ubuhlobo eqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu ababini ngokwesini. Nokuba bobabini bethetha ngalo, kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuba apho kukho ubuhlobo, kukho kwakhona uvelwano. Yaziwa, ngokulula kufike into ngakumbi.

inyathelo elinye

Ukuba umyeni utshintshile, ukuba baziphathe ngayo, umfazi ngamnye isigqibo ngokwakhe. Kodwa musa ukuchitha amaphaphu ngokungeyomfuneko. Into yokuqala omawuyenze ukuze libone ukuba ingaba ulwazi oluthembekileyo. Cinga, cinga, ukwakha indlela ubudlelwane kunye neqabane mva. Ukuba le nyaniso kuba yinyaniso, zama ukuqonda isizathu. Ukuba ikhaya ngokwesini Kulungile, ngoko, mhlawumbi, wayefuna kwicala inkxaso yokuziphatha. Ukusombulula nayiphi na ingxaki ifuna ulwazi, ingakumbi xa indoda itshintshile. Njani ukuba baziphathe? Thetha endodeni, kodwa incoko akufunekanga ibe omnye ngumsindo kwaye kokumgxeka, oko ifanele ukuba ezakhayo. Ngaba oko kwimeko enjalo umfazi kunzima kakhulu, ngoko ukuza kukhangela ukuba senisilungisile: skrolela kwi intloko izihlandlo ezimbalwa, ezifana, zama ukuba kusetyenziswa ngayo ukuphuhlisa ingxoxo malunga nendlela oku kunokwenzeka. Ukuba ngaba ufuna ukuphelisa ulwalamano, akukho mfuneko ukusebenzisa ibinzana kumgama enye kwenye, ubeke umfazi phambi kwenjongo.

inyathelo lesibini

Kakade ke, akunakwenzeka ukuba ukusombulula le ngxaki ngokukhawuleza, xa utshintsha indoda. Indlela ukuba baziphathe ke ngoko? Nokuba esi senzo saba buthathaka xesha, kuyimfuneko ukwenza nto. Umzekelo, ufanele wazi ukuba ngubani "zingenelele" kwi uxolo kusapho kwengqondo kunye nentlalo-ntle. Oku akuthethi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukubala okhuphisana ubambe iinwele zakhe. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukusebenza ngenyameko kuloo mntu, ukuba kanti, umzekelo, ukuba umfazi wokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuthabatha into yokuba umntwana, yena uyakwazi ukunxibelelana, kunye nonxulumano bakhe ex-umfazi ukuba ndinenza buhlungu. Ukuba zama nzima ukunikel 'ingqalelo iimvakalelo zakho, ukusho kubo.

amanyathelo amathathu

Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba soyise ezi mvakalelo zabo, ukuba indoda itshintshile. Indlela ukuba baziphathe ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba ufuna ukulila okanye isiqalekiso? Musa ukubukhumbula umva iimvakalelo zakhe. Ndifuna ukuba ukulila - kukhala, nomsindo - ukujika ifoto ibe ziingceba, aqhumisele indoda yakhe. Noko ke, ukusebenzisa inhliziyo ngcono xa kungekho namnye ebona. Akukho mfuneko ukwabelana kunye nabahlobo kunye nentsapho oko kwenzekileyo entsatsheni. Ngapha koko, xa nanjengesivuthevuthe iimvakalelo betshayela phezu awukwazi ukuqonda indlela bonke ubomi elizayo abangaphilanga konke kulungile.

inyathelo ezine

Ukuba ugqiba ukuba usapho imali eninzi kakhulu ndaqonda ukuba kukho uthando, ngoko isigqibo ukuba uqhubeke njani, xa utshintsha indoda, musa sukela. Ukubonelela ngenkxaso kuye. Xa iqabane lakho akuyi kuba ukuthandana akwazi ukuphila ixesha elide kwi miba mibini. Khumbula, kwengqondo ziye zabonisa ukuba xa indoda akashiywanga kunyaka wokuqala ewolo, kokukhona ukwenza oku intshukumo nzima ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, ukuba uthe wacela nam ukuba alinde, ukuze amphe ixesha, ukuba aqonde wena, kulunge Sikhona.

Kakade ke, elo cebiso ezinikwe apha ngentla zisekelwe nengqiqo. Noko ke, ukuba baziphathe njani, xa utshintsha umyeni, ngokufuthi umfazi ayikhankanyi ukuba ezi mvakalelo ziza nengqumbo. Ukuba meke akukho amandla, funda ngengqondo, kunye nayo nawe ngokwakho isigqibo ukuziphatha okulungileyo, ukufunda ukulawula umsindo wabo kunye neemvakalelo.