Ukwazi abazali bakho: ukuvavanywa kwamandla

Ngaba uya kudibana nabazali bomfana? Izandla ziyakhupha, imilenze iyagungqiswa, kwi-wardrobe, iyavela, akukho mbobo ehloniphekileyo, kwaye zonke iingxaki ziyanqotshwa ngempumelelo ebusheni babo, zisongela ukuphuma kwakhona ekukhanyeni kukaThixo? Akunandaba. Eli nqaku liyakunceda uqonde indlela yokuziphatha ngokufanelekileyo ukuze wenze impembelelo entle kwintsapho yakho ekhethiweyo. Nangona kunjalo, iingcebiso ezingezantsi zifanelekile, kwaye abo bantu bafanele baqhelane nabazali beentombazana.

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kufuneka uphile kwintlanganiso enoxanduva, kuba ungakanani umfana osondeleyo kuwe kuxhomekeke kwikamva lakho naye. Ngaba iya kubakho konke? Emva kwakho konke, ukuphazamiseka komama-mkhwenkwe kuyakha i-anecdotes. Nangona kunjalo, masingathethi ngothusayo ...

Into yokuqala omele uyikhumbule nguwe. Kodwa musa ukulibala malunga nesakhelo sobulumko bezentlalo. Ukuba usetyenziswe ukuthetha yonke into oyicingayo, kwaye kungekho rhoqo kwifom echanekileyo, ubambe iqhosha lakho ixesha elide. Kodwa ke akufuneki ukuba wenze ngathi ungumntwana olungileyo, ubuxoki buya kuziva, kwaye, kholwe, izihlobo zakho zomtshato aziyikuyiqonda le nto.

Ukuba ufuna ukujwayelana nabazali, kufuneka uzame ukuzifihla umonakalo wakho, kodwa kungekhona emva kwesigqubuthelo sokungabi nongqondo kunye nokunyaniseka. Kufuneka ukuba uziphathe ngendlela engokwemvelo ngokunokwenzeka.

Kuphutha ukucinga ukuba ukuthetha ngendawo yangaphakathi kwindlu yinto enhle. Akukho mfuneko yokubonakalisa ukuzisola okanye ukunyaniseka kwento yokuhlobisa indlu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ukuqhelana nabazali kwenzeka ngohlobo lokutya kwentsapho. Etafileni yonke ixesha ubukele ukuhamba kwakho, akufanele ukhululeke.

Kukho nawuphi na umzekelo, ungabonakali umsebenzi ogqithiseleyo kwingxoxo, musa ukukhawuleza i-anecdotes, imibuzo kunye nokuncoma kwindlovukazi yendlu. Kungcono ukuphendula ngokuthozamayo xa ubuzwa malunga nento ethile, kwaye gcina umlomo wakho uvaliwe okokuqala.

Nangona xa usondla, kuya kufuneka uzame konke umama-mkhwenkwe ozayo uzakubeka phezu kwetafile, ukugcoba isidlo kunye namazwi amnandi malunga neengcamango zeempawu. Kulungile kusasa ukwenza usuku luvule. Kodwa ungadli okanye unqabe nasiphi na izitya - oku kuphawu olucacileyo lokungamhloneli umsikazi.

Ukumazi abazali bakho kungabhubhisa ngokungekho nto xa unayo. Elinye iglasi le-champagne okanye iwayini ngokuhlwa-oku kunene. Kwaye nokuba umntakwabo womyeni okanye umkhwe kamva uza kutshisa utshwala kuwe, ungavumeli ukucaphukisa.

Ngokubhekisele kwi-cigarettes, ungatsho ukuba intombazana ayifuni ukutshaya xa idibana nabazali bafana. Kodwa insizwa inokwenza oku kuphela xa isibonelelo sivela kubanini bendlu.

Ukutyelela kokuqala kunye nokuqhelana nabazali akufanele kude.

Ngokuqhelekileyo, iintlanganiso ezinjalo zixesha liholide. Emva koko udimazekile ngokukodwa: awukho nje umsebenzi onzima kunabo bonke, indlela yokukholisa abazali bakho, ngoko awukwazi ukuqwalasela ngoku.

Izipho ezithandekayo akufanele zenziwe, ngaphandle koko izalamane zakho zingathi zibophezele okanye zibi ngakumbi - ziya kukugweba nge-sycophancy.

Incwadi kulo mzekelo iyona nto ikhethekileyo. Kwi-flyleaf kufuneka uzinikezele. Ukuba ngabazali bakho abakhethiweyo banomdla kunoma yiluphi uhlobo lobugcisa, ke nguwe kuphela onokukubonisa ngezixhobo zomculo, imifanekiso okanye imizobo. Oomama abanomdla abakwazi ukunika iingubo zangaphantsi, izimonyo okanye iziqholo. Akukuphela nje oku kungabonakaliyo, ngoko unobungozi bokungacingi. Ukuba ukuqhelana nabazali bomntu okhethiweyo kufike ngexesha lokuzalwa komnye wabo, awukwazi ukunika imali.

Yintoni enokuyenza? Ungabi nentshiseko. Kuba intlanganiso yokuqala iya kukwanela kunye neentyatyambo ezintle zeentyatyambo. Kuphela kufuneka udibanise nomhloli wezityalo, ukwenzela ukuba ungamniki umama kamyeni wakho, kwaye ngokufanayo.

Ukuqhelana nabazali akuyiyo isizathu sokutya. Leli thuba elihle kakhulu lokubonisa yonke into eyenziwa yintombi yakho.