Uthando lokuqala lwesikolo

Inkoliso yabantwana abaselula esikolweni ihlangana yokuqala kwaye, kubonakala kubo, uthando lokwenene. Abantu abadala bazenzela ukuba abayayiqondi le nto, ukuba kuluhlaza ukuthabatha inkohlakalo yobuntwana. Nangona kunjalo, indoda nomfazi ngamnye bafumana le ntliziyo, kodwa bayifihla ngokujulile entliziyweni. Mhlawumbi oku kungenxa yokuba olu luthando aluzange lucinge.

Ngamanye amaxesha akulula ukukholelwa othandweni, ingakumbi ukuba isifundo sokububula kwakho sineminyaka emibini ubudala. Ngamaqhinga, kodwa kubantu abanjalo kwaye bathandana nabantwana besikolo kwaye bafumana uthando olucocekileyo nolwenene . Ingaba ngabafundisi kwiziko lemfundo, abahlobo bamama okanye abamelwane kwivolanda. Kunoko, ukukhulelwa okunjalo akunakulula ukubiza uthando-kukunqula yinto ekhohlisayo.

Kodwa nangona kunjalo, kwaye lo mva unamandla ngakumbi ngosuku ngalunye oludlulayo, entloko kuphela lo mntu - kwaye akasekho kwiincwadi zezifundo kunye nezifundo. Imoya iyatshintsha amaxesha amaninzi ngemini: kubi kangangokuba ubomi abuhle, kodwa kulungile ukuba umphefumlo uphawule! Ngamanye amaxesha uthando luphazanyiswa kukudumala okukhulu, kwaye ingqondo engatshatanga yintombazana ayisoloko ikwazi ukujamelana nale mvavanyo. Ukuphela kobutyebi obubi, ngamanye amaxesha kuqaliswe, kwaye kaninzi - i-platonic, mhlawumbi nokuzibulala. Yilokho kulungele ukulwa nabazali kunye nabathandayo.

Nangona kunjalo, uthando lokuqala lwesikolo luhlala luhlala emphefumlweni ngonaphakade. Unokumthanda kuphela umntu kwiiveki ezimbalwa, kodwa ngesizathu esithile uza kubeka indawo entliziyweni yakho bonke ubomi bakhe. Sekunjalo, uthando lwesikolo alufane lube luhlobo lwentsapho.

Yintoni abazali abayenzayo kwimeko? Ngokudla kaninzi kunoko, baqala ukusazela ukuba intombi yabo eneminyaka elishumi elinesithathu inothathwe ngumntu oneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ubudala, kwaye uzama ngazo zonke iindlela zokumenza azame ukuthetha ngaye. Kulo mba, intombazana iqala ukuthetha ngayo nayo yonke into elandelanayo, kodwa kungekhona nabazali bayo. Oku kuphazamiseka kukuba unokuba neengxaki emva kokuba umdla wakhe usuphelile: kuya kuba neencoko kwisithili, esinokuyithatha ingxowa embi. Ngoko ke, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umntwana wakho uthathwe ngumntu osemncinane, musa ukumshiya wedwa kunye namava akhe, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, zama ukumnceda nokumxhasa. Ndikholelwe, izinto ezinokuzilibazisa zihamba ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uya kuhleka kunye emva koko bonke bekhumbula ndawonye ubusuku obuthongo kunye neinyembezi ezibuhlungu!

Ngokuqhelekileyo uthando lwesikolo ludlula ngokukhawuleza, nangona kunjalo, ityala ngalinye kufuneka liqwalaselwe ngokwahlukileyo. Ukuba umntu ovulekileyo kunye nentlalontle unothando, kuya kuba lula kuye ukwazi ukuba into enomnqweno ihlala. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba kubuhlungu kangakanani, uya kufumana amandla angabonakali kwabanye. Yile ndlela ukuthanda ngayo isikolo ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ubomi buyafana.

Kunzima kakhulu kulabo abangenayo, oko kukuthi, abo bangathandi ukuthetha. Ngokuqhelekileyo yonke le ntlungu i-perenashivayut ngokwabo, ngenxa yenguqu yenguqu kunye nesimo, ngokuqhelekileyo kude neyona nto ibhetele. Ukuba ungumzali kwaye uyazi ukuba umntwana wakho uyimfihlo ngokwaneleyo, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokuzimela yona, kuba kunye nawe kuya kuba nzima kuye ukwabelana. Zama nje ukuphulaphula kwaye uhlala unomdla kuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uxakeke kangakanani.

Kwabanye abantwana, uthando lwesikolo luhlala iminyaka emininzi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, banokutshatyalaliswa ngenye inzondelelo ngeli xesha, kodwa bahlale beyinyaniso kumntu omnye. Kwaye kukho iimeko (ezinqabile ngokwaneleyo), xa uthando lokuqala luhlala entliziyweni ngonaphakade. Oku mhlawumbi abantu abasabelayo nabanomdla abayaziyo ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukulahlwa, ngoko bavumela umntu obathandayo ebomini babo.

Umntu ngamnye unengqondo yakhe, iimvakalelo zakhe, imbono yakhe yehlabathi. Kukhulu ukuba ukuziva okokuqala kukushiya ukukhanya kunye nenjabulo emphefumlweni, iinkumbulo zalo azihlaziyi kwaye zenze ube buhlungu, kodwa ujonge ngokunyanisekileyo umphefumlo. Ngako oko, kufuneka ukwazi ukwenza ngobumnene kwiimeko apho, ukusuka ekuphakameni kweminyaka, umntu omdala osisilumko uyayiqonda into yokuba akukho naluphi na ulwalamano ukuze angabi nxeba elimangeleyo lokumangalisa.