Ulwalamano kaPlato - ngamanye amaxesha ubuhlobo iba uthando lokwenene

Kukho yimvakalelo ukuba mazingabhidaniswa nayiphi na enye, umzekelo: ingqumbo, umona, intiyo, ukubawa, njl Ngubani na uthando, Uphi na umgca eyahlula ukusuka uthando yesiqhelo okanye uthando? Njani ukuba ngokuphosakeleyo xa ukhetha iqabane, ukuze, emva kokuba amava embi ukuba kudana ebomini bam ixesha elide de abathintela iingcinga malunga umhlobo omtsha wesini esahlukileyo? Good ukwazi nesithandwa sakhe ukunceda ulwalamano zikaPlato, ngelishwa, kwiimeko ezininzi, ilahlekile ukufaneleka kwayo bangaphambili. Kodwa ke, njengoko isitsho njalo, konke okulungileyo moderation ...

Abantwana bungonakalisi ixesha langoku zibhuqe, lokuzibona imvakalelo yokuqala uthando, kuba becala musa isicelo uphuhliso olukhawulezayo kwinoveli, kuba uninzi lwawo nje andazi njani ukuba baziphathe kwimeko elinikiweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo le ubudala kwaye ubudlelwane zikaPlato, yaye kubonakala ukuba kuyinyaniso. Ngokuqhelekileyo, akukho nto elungileyo lufumaneka ekuqaleni neentlobano zesini. Yonke into ngexesha layo. Kwaye xa kufika uthando kuqala, emva koko yonke into kufuneka uye phambili njengesiqhelo. Kwaye lo shazi ngokudlulisa kunye touch oneentloni, ukususela ontliziyo ngokoqobo uyaxhuma ephuma esifubeni, kunye namava kade umsindo. Indlela ukwazi kokona kulungileyo - xa imvakalelo lokuqala efanayo, kwaye ungenza njalo zininzi izinto ezingenangqondo okanye ahoye, uvumela ukuba ukwazi ulwalamano ecocekileyo bulumko kaPlato. Maxa wambi kuyenzeka ukuba injongo ukuncwina kwaye abazazi iimvakalelo kwaduma ngokunxulumene ngokwayo. Zama ngaphandle kwaye kubuhlungu, kwaye amnandi buhlungu, kwaye mnandi, kodwa uthando ezingabuyekezekiyo uyakwazi ukukhusela ekukhulelweni kunye neminye yokuziphatha ngokungakhathali, njengoko elivisayo, nazo imvakalelo kuqala Yomelelani, uyakwazi ukulawula yena, echibini intloko yakhe lifakwe ezehlela uthando lwabo.

Kodwa ke kwenzeka kwaye kunjalo, xa umhlobo okanye umhlobo iwela uthando nomnyulwa omnye ubudala oqolileyo bakho. Kwimeko ukuba ubuhlobo bokwenene, onothando akadinwa nkqu uhlobo ngasese lokuzibona enzonzobila ngokungalindelekanga ngayo. ubudlelwane kaPlato kwaye kakhulu buhlungu:

"... kumfazi wakho - amehlo,

Kwaye akukho imilebe - imilebe.

Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu kunene,

Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ecocekileyo bakhe ... ".

Kwimeko enjalo, loo mntu onke amandla isicelo ukuba alususe entliziyweni yam ukuba sihlale eluthandweni lwakhe, ukuze ibangele inkathazo okanye isithandwa sakho / intombi, okanye / enye yakhe intanda, yena / izama, kancinci kangangoko ukudibana nawe, yaye ukuba ukuya kwesinye isixeko.

Kulungile ukuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba iimvakalelo ezinjalo, ngenxa yokuba ukuthandana - oko nokuqondana nentlonelo, kwaye ulwalamano ngesondo esempilweni. Iintsapho kufuneka wadalwa yothando nokubandakanya ukuzala. kulonwabo lwentsapho - ke amaqabane harmonic ubudlelwane ngokomoya nangokwenyama, esekelwe uthando, thalele ngamnye isizukulwana esitsha enye kanye.

Musa ukulibala ukuba abantwana bethu badla ukwakha ubomi babo nemvukelo wadala yonxulumano yabazali. Yiyo le nto kufuneka ukuba afunge phambi kwabo. Kucacile ukuba ulwalamano lothando ayisoloko ezimkhuthuka, kucanda phakathi kwayo yonke indlela anameva ekuqaleni ebomini babo. Ngexesha babizwa ngokuba "akramnceleyo, 'abalinganiswa kufuneka nje ukuba baphile. Xa abantu abanothando baqale ukuba bafunge (ngaphandle kokuba nje akunakwenzeka ukuba baphile ubomi), oko kuqala kuyimfuneko ukuphuhlisa uhlobo zokufundisa kwi umkhaya uxabana, ukuya ngaphaya kwemida yazo kufuneka ibe ezingavumelekanga ngokupheleleyo. Ukuhlonipha isidima sabo, kungasuki omnye komnye, ungasoloko ufumana kwizibhambathiso, kwaye ngexesha leminyaka edlulileyo, yonke impikiswano, sise ngokudibeneyo ngcembe ukuba "hayi". Kodwa kwiintsapho ezinjalo, amaqabane abaye baphila ixesha elide, baqondane omnye wayengazithandi kangako ngokulula - poluvzglyada, yaye bonwabile ngokwenene.