Ungayiqonda njani ukuba uloliwe? Ungayilahla njani isipelo?

Abathandi abancinane bahlalutya umthombo wabo. Iimvakalelo zobuRoma zithatha ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa kwenzeka ngokuhlukileyo. Ukuba uthando aluqhelekanga, lubekwa ngaphandle, luyakunqumla, ludonsa kwizantsi lokudakumba. Ingabonakalisa njani, njani ukuqonda ukuba uyayiliswa? Kutheni oku? Masiqonde ngokucacileyo nakwizigaba.

Uluphi upelo oluphambili?

Ukungafuneki, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa ukuba yimalini esimele sijongane nayo. Ukuze uqonde indlela yokuqonda ukuba unomdla, kuyimfuneko ukuqhelana neenkcazo. Umlingo unikela wonke umntu isethi yezixhobo zokuphazamisa kwisiphelo somnye umntu. Omnye wabo uyinxalenye yokuthanda. Yinkqubo eyenziwe ngokucacileyo kwi-aura ebangela ukuba umnqweno afune. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba iimvakalelo zexhoba zifana nothando, kodwa azinjalo. Ukunyaniseka, ukuvuleka, ukungathandabuzeki akukho ebudlelwaneni. Bangela ukuba umntu abe nengqiqo yokungahambi kakuhle kwezinto ezenzekayo, ezifana nento eyenzekayo xa ukhankanya ubuqhetseba. Amantombazana acetyiswa ukuba aphulaphule intuition, ukuba ufuna ukufunda ukuqonda ukuba unomdla ngumntu. Inkqubo yothando isebenza kwi-aura ngeendleko zamandla anikwe ezinye iinjongo: impilo, intlalo, ulonwabo njalonjalo. Ngako oko, ukuphamba kwothando kukukhokelela ekuveleni kweemeko ezimbi kunye neemeko ezibangela ukubandezeleka. Indoda ethandwayo icinga ukuba "ulwa nokulungelelanisa", kodwa ngokwenene uye wenyuka kakhulu kumbane omnyama obangelwa ngumlumbi.

Gcina iimvakalelo zakho nokuziphatha

Ingcaciso encinane. Kuya kunceda ukucacisa ukuba ungayiqonda njani into oyithandayo kunye nento oyenzayo. Chaza ngokufutshane iinkcukacha eziphambili zomphumo wemilingo, evezwa yixhoba kwaye ibonakale kwicala. Kufuneka bahlalutye ukuba uyakrokra ukuba baye baba lixhoba lomlumbi. Imiqondiso ibonakala kwixhoba:

• Uhlala udonsa kumntu, awukwazi ukucinga nantoni na into.
• Ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza ekugxeka "intanda".
• Ngokuqhelekileyo izifo zesifo se-catarrhal.
• Njalo uhlaselwa yizengozi zolawulo oluhlukeneyo: ukusuka kwezinto ezisemzimbeni ukuya kwimililo, izingozi zothutho.
• Iinyanga ziba buhlungu kakhulu (nangona kwangaphambili zidlula ngokuqhelekileyo).
• Iphupha liphukile, kuvele ubusuku obunzima.
• Utsaliswa ngotywala, ukutshaya okanye into engakumbi.
• Akukho mnqweno wokunxibelelana nabahlobo nezihlobo.
• Izinto zokuzilibadala kunye nezinto zokuzilibazisa azisenomdla. Phakathi kwinqanaba lokuqwalasela yinto yokudumisa, iyakucima yonke into.
• Ixesha eliqhelekileyo litshintsha ukungabi nantoni kwizinto ezingabonakaliyo.

Abantu, xa baqala ukuqonda ukuba bakuqonda njani ukuba bakugqobile, zama ukutyhila zonke iimpawu ezidweliswe kuwe. Enyanisweni, enye okanye ezimbini zanele ukukrokra into into. Abaphangi bahluke kwaye bavele ngabanye. Oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo kwi-diagnostic.

Udliwano-ndlebe neentsapho, khuluma nabo

Xa ukuxilongwa kobungqina bemilingo, ebaluleke kakhulu isigaba sokuqala, oku: ukuqonda ngxaki. Qonda: ixhoba lobugqwirha lingaphakathi liqinisekile ukuba uyayithanda. Yena (okanye yena) akafuni ukuphulaphula abanye abathi okhethiweyo uyinqambi. Ukuba loo mntu wayecinga malunga nendlela yokuqonda ukuba wayetyunjwa yintombazana, impumelelo isezandleni zakhe. Ngoko ke kucetyiswa ukuba uthethe nomntu osondeleyo, othembekileyo. Buza indlela acinga ngayo ukuziphatha kwakho ngaphandle. Yithobela imiqondiso enjalo:

• Ukubonakaliswa kobugwenxa obungenangqiqo okanye ukungakhathaleli kubahlobo nezihlobo.
• Ukukhanuka, ukungathandi ukuphulaphula oko bathethayo.
• Impendulo enganeleyo kumazwana malunga nentanda.
• Ukuvavanya kakubi kwabo bantu babesithanda (kubalulekile!).
• Ukutshintsha kwemizwelo rhoqo.

Ukuba umntu onothando entlanganisweni engathethekiyo eqinisekisa ukuba uziphatha ngokuhambelana neempawu ezibhalwe apha ngasentla, ungazi ukuba uyayiqonda njani ukuba uyatshintshiweyo. Impendulo, ngelanga, intle. Kubalulekile ukukrazula ngokukhawuleza izintshukumo.

Uhlalutyo lwe "imbali yobudlelwane"

Uyazi, abantu balungelelaniswa: nantoni na ayitshoyo, abayikukhawuleza ukuba banikele umbono wabo. Oku kunjalo nakwiimeko zethu. Akwanele ukucacisa ukuba uyayiqonda njani ukuba uyatshintshiweyo. Utsalwe kumntu kunye nangemvakalelo yokunyanisekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba ixhoba ngokwayo lifike kwi nyaniso. Ukwenza oku, musa ukugqithisa. Abathandi bathanda ukukhumbula "imbali yobudlelwane": njani baqhelane, bathetha ntoni njalo njalo. Lo mkhuba omuhle unikezelwa ukuba usebenzise wonke umntu onomdla ekufumaneni ingxaki. Ukuba "othandekayo" akazange abangele naziphi na iingcamango zengqondo, nangona kunjalo, kwakubonakala kungathandeki okanye kuthokisayo, kukho ithuba lokucingisisa. Ngokufanayo, xa waqhelana nalo mntu ngethuba, kwaye ubuqu obufanayo abuzange busebenzise ububele bakho.

Qhubeka uhlalutyo

Amantombazana afuna ukuqonda indlela oye wathinjwa ngayo kumntu, kukuhle ukuzibheka ukusuka kwicala. Njengomthetho, ukupela kukuphelisa ubuntu. Awuyena uhluma phambi komlingane? Phendula lo mbuzo ongathandekiyo. Ngaba uyakuphatha njengendlovukazi, iingubo, ingelosi? Ngaphantsi kwefuthe lobuqhetseba, ibhinqa ayiboni ukuhlaziswa kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi. Thetha kwiintombi zakho okanye abazala babo abadala, njengoko kuboniswe ngaphandle. Iimvakalelo ezintle zisekelwe kwintlonipho. Ukuba akukho nanye, kukho ukupaka ngothando okanye awukhethi ukhetho olungcono. Khangela amehlo kweso qabane. Umthengi wesipelo uyakuphepha ukuthintana nemiphefumlo. Oku kuyindlela yokuphendula. Ukuba umntu ukhangeleka kude, kunesizathu sokungabaza intliziyo yakhe ecocekileyo.

Indlela yokuqonda ukuba wathinjwa kumfana: uvavanyo

Kubasetyhini, amandla akhethekileyo, imilingo. Kulula kakhulu ukuba intombazana ibonakalise ukuba yaba yintlanzi yobuthakathi. Kubalulekile ukwenza oku kulandelayo. Thenga iiqanda ezintsha ezinkukhu. Qinisekisa ukuba ubuza ukuba babekho efrijini. Ufuna abo bangayazi iqhwa, ngoko bahlala bephila. Ngokuhlwa, thabatha enye. Hlala yedwa uze uphuphe "ngabazithandayo". Khumbula iinkcukacha zoqhagamshelwano, uthando, amagama, ubukeka, ukumamatheka kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Imizuzu elishumi elinesibini emva koko, qhekeza iqanda ibe yintonga yamanzi. Yibambe ngentloko yakho. Qhubeka ucinga ngeemvakalelo zakho. Unokufunda umthandazo okanye ucele uncedo kumlindi wesigxina. Kodwa oku akuyimfuneko. Ukuxilongwa kwe spell, kwanele ukubonisa umfanekiso we-aura kwiqanda, oko kukuthi, ukusasaza iimvakalelo zayo kuwo. Hlonipha. Khangela kwi-jar.

I ziphumo zohlobo

Ngoku khangela i-energy yakho ngokujonga iqanda.

• Ilala phantsi kwebhanki - akukho nhlobo yothando.
• I-Rose "snot" yeprotheni - kukho inkunzi.
• I-yolk yachithwa-isipelo.
• Iqanda liphuma, kwakhona.
• Iphunga elimnandi lokubola - nayo.

Enyanisweni, lo vavanyo luqhutywa ngabantu. Kodwa ukuxilongwa kwabo akunjalo ngokuchanekileyo. Maxa wambi iqanda alibonisi ukupela. Abafazi bangasebenzisa le ndlela, ichanekile.

Ungaqonda njani ukuba uloliwe kunye nendlela yokulahla

Masihambe ngaphesheya. Ubuqhetseba bubugcisa. Ichaphazela ubuntu kangaka, ngoko ulungele ukukholelwa kuyo nayiphi na into, kungekhona ukushiya isifo esisemthethweni. Ukubonakalisa umntu awatyunyiwe akunakwenzeka, ade yena acinge ngako. Kubalulekile ukwenza ukuba ixhoba lidideke. Ukuba ucinga ukuba uye waba nefuthe elikhohlisayo, kunokwenzeka ukuba akunjalo. Ixhoba liya kukhankanya umthengi ngamanga ekugqibeleni. Ukucima ukungathandabuzi entloko, yenza isithethe esingentla. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubonisa umphumo ongalunganga. Kuhle! Jabulela iimvakalelo zakho kwaye uphonsa okubi emakhanda akho. Kodwa ukuba isiphumo siphumelele, kufuneka ususe ngokukhawuleza ukupela. Ukwenza oku akunzima kunzima. Kwiimeko ezinqabileyo, uncedo lomlingo wangempela lufuneka. Okokuqala, uyeka ukuthetha nomthengi. Amakholwa akhuthazwa ukuba aye etempileni. Ngamanye amaxesha kunokwanela ukulahla ukupela. Kwaye i-aura ihlambulukile kwinkqubo engalunganga ngomthandazo. Apha, umzekelo, yinto eyaziwayo yidolophana.

Ukukrazula ukuthanda ukupela

Thenga amakhandlela ebandleni. Misela inombolo ngokwakho xa uqedile ukufunda inkcazo ekupheleni. Khetha ixesha ukuze kungabikho mntu uyayikhathaza, akayikususa emsebenzini. Ukuba kukho umntu othembekileyo, mcele ukuba ancede. Kubalulekile ukukhanyisa ikhandlela elilodwa, kwaye ukusuka kwesibini ukuya kuthatha i-wick kwaye ubeke umsila kwi-spoon. Emva koko, faka isitya okanye isitya ngamanzi. Gcoba i-wax kwi-spoon ngomlilo wekhandlela lokuqala. Ngeli xesha, funda imithandazo. Kucetyiswa ngale ndlela:

• "Wethu uBawo."
• "Makuphakame uThixo."
• "Unina kaThixo, Devo, ujabule."

Thulula i-wax emanzini. Phinda kathathu. Umthendeleko kufuneka uqhutyelwe iintsuku ezisixhenxe ngokulandelelana, ngalinye ixesha ikhandlela litshiswa kuze kube sekupheleni. I-Wax emhlabathini kude nabantu. Kuvela ukuba ufuna izibane ezilishumi elinesine. Ukuba kukho umncedisi, mcele ukuba athulule i-wax. Ngexesha lokuqala-phezulu, yesibini - entliziyweni, yesithathu - kwindawo yesini. Ngonaxa uhlambulula, akuvumelekile ukudibana nokuthetha nomthengi wesipelo. Ukuba izikhalazo zakho zibonakalisa zingenangqiqo - kulungile. Uthando lokwenene aluyi kubulala eso siko, siya kuqina. Inhlanhla!