Unokukhangela njani inhlanhla?

Inhlanhla ayinabo bonke abantu abamomothekayo. Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ukuba umntu uhlale "emthatha" ngokungafanelanga. Kodwa phawula ukuba inhlanhla ifika kubaxhasi, abo bakholelwa kwimpumelelo yabo, abayiki ukubeka ingozi kwaye baxoshe izigqibo. AmaPassimist kunye nalabo abangathandi ukwenza, kodwa balinde kuphela, inhlanhla iyahamba. Inyaniso kukuba abantu abanethemba lokuba bakholelwa kwimpumelelo yabo, kwaye ubunzima obunzima kunye neengxaki ezibuhlungu zihlolwa njengamava obomi, kunye neengxaki zokungabi nantloni zigatye okokuqala, ziqhekeza yonke into eqaliswe kwingcambu, ingozi yokutya, kwaye ingabandezeleka xa iinjongo ziba namandla ngakumbi.

Ukuze usombulule ingxaki yendlela yokukhangela inhlanhla, okokuqala, kufuneka ulungiselele umhlaba. Ngaphandle kwethemba kunye nokholo, akunakwenzeka ukuba angqongqo emnyango wakho.

Omnye unethamsanqa ebomini, kwaye umntu akazalisekanga nayiphi na iminqweno. Omnye uphumelela kuyo yonke into, uba nobutyebi kwaye uyavuya, kwaye omnye umntu akaphazamiseki phakathi kwemivuzo. Abanye abesifazana ebomini babo bahlala kakuhle, kwaye abanye abakwazi ukutshata ubomi babo bonke.

Kutheni kwenzeka ukuba umntu uphumelele ngokuhamba ngokusemthethweni kwizithende, kodwa uyayigatya abanye? Siya kuzama ukuqonda indlela yokutsala inhlanhla ngakweliphi na ukufumana uvuyo.

I ngongoma apha ayikho kwingcamango "yenhlanhla", kodwa nokuba sivumela ukuba sivume ubomi bethu inhlanhla, imali kunye nolonwabo, okanye akunjalo. Wena, ke, uyazibuza ngendlela ongenakukuvumela ngayo inhlanhla? Kakade unako. Emva koko konke oku kwenzekayo kubantu abaninzi. Ngokusoloko kubonakala kubo ukuba inhlanhla iphendukile, iminqweno ayigcwaliseki, ngoko bayeke isinyathelo kude nempumelelo. Kukho ithemba lethu elingaphakathi elitsalathisa okanye elibuyisela inhlanhla, amathuba amatsha, impumelelo, ubutyebi.

Wonke umntu unoluhlu olufunayo. Ukuba awuzange wenze oko, unako ithuba elihle lokukwenza. Ukufuna ukubhalwa kwiphepha kuzaliseka ngokunyaniseka. Umntu wokuqala kwimpopu ngempilo, umntu-ukuhlangabezana nothando, kunye nabanye-malunga nobutyebi. Kwenzeka ukuba umnqweno awuzalisekanga. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, umntu unokuhlawula izandla aze ayeke ukulwa lwakhe lonwabo. Isisombululo esiphezulu kwengxaki yendlela yokwenza inqabileyo ebomini bakho kukuvuma ukuba ufanelekile. Kubalulekile ukuthanda nokuzihlonela, kungekhona ukuyeka kwaye ungavumeli ukuyeka, ngenxa yokuba ufanelwe uthando, ulonwabo, ubutyebi, awukho ngaphezu kobanye abantu. Yiloo mvakalelo, apho kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba, kuya kukunceda ukhange inzuzo.

Makhe siqwalasele umzekelo. Ulilanga elide lokufumana uthando lwakho nokumazi umntu olungileyo. Ubhala phantsi umnqweno wakho, zicinge ngokwakho kukhethiweyo. Kwaye kwalapha kwenye yeqela lamashishini okanye iiholide unamenywa ukuba udansa umfokazi ontle. Ufana namaphupha akho. Umphambukeli ucela ukuba udansa, uyakhathalela, ngoko umhla wokuqala, wesibini, ulwalamano lwakho luyaqhubeka. Kwaye awukwazi ukuziqhayisa ukuba umntu onjalo ohlakaniphile wakhankanya kuwe. Yaye ke apho iingxaki ziqala khona. Ukuba unomntu ongathandabuzekiyo ukuba awufanelanga umntu onjalo, akafanelanga ukuthanda kwakhe, uqala ukuhlaziya ngaphakathi, ukulahla uvuyo lwakho. Bhala phantsi iimvakalelo zakho, ukungathandabuzeki kwakho, uqale usebenze nabo, zama ukuzitshabalalisa. Oku kuya kukunceda uphendule umbuzo wendlela yokwenza inhlanhla ngothando, kwaye ungashenxisi ulonwabo.

Kulo misonto, ezininzi iimeko zinokutshabalaliswa. Ngokomzekelo, wanikezelwa ukutshala imali yakho ekuthengeni umhlaba njengomnini-nxaxheba. Unqabile ixesha elide, ulindele into ethile, nangona abantu abanamava bathembisa inzuzo enhle. Kwaye ngoku ulahlekile umzuzu. Ekuqaleni kwakubonakala kuwe ukuba akukho nto ibuhlungu eyenzekayo, kodwa kwiminyaka embalwa kamva, abanomdla babenotyebi ngokuthengisa leli zwe, kwaye nishiywa nento. Utshitshise inhlanhla yakho, awufuni ukuyibeka ingozi. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umngcipheko kufuneka ulungele, ngoko kuyafuneka ukuba ufumane inkxaso kwaye uphulaphule iingcebiso zeengcali ezinolwazi.

Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unikwe indawo ehlawulwa kakhulu, kodwa wayesaba ukuba awuyi kukwazi ukujamelana nayo. Kwaye nangona ungaqinisekanga, indawo yakho ithathwe ngumntu onobungozi obengenako ukwesaba ubunzima.

Imizekelo yendlela yokutsala inhlanhla okanye ukuyikhupha ngaphandle. Sibone isizathu. Kukho ukwesaba, ukungafuni ukutshintsha nantoni na, ukungaqiniseki. Kuhlala nje ukuziqinisekisa ukuba ufanelwe umsebenzi olungcono, ulonwabo, ubutyebi. Xa usufuna impumelelo, unokuwufezekisa ngokusebenza kanzima kwaye usebenze ngokwakho. Inhlanhla ngokuyinhloko ngumsebenzi.

Siyathemba ukuba eli nqaku likuncede ukuphendula umbuzo wendlela yokukhangela inhlanhla. Yaye masibe yimpumelelo!