Ubudlelwane kwintsapho: iingcebiso zengqondo yengqondo kwintlalo ekhaya

Intsapho - le yindawo yokubunjwa kobuntu, kunye nabantu abasondeleyo, ebaluleke kunayo yonke into ayinakho. Ngoko ke, ubudlelwane beentsapho budlala indima enkulu, ephambili ekuphuhliseni kwengqondo kunye nenhlalakahle yamalungu ayo onke.

Iingcali zengqondo ziyahlula iintsapho zibe yimpumelelo kwaye zingaphumeleli, zihlala zizilungisa: nganye intsapho ineengxaki zayo. Ukuze kuncitshiswe iingxaki kwaye utshintshe imeko yezinto ekhaya, ulwazi oluyisiseko oluyisiseko luyimfuneko malunga neengqondo zentsapho kunye nomnqweno wokudala indawo enokuthi wonke umntu angahlakulela ngokohlobo oluthile lendlela, ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka nokukhathazeka okukhulu, iingxaki, iingcamango eziphosakeleyo ngehlabathi, Ngowe nabanye.

Ukuze ufezekise ezi njongo kwaye uzifundele, funda ukwakha ubudlelwane kwintsapho. Ingaba uyintloko yentsapho, umncedisi oyintloko endlwini okanye ngomntwana (nangona usuphelile kuma-20), awuyi kuthintelwa ukuba ufunde ngemithetho elula yokunxibelelana phakathi kwentsapho.

1. Musa ukuvala amehlo akho ekunyameni, faka omnye nomnye endaweni. Kwaye ukuba oko akunakwenzeka (kukho imeko ezinobungozi kwintlalo, umzekelo, kwimeko yomntu onxilisayo), ncokola nalo lentsapho kwinqanaba elincinci.
2. Funda ukuthetha. Ukuthetha ingxaki, simvumela ukuba iqabane, umntwana, umzali aqonde ukuba sele ekulungele ukuxoxa ngeendlela zokusombulula, ukufikelela kwi-compromise. Ngaloo ndlela, inhlonipho yomnye nomnye ibonakalisa, ngaphandle kokuba yeyiphi inxulumano oluqhelekileyo lwentsapho.
3. Khuthaza uncedo olufanayo, ukuphendula, umnqweno wokuchitha ixesha lokuzilibazisa kunye nazo zonke iindlela ezinokwenzeka (ululazi ukuba ngubani othanda into onokuyenza kuwo wonke umntu - le ngcaciso ifanele isetyenziswe). Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina lo mgaqo ukwenzela ukwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana kwintsapho. Ukuba unamanani amaninzi, gxi ninisa ukuba bazalwana kunye nodade (abazalwana okanye odade), ukuba bayazi kakuhle kwaye basondele kubo kwaye abayi kuze kubekho. Phinda ngoku njalo, abantwana bayamkela amazwi abazali babo. Kule minyaka, uza kubona ukuqinisekiswa kwalokhu, iinzame zakho kunye neengqalelo aziyi kudlula ngokukhululekile.
4. Njengoko uchitha ixesha lokuphumla, ngendlela, kubaluleke kakhulu. Ngokwahlukileyo? Ewe, kodwa kufuneka ube nento efanayo, kunye neqabane lakho kunye nabazali bakho nabantwana. Ukuya epakini, i-pizzeria, ivenkile, uhamba-zonke ezi zinto zibalulekileyo ziza kukubuthela, njengangaphambili.
5. Ubume bezithethe zentsapho kubalulekile . Ukuba akukho nanye, lixesha lokuza nabo. Iimveli zidibanisa, zomeleza umanyano phakathi kwendoda nomfazi kunye noqhagamshelwano nabantwana (oku kubaluleke nakwizinto ezifanelekileyo kubantwana abaselula). Ukunyuka kwi-grandparents, iholide yakhe, ukulungiswa ngokubambisana kwesitya esiyintandokazi, umhlobiso womthi weKrismesi-nokuba yinto. Ukuba kuphela izithethe zahlonishwa ngabo bonke. Ahlonishwa, lixesha lokuza nabanye.
6. Ubudlelwane kwintsapho kusekelwe ngokubanzi kwiimbopheleleko kunye noxanduva olubelwe phakathi kwakho. Imisebenzi kwintsapho yakho isele isetyenziswe. Upapa ungumcebisi okanye inkokeli yokomoya. Umama ngumfazi wendlu okanye ibhinqa le shishini. Kodwa kwimeko yemisebenzi, yonke into iyinkimbinkimbi. Wonke umntu kufuneka asebenze ngenduduzo. Ngesinye isikhathi, bhala phantsi, vumelani ngubani ophethe uxanduva, kwaye uyayicima intsapho yesizathu esivakalayo sokuxabana.
7. Gcina uthando: ebudlelwaneni nomlingane nabantwana. Akupheli ndawo naphina, ukuze bangathethi ngawo. Ukuba intsapho inentlonelo, ukuqonda nokunyaniseka, kuya kuba nothando. Ngoko, izibophelelo zakho aziphambani kunye neemeko ezithile kunye neentlekele. Uhlangene kwaye unamandla. Kule nto kubalulekile ukunyamekela omnye nomnye! Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuthatha ixesha lokuthetha nomntwana kunye nomlingane wakho, ngokukodwa nabazali bakho (nabo badinga nathi, njengoko senza kuzo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ixesha elidlulileyo lokuzalwa kwethu).

Ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho kufuneka ukuba uthathe inxaxheba rhoqo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uthatha inxaxheba kuni. Musa ukuthandana njengento efanelekileyo kunye neyaphakade. Ngokukhawuleza xa uvumela isimo sengqondo kubathandekayo bakho, intsapho iya kuqala ukunyuka. Cinga ngezinto onokuzenza kuloluhlu kwiintsapho zakho.