Xa ezama zonke iindlela loxolelaniso, xa vytrepany zonke luvo ediniwe onke amathuba, Bewacima kanye uthando kunye nabanye abantu ngamnye bafikelela kwisigqibo sokuba lo mtshato phakathi kwabo kunqandwa. Ukuba kuchaphazela kwiindawo ezimbini kuphela, esi sibini ngokuzola ukuya kwi-ofisi yobhaliso, ubhale isicelo kwaye ufumane amaxwebhu ayimfuneko kunye noshicilelo. Kodwa nantsi imeko apho isigqibo kuchaphazela kwakhona ubomi encinane. Ngoko ke umbuzo "njani kwifayile uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuba kukho abantwana," iseti ayikho kwi-ofisi yobhaliso, uye enkundleni. Kaloku, xa abantwana bakhula, wayeneminyaka eli-18, ngoko ke babe nobomi babo. Kubo, abazali akusekho ukuhlangana. Kodwa ukuba abantwana zisencinci, ngoko ke kufuneka bobabini abazali, impumelelo kunye nothando. Kwaye oku ingongoma moot, nto leyo onelungelo ngokusemthethweni lokwenza isigqibo kuphela enkundleni. Apha lube efanelekileyo mbuzo: "How do I fayile-mtshato, ukuba kukho umntwana?"
Ngale kulula ukubhala, kodwa kunzima ukuphumeza practice yonke. Xa abantu abasemzini epheleleyo omnye komnye, ukuphila phantsi kophahla olunye utshintshwa esihogweni ophilayo. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abantwana musani ukuba aphile kulo. Xa imozulu ezimpontshelwa kwindawo imeko uqhushumbo, kuya kuba lula bonke ukuba uya buthathaka, nokuba mtshato. Ingozi ukuba abazali zaziligezela omnye komnye yaye baphile ngaphandle. Ngokufuthi le miba sele bukhona kule ntsapho Kudala phambi kokuba ukubhaliswa kwazo okusemthethweni. Hayi kuba ngenye imini, abantu abasemzini epheleleyo omnye komnye. Ingxaki ayikho kwanoko ufuna ukusa into ukwabelana, bonke kwakhona ukuqala. Ngako oko abantu basoloko nangaphandle mtshato, yaye ngokufuthi ngokuzithandela uyavuma babancedise. Intlekele real iqala xa abantu liyayeka ukusebenza ngokuchanekileyo, enze izenzo ngokungafanelekileyo, lokuxhaphaza abantwana nezalamane. Uqhawulo - uvavanyo enzima, nekufuneka ukuba idlulele ekubeni imfazwe kunye ngxabano. Ngoko ke, eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu abazali abazi - kukuba ukuqhuba umtshato, ukuba kukho umntwana, ngendlela ezolileyo, ezinzileyo kunye noxanduva. Ngapha koko, le nezengqondo ezibaluleke kakhulu lo mntwana ngaphezu kobutyebi kunye inzuzo yabucala.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenze - kukuba ndizole. Kwaye kuphela Yabe ngaphandle imvakalelo ukuba bayazibuza malunga nendlela kwifayile-mtshato, ukuba kukho umntwana. Ukuze lula le nkqubo krakra imela ekuqaleni yonke into ukuba thethana bodwa. Kufuneka ukuba bavumelane ubunyani mtshato, ngoko ke efanayo ngokupheleleyo. Kufuneka kubekho akukho mabango impahla nxamnye omnye komnye. Ukuze zicaciswe ngubani yaye apho uya kuphila, kunokuba ube njalo-njalo. Kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba kukho ukuvumelana jikelele malunga umntwana; ungubani na, njengoko siza kubona kunye nomnye umzali, owayesakuba ngumlingane kuya kufuneka ukunceda ekufundiseni nokuxhasa umntwana. Ukuba le miba ziyasonjululwa phakathi kwakho, i inkqubo komtshato enkundleni ayikho eyahlukileyo ngokukodwa kwiinkqubo yesiqhelo amaxwebhu omthetho.
Ukanti umbuzo ngayo kwifayile uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuba kukho umntwana, namanje evulekile. Akukho mntu uthanda ukumbambezela ngeenxa iyasebenza ungazama ukunciphisa lwephepha, kwaye ke ngoko kufuneka ukuba. Okokuqala, bhala ingxelo ekhoyo sample kulingo nganye, nto leyo ebonisa zonke i data, izibakala ityala, okanye akukho sivumelwano sifikelelwayo, kwakunye aqulunqe isicelo enkundleni. Unga bhala naluphi na uhlobo, kodwa ngokucacileyo ngokufutshane. Le Nkundla akadingi iimvakalelo kunye nengqumbo, kwaye kuphela iinyaniso. Isicelo ngomumo ukumisa iikopi zokundwendwela, iziqinisekiso umtshato nokuzalwa kwabantwana, kokufumana intlawulo yeefizi karhulumente kunye namanye amaxwebhu zoshishino ezinxulumene. Kwaye konke oku ngokuyimfuneko in duplicate. Ukuba uqhagamshelane nommeli kwi non-ungquzulwano iimeko kakhulu. Kodwa ukucacisa inkqubo iindleko zakho kwinkundla ethile. I-ofisi Inkundla iya kusoloko ukunika ulwazi oluyimfuneko kunye neenkcukacha.
Inkqubo esemthethweni iqalisile, yaye kungekudala emva koko iya kuziswa esiphelweni. Kodwa ke ukuziphatha umbuzo ukuthanda sentuthumbo ithuba elide ixesha. Indlela kwifayile uqhawulo-mtshato, ukuba kukho umntwana, kwaye kulungile?