A iingcebiso ezimbalwa malunga nendlela ukuba umntu amale umfazi wakhe

Namhlanje, uqhawulo-mtshato akumangalisi, nokuba abantu baye bagqiba ekubeni ukuhamba, kuba akukho ukothuka iya kuba njengokuba kwakunjalo ngaphambili. Kukho intetho ethi ohamba, ukuze babone ukuba ubuso lokwenyaniso umntu kuphela emva komtshato.

On emhlabeni

Efuna ngokupheleleyo zibakhethe ubuhlobo naloo mfazi, loo mntu kufuneka isigqibo apho amale umfazi wakhe bhetele. Kuba oku kukho ezimbini iinketho: kudlulwe kwi-ofisi yobhaliso okanye inkundla. Uqhawulo kulula ngoncedo yeziko yokuqala, kodwa kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba kwimeko enjalo, igunya lolawulo akathwali uxanduva ukwahlulwa kwepropati. Ngamafutshane, le ofisi yobhaliso isibini yokwahlukana lula yaye wathumela ekhaya. Bonke. Amanqaku uthi abe isibini ukuba abulawe kuphela omnye komnye. Kodwa ke apho kukho umngcipheko wokuba umfazi ukunganyaniseki azame ukuthabatha isabelo enkulu kwempahla joint , kwaye ashiye indoda yakhe ngaphandle idenariyo. Unakho, Kakade ke, kwisithuba seminyaka emithathu emva kokuba ukuqhawulwa komtshato ukufaka isuti yoluntu. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuya kunceda kuphela kuloo meko, ukuba ipropati akayi kuthengiswa kwaye ziya kuqhubeka loo yantlukwano. Ukuhlaziya ukuba iqhawule umtshato njani kakuhle nomfazi wakhe, le ndoda ingaphinda zama sokuphelisa neentlobano zokwazana ngoncedo lentendelezo. Ngoko enye ipropati kunye nabelane ngokufanelekileyo. Noko ke, kule meko, abafazi ukumangalela kwaye ukunyanzela umntu ukuba ahlawule isondlo (ukuba kukho izizathu zokumenza njalo).

isivumelwano umshado

Indlela imale umfazi wayo? Kubalulekile ukuqonda Kubalulekile ukuba yonke impahla zomtshato ziza kwabiwa kuphela kubini. Abantwana kuza kufuneka ukuba bahlale kunye nomama wabo, ukuba ngokuzimeleyo sikhethe na abafuna ukuya siphila kwiimeko ezimbalwa abazali. Babe ngokuba ezi zinto zimbini akuyomfuneko emntwini. Nakuba kunjalo, utshintsho into yonke kutyobelwa ebudeni isivumelwano lomtshato, apho bokuqonda ezahlukeneyo lingakhankanywa ngamnye kakade. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba xwebhu silawula ubudlelwane ebonakalayo kakhulu lwasekhaya, ngoxa nkqu inani yonyaka lotyelelo kusapho okanye kunina-in-mthetho ukuba umiselwe eYurophu.

On isimo

Ukuhlaziya ukuba iqhawule umtshato njani kakuhle nomfazi wakhe, indoda kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba eyona nto ibalulekileyo kule shishini - yokubala owomileyo kunye intloko epholileyo. Ukufumana uncedo, qhagamshelana igqwetha ngenxa iimpikiswano athe umntu banokuba pole sikhundla. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, ixhoba ngandlela nikholwe nenekazi. Ngoko ke, ebudeni Inkqubo yokuqhawulwa komtshato kukwabalulekile ukuba umntu nje ukuba baziphathe kakuhle: Musa ukuba krwada emfazini wakhe, baze ngokuqinisekileyo uchithe izandla zakhe. Kwakhona kuhle ukuba ukuhlutha abantwana (ukuba ikhona). Xa ngokunxulumene wabo kuyise, inkundla nabo kwizigqibo ezithile.

ubuhlobo entsha

Ukuhlaziya ilahle ngayo umfazi wakhe, umntu kufuneka akhumbule ukuba ulwalamano entsha, iziko yeengxoxo komtshato, akuyi kuya kudlala ezandleni (ukuba umtshato iya ngokusemthethweni kwinkundla). Ukuba sele unayo umfazi ayithandayo, kodwa akukho mntu wazi ukuba akukho mfuneko, kungcono ukuhlala nabahlobo okanye nabazali.

nokugcina ubuhlobo

Efuna ukwazi ukuba iqhawule umtshato njani umfazi wakhe, elowo uya kuba cebiso luncedo: zange kufuneka ukutshisa imizila. Vumela sibini zange ukusebenza, kwaye seku- umtshato, kodwa kakhulu kule meko ungalahli intloko yakho ungazaphuli ngokupheleleyo ulwalamano. Ingakumbi xa intsapho abantwana kunye. Ngamanye amaxesha, kungakhathaliseki apho, kuya kufuneka ukuba bawele ethile ukuthetha. Ngoko ke kungcono ex-nomfazi kuhlala abahlobo ngaphezu kweentshaba efungelweyo. Okanye ubuncinane zama ukusondela kuyo.