Amalungelo umntwana entsatsheni

Usapho iseli encinane, kodwa kubalulekile yoluntu, nto leyo ekugqibeleni yenzeka kakhulu isiganeko esibalulekileyo, oko kukuthi, ukuzalwa umntu omthandayo, umntwana omncinci. Ngaphandle kokuba umntwana ongaphantsi kweminyaka elishumi elinesibhozo yokusebenza uxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kubazali babo ekuzalweni, ezuza ngokuzenzekelayo amalungelo. Ilungelo yokuqala umntwana entsatsheni lilele yokuba kufuneka aphile kwaye abafundileyo, ukwazi abazali babo, enoba utshatile okanye uhlala ngaphandle, kakade, ngaphandle xa abazali bemvelo ulwazi ayaziwa.

amalungelo asisiseko umntwana entsatsheni akukho nje malunga ukulondolozwa ngabazali, xa wadibana zonke iimfuno yakhe, kodwa xa une umdla wokwenene yonke into ekhathaza umntwana noko eziyingqongileyo kuyo. Ngoko ke, kuqala kwiinto zonke, ingqalelo yabazali, uthando, inzala, xa abazali bayakwazi ukunceda ekujonganeni ezahlukeneyo lwangaphakathi kunye ungquzulwano phakathi, ukuze kwizidingo ebomini, hlakulela uthando kwabanye, ukuphuhlisa ukuzithemba, kwakunye nokuthintela ubukho kunye nophuhliso olunokubakho ziingcinga ezingcolileyo kunye kakubi. Ukuze umntwana kuyimfuneko ukuze adale iimeko ukugqibezela imfundo, ukunika unxibelelwano zombini unina kunye Pope, kwakunye nabazali babazali bakhe, noodade, bazalwana, nazo zonke izalamane zakhe.

Ngawaphi amalungelo ntoni na umntwana? Ekuzalweni, ufanele ukufumana igama patronymic, nekufuneka kubonisiwe isiqinisekiso sokuzalwa. Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba igama eyabelwe abazali bobabini ngokwesivumelwano, kulo mzekelo, banikwe uyise okanye kwifani kamama, njengoko kumiselwa ngokudibeneyo kunye negama sana; kodwa igama lokuqala esabelwa njengoko ngegama likayise. By the way-14 iminyaka umntwana ngokwakhe unalo ilungelo lokutshintsha igama lakhe kunye negama lokugqibela, bhala ingxelo kwabasemagunyeni kuyimfuneko. Amalungelo umntwana entsatsheni lilele into yokuba, nakuba ekwaluphaleni kwakhe, yena uyakwazi ukuthetha ngokupheleleyo iimbono zabo onke amaxesha, ngokukodwa xa umba kuchaphazela umdla ayo. Kwakhona, umntwana unako ukusebenzisa ngokupheleleyo ilungelo ubunini ku ingeniso okanye naluphi na uhlobo yepropati edluliselwe njengesipho okanye ilifa, kwakunye nokusetyenziswa nokulawula yonke impahla abazali babo xa behlala kunye.

Ndingathanda ukukhankanya into yokuba ukukhuselwa kwamalungelo abantwana entsatsheni ngendlela lolawulo, ukunyhashwa kwamalungelo lobuzali kunye nokuxhatshazwa komntwana, olwenziwa yi-arhente zokunyanzelisa umthetho, kwakunye namagunya ngabalondolozi, elugcinweni, abatshutshisi kunye iinkundla. Amaxesha amaninzi, abazali silibale ukuba amalungelo umntwana entsatsheni kubaluleke kangaka nje amalungelo abantu abadala, ngoko khumbula ukuba umntwana nantoni na yaye andizange ububi ngabazali babo, oko wazalwa okanye yintoni bezisa iingxaki ezongezelelekileyo kungafaneleki kulindelekileyo kunye ezilindelekileyo abazali babo. Umntwana wakho, njengoko impahla nabani na, ukuba lo mntu, umntu ngamnye ezizimeleyo, bawaphule Isiphelo sakhe, ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba uya ekunene, akukho namnye umntu unelungelo. Abazali Kwelinye icala, ehlola iminqweno, ubuchule kunye notyekelo kufuneka ukunceda nokukhokela umntwana kwi ekunene endleleni ebomini. Kufuneka uyavuma, oko rhoqo ebomini, kukho iimeko xa umntwana kuyanyanzeleka ukuba ahambe, umzekelo, isikolo umculo, yaye emva kwethutyana, singathandi nje esi sixhobo kwaye engaqondanga baqale wowudela abazali babo, anyanzela ukuba ukujongana ayikho umdla uyadika into ngathi.

Khumbula ukuba umntwana njengokuba nawuphi na umntu omdala kunye namava amanye akakwazi kuhlala ezilulamileyo, ngobulawu ngokugqibeleleyo ukuzalisekisa iminqweno yabazali. Kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba uninzi sivumelane abantwana kona abazali ngenxa yokuba ukuqonda ixesha yakhe, wabeka izimvo zabo, Wambuza esithi ukuba akwazi ukuyenza, ngamanye amazwi, zange kwaye ndafunda ukuba kube njalo kuba yintoni na.