Civil Marriage: ubuhle nobubi

Namhlanje kwilizwe lethu uhlobo oluxhaphakileyo co-ukubakho kwamadoda nabafazi uye waba ligosa likarhulumente, oko kukuthi luhlobo abahlala kunye, ukulima, nokuzala, njl, oko akuthethi ukuba ubhaliso ngokusemthethweni lezibini kwabantu. Malunga izizathu zokuba umtshato yoluntu kwaduma, singathetha ixesha elide - yeyona ilahleko umtshato emveli, nto leyo esiqingqiweyo ngurhulumente njengenye imiba engundoqo yomthetho yobukho bomntu, ukubaluleka kwayo owayesakuba ezingqondweni zabemi, kunye neendleko ngokwanelisayo ephakamileyo inkqubo ngokwayo, kwaye rhoqo ukuthingaza abantu yeleyo naziphi na izibophelelo. Eneneni, izizathu zokuba kutheni abantu bakhetha umtshato yoluntu lukhulu, kodwa zama ukuqonda ukuba yintoni eyenza eziluncedo umtshato yoluntu kunye neengozi ilungu ngalinye wombutho enjalo. Xa umtshato civil abalandeli ezininzi, kodwa akukho ngaphantsi kwe iqela bangi, ngoko ukuze baqonde oko iingenelo kunye nengeloncedo ilungu ngalinye lifumana intsapho yinqobo kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba wenze iimpazamo.

Izinto eziluncedo zomtshato waseburhulumenteni badla ziquka ithuba lokufunda omnye ekuthini nguyena wongamileyo, ngoko ukuthi "bakuqhele 'abantu beze kuwo. Kubalulekile ukuphawula ukuba kungenzeka onjalo pfuna abaninzi baqonde baze baqonde indlela bekhululekile uya yokuhlalisana kunye neqabane ekhethiweyo, kodwa kulo mzekelo, imeko isenokuvela xa ingxaki encinane ezivelayo ngokuyimfuneko iyasonjululwa ngokuchanekileyo ukusuka kwindawo nembono ephangaleleyo ngokuphathelele intsapho zemveli kunye Oku kuqhuba umphumo kuphela - bayahamba.

Uncedo yesibini - ukugcina imali. Njengoko kuvakala corny, kodwa imali namhlanje idlala indima enkulu kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi kunye nosapho kungekho ngaphandle. Eneneni, inkqubo yomtshato zemveli kufuna ukuba inkcitho enkulu kangangoko, ubukhulu nto leyo edla onzima ngokungenela emtshatweni abantu, ingakumbi abantu abatsha. Ukongeza akukho mfuneko ukuchitha imali emtshatweni, ngabantu abahlala neqabano ulwalamano, obizwa ngokuba zalo eziluncedo kwi nomba obalulekileyo ithuba 'cheat "kurhulumente. Umzekelo, abasetyhini abaninzi kufumana iinzuzo eyenzelwe koomama abangatshatanga, nangona babe okwaziyo kakhulu yaye esibathandayo, nangona indoda "ndiseyimbumba".

Zama, ngokuqinisekileyo unako ukufumana ezinye izinto ezintle yokunqongophala "isiqinisekiso somtshato", kodwa iza kugxila inkcazelo emfutshane oko bendlela Umtshato waseburhulumenteni badla abe sisithintelo ukuba senziwe isigqibo malunga yokungena ubuhlobo obunjalo:

- ubudlelwane ukungakhuseleki zezoMthetho kunye nemiba substantive ngokuhlalisana;

- Ukungabikho ingqiqo epheleleyo uxanduva phakathi amaqabane ngabanye kunye abantwana kunye;

- imiba efanekileyo neyokuziphatha, ngokufuthi wabonakalaliswa ngenxa yokungabikho eqinisekisa esemthethweni ngeqhina lomtshato.

- Ukungabikho a ngokupheleleyo ukuqonda oko intsapho nabantwana abazelwe ngabazali kodwa ndicinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukwenza itayi kwiqhina.

Kakade ke, nangona oku kungentla, umntu ngamnye isigqibo ngokwakhe ngendlela ukwakha ubomi bakhe. Inye kuphela into endifuna ukuyithetha le into nasiphi na isigqibo kufuneka ibe isibini kunye, ngononophelo kwaye ngabom. Ubuhlobo kufuneka bonwabe ngokwembono ngokwasengqondweni, kwaye ukwenza oko bakwazi ukunceda kodwa uthando kunye nokuqonda, kunye ebusweni notorious "zibhubha" kwi yokundwendwela akuthethi ukudlala indima enkulu kangaka kakhulu. Kuphela ngabantu abangakwaziyo baqonde ngokwenene yaye ayabathanda abo babathandayo bayakwazi postorit usapho eyomeleleyo, enoba oko engabizwanga ngayo elifutshane.