Indlela ukuba kuhlala umntu osela utywala ngokugqithisileyo?

Indlela ukuba kuhlala umntu osela utywala ngokugqithisileyo? Ekubeni kwasungulwa utywala izigidi abafazi ngokuzibuza le mbuzo, kodwa wayesoloko wahlala ayiphendulwanga. Yaye ngaba kubiza njani ukuhlala ubomi Elucweyweni umntu asanelanga, ngubani na imfuneko enye kuphela - ukunxila? Xa bengqondo kukho umba "codependent" - umntu ophila ne linxila, oxabisa izalamane zakhe, ebhekisela kuye uthando uzama ukuqonda. umfazi Codependent njalo ukukuchazela ndedwa elilandelayo indoda esibi udiniwe, imini nzima, iingxaki emsebenzini, okanye, icala, iholide, uvuyo ...

Ngaphandle esazi ngayo, aba bantu azisebenzi esi sifo, kwaye kuyo. umnqweno wabo onyanisekileyo kukukhupha ekupheleni ukubandezeleka simncede ukubuyela endleleni ekunene kuwuvule kuphela le ngxaki. Yintoni na umntu ixhomekeke ukunikezela mikhwa zabo, ukuba ukunyamezela ukungakhululeki, ukuze nditshintshe indlela endizenza, ukuba kusoloko umntu abakufutshane uxolele, ukuqonda nokusombulula zonke iingxaki?

Ukuze siphendule lo mbuzo, indlela kuhlala linxila, kufuneka uqonde xa ufuna ukwenza ukuba ubomi naye. Ukuba intsapho abantwana abachatshazelwe ngehambo uyise, mhlawumbi yayiza simse ukuhlukana nomntu onjalo. Xa kunjalo, imeko ngamnye, yaye kuphela nxaxheba isigqibo - ukuba kunye okanye ngaphandle. Xa zisetyenziswa kunye, ngoko kukho amanyathelo athile anokunceda ukutshintsha le meko.

Inyathelo 1: nikhwebuke codependency. Kufuneka uqonde into inkxalabo yakho kunye noxolelo kunceda mntu. Kakade ke, maxa wambi kumnandi ukuhlala ixhoba, bethetha "umnqamlezo wakhe 'ukuba ebomini, kodwa ukuba le ndima ngokwenene umbuzo wakho, indlela yokuphila kunye nomyeni wakhe linxila, kungaphinde - uya kuphila ukuba ubomi bufana.

Inyathelo 2: Khangela umthombo wenkxaso ngaphandle usapho. Kufuneka ukuba ube ezinye uhlobo amadimoni (abahlobo, izalamane), inkxaso siya kuhamba nge ubunzima umzabalazo kunye neqabane butywala. Ezibaluleke kakhulu kuya kukunceda abantu babe ngawenu amava ngempumelelo soyise le ngxaki. Ukuba kunokwenzeka, hamba kwi kwiiseshoni zeqela yookopoletyeni abaxhomekeke kuwe.

Inyathelo 3: Beka imiqathango iqabane. Ukuba ngenene wagqiba ukutshintsha ubomi bam, silindele ilize, kuyimfuneko ukuqala kule ngcaciso imfutshane. Beka umyeni wakhe isaziso ukuba xa ufuna ukuba nentsapho, kufuneka ngoko nangoko uqale unyango, ngokuba abaphila linxila, akusekho ujonge. Ukuba abantu bafune uncedo okanye ukwala ukusela wena ke ingozi yayo kufuneka enze - ushiye nje.

Inyathelo 4: Cinga ukhetho. Kunye nokulungisa iinketho eziliqela kunye nomyeni wakhe - ukuba aye okanye ngubani ukuba uncedo apho.

Inyathelo 5: lulekani umthwalo uxanduva engaphezulu. Awukwazi ukuphila ubomi bomnye umntu. Kuphela ugqiba ukuba ukukhetha: usapho okanye utywala. Yaye olo khetho azinampembelelo akakwazi. Ukuba umntu wakhetha yokugqibela - hayi kwi yakho nandzu.

Inyathelo 6: ukuqonda wena. Ukuba Ukwalamana, ngoko, ngasizathu sithile, baya kufuneka. Bayazi okanye engaqondanga, nina nitsala kubo mandincedeke ngokwabo. Mhlawumbi umtshato ubuthathaka, umntu oxhomekeke, ekwenza uzive unamandla, ngempumelelo ngakumbi, elunge ngakumbi. Ukuba oku kuyinyaniso, cinga ngoko ezinye iindlela ukufikelela iimvakalelo ezifanayo kwaye bakhulise nokuzixabisa. Mhlawumbi kufuneka ukutshintsha imisebenzi okanye ukufunda into entsha?

Indlela ukujongana umntu osela utywala ngokugqithisileyo? Okokuqala, qonda ukuba alwe kufuneka kwenzeke indoda, nokuba nesi sifo. Kwaye ke umlweli iphambili kuyo ifanele ibe nje ngokwakhe zixhomekeke. Yima kwicala intanda yakhe, ngubani wagqiba ukutshintsha ubomi babo, kusini na isigqibo, musa ukuvumela babalekele nikuyeke ke niyiyeke; kwandule ke umbuzo yendlela kuhlala linxila, buphinde bube kwintsapho yakho.