Indlela ukuba ayeke amavila, okanye yonke sobuvila

Wonke umntu okungenani kanye ebomini babo (kwaye, mhlawumbi, kwaye ngaphezu kwesihlandlo) bafumana kule meko: buxoki esofeni, intaba udoti, apho kuya kuba yimfuneko ukwenza phandle phezu ingxelo gqitywanga itafile kunye oonobumba abalishumi e-mail, nto leyo kufuneka iphendulwe, kwaye ulale kwaye ucinga ukuba zonke izinto zenziwa kamva. Kwaye njengoko nazi, ukuba izinto musani ukwenza oku, kodwa ndifuna ukuba uzibeke emva phezu kamva, kunye ezifana Oblomov, umsebenzi ubonakala injongo elikude, kodwa uyathandeka.

Noko ke, oko kuyenzeka ukuba umntu akenzi nto elinye kwaye elinye, ngelo xesha ethuka yena; Ehlupheka, kodwa andikwazi ukwenza into malunga naloo nto. Phambi kokuba wazi ukuba yintoni ekufanele siyenze nendlela ukuba ayeke ukonqena, kufuneka uqonde ukuba iintlobo sobuvila zenzeka. Kukho iindidi ezahlukeneyo, umzekelo, uhlobo ukonqena, xa ngenene ukuba ungenzi nantoni na yaye elele phantsi, ntsho ndijonge phezulu, okanye ezinye - xa usenza into, kodwa ufuna ntoni, ngokubeka izinto ezibalulekileyo kamva.

Ngoko ke, yintoni na ubuvila? Psychology inikeza ilula kakhulu kwaye ngqo impendulo: ubuvila - oko ke Ukungavumi okanye ukungakwazi ukwenza. Ngamanye amaxesha utyekelo ubuvila wesinxibo nesimilo ngokwemvelo, ukuba oko kubangelwe awohluke yesimo, kwiimeko ezinjalo, umntu kunzima ukutshintsha. Noko ke, ngokufuthi nobuvila kukho isizathu esithile. Kukho izizathu ezininzi, yaye ngokuxhomekeke yintoni kanye eyenza umntu ukuba enze nantoni na, kufuneka ukhethe indlela ayeke njani ukuba livila.

rhoqo kwenzeka ngenxa ubuvila ... nesithukuthezi, umntu yinto nje 'umdla into ayenzayo. enokukhomba isifo kakhulu abafundi abakhetha ukufunda, kodwa ukuchitha ixesha ezinomdla kakhulu kubo ingqesho, ngokuba abantu aneliseke ngomsebenzi wabo, kodwa ukulungele ukutshintsha nantoni na. Indlela ukuba ayeke lazy kule meko? Impendulo izicacele, kufuneka utshintshe umsebenzi okanye ukuphinda-ukufumana into umdla into oyenzayo, oko kunokwenzeka, ukufumana izizathu esinzulu koqhubekeko koqeqesho yangoku ezikumgangatho ophezulu. Umzekelo, izizathu umntu esebenza - kukuphucula umgangatho kunye nentlalo-ntle zemali. Ungazama diversify thile yesiqhelo, kodwa ukuba ngalo mzuzu akunakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe into, unalo inkxaso self-discipline, leyo yeyona ndlela yokulwa ubuvila ezinxulumene ne disorganization.

Disorganization njenge yimfanelo ubhalo - oku esinye isizathu eqhelekileyo sokuba abantu amavila. Kwimeko yokunqongophala mbutho oko kufuna umsebenzi rhoqo ngokwakhe, ziyabanceda uluhlu lwe imihla, zaveza ishedyuli kwizithuba ezimfutshane kodwa rhoqo, egcine kwidayari. Kuyimfuneko ukuba ukujongana kwimicimbi ukubaleka kwaye abayi kuvunyelwa ukuba yande izinto. Ngaphezu koko, kubalulekile ukuchaza ngokucacileyo iinjongo kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuba kufikelelwe kubo, imisebenzi ezincinane. Uyakwazi ufunde imigaqo yolawulo ixesha, kwaye balahle sobuvila, yaye umsebenzi uya kuba mnandi.

Ubuvila ukuze kunokubangelwa ukudinwa kakhulu emzimbeni okanye emphefumlweni okubangelwa luxinzelelo okanye iimvakalelo. Kulo mzekelo, ndahlukane sobuvila - kuba nakuphumla. Ukusuka ukudinwa ngokweemvakalelo kunceda ikhefu eyakhayo - hayi i elele yokumisa esofeni, kunye naluphi na utshintsho ndithanda, uhambo nemvelo, into oyithandayo entsha. Ukuba udinwe emzimbeni, akuyi kufuneka bazibeke kwaye uphethwe yintoni na zikhululeni izinto ezibalulekileyo, yamkela nje into yokuba ufuna ukuphumla, kwaye uzinike ithuba achache, ukuzilolonga kunokuba sibe nefuthe kuyingenelo kwi imeko ngokubanzi. Hi ndlela leyi, lo mdlalo unceda nazo zonke iintlobo sobuvila.

Kukho ukonqena, ukungakhathali, nzima kakhulu kwi zengqondo yeplani of lobuvila. Kuyenzeka ukuba akukho mntu ekholisa, yena akaboni phambi kwakhe intsingiselo yobomi kwaye engaliqondi into kwenza ntoni ngobomi bam. Kule meko ke, umbuzo ongundoqo uba uyeke hayi ukuba uyonqena, kodwa umbuzo aphinde njani incasa ubomi. Ungazama ukuqonda ngokwabo, ukutshintsha izinto, yenza uluhlu lweenjongo kunye nezicwangciso, ukuze iphupha. Noko ke, maxa wambi kuhle ukuba ufune uncedo lobungcali.

Kukho iimeko apho izenzo njengendlela Magwalandini ukukhusela nxamnye ndoyisiwe. Masithi ufuna ukuqala umsebenzi iprojekthi entsha, neento zonke ezibekelwe bucala, mhlawumbi ukuba woyika nje ukuba yonke into aya kuba kuhle ngendlela obungathanda, okanye bayoyika ukuba umsebenzi engalunganga. Kulo mzekelo, indlela enye phandle - ukuvuma uloyiko lwabo uthabathe ubungozi, ngokuba ukwenza umsebenzi kusafuneka.