Indlela yokukhulisa inkwenkwe ngokufanelekileyo kule minyaka yokuqala yobomi bakhe

Kudla ngokuthi abazali bafuna ukuba intombazana okanye inkwenkwe. Kodwa ziye zicinge ngomahluko kwinkqubo yezemfundo, apho zixhomekeke besini wosana? Kodwa ukuze kufundiswe njani inkwenkwe, indlela akhule ngayo evela indoda yokwenene - ngumcimbi onobuzaza kakhulu yaye ezininzi.

Loo mntwana wazalelwa

Xa wazalelwa unyana, omnye wemisebenzi yokuqala ukumnika igama indoda yokwenene kaThixo. Kulo mzekelo, iisayikholojisti musa singacebisi enika amagama kabini, afana Eugene, Valentin okanye uYuliyo. Umbala oluhlaza kwi iingubo Musa ukudlala indima enkulu ekumisweni sobudoda. Kusenokwenzeka, isidingo sokuba abazali, bona ngaloo ndlela, njengoko uqhubukusha nabanye ukuba umkhaya ukhula yindoda yokwenene.

Kunyaka wokuqala wobomi

Ehlabathini ekupheleni konyaka wokuqala wobomi, abazali, zindla umbuzo indlela yokukhulisa inkwenkwe kakuhle, abantu baya kuqaphela ukuba usana lwabo othanda ingxabano. Ngaloo ndlela ubonisa "Mna" yakhe, ubonisa inkululeko yakhe. kwezi mpawu leengcali ngokuba "kunyaka wokuqala ntlekele." Ngeli xesha, ngokubonakalayo ukusekwa nje ubuntu, unyana wakhe, kodwa ukuzimisela kwakhe, inkululeko, kunye nokuzixabisa. Abazali njani aziphathe kule meko? Simele sizame kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngokukhuselekileyo ukunyanga ezi mpawu. Musa ukuzama refract uhlobo womntwana, ngamadlelane kunye naye ukunceda isigulane and weasel. Kule minyaka, amakhwenkwe kufuneka uthando nokuthantamisa, akukho amantombazana ngaphantsi, ngokulandelelana, wamanga okanye ukwanga uya kwenza bubi kuphuhliso amadoda elizayo. Yiloo nto ke imfundo yabantwana e Islam na ukwahlula phakathi kwabo kweli yobudala ngesini: amakhwenkwe kunye namantombazana kukho bayalingana. Nakuba kunjalo, kufuneka ukuvumela i inkwenkwe twist encinane intambo: igunya lobuzali kufanele komeleze uthando nenyameko yakho. Kodwa nantsi ke kungcono ukuba ukwazi umlinganiselo, ngenxa yokuba umntwana udinga self-isiqiniselo, ngoko ngoyaba iminqweno yakhe, izicelo kwixesha elizayo abanokuyidlala nawe yintlekisa embi. Zengqondo Siyaleza kwakhona abazali ukuba ukubuza imibuzo malunga indlela yokukhulisa inkwenkwe ngokufanelekileyo, musa ukusebenzisa xa ebhekisela unyana ka "sana" genderless, "lapulya" ... Le ukhetho engcono kungaba ukuza unyango, sigxininise ungubani ngesondo, ezifana "iliwa lam", "unyana" "iqhawe" njalo-njalo.

Abafana abangaphezu kweminyaka yobudala eli emithathu

Ehlabathini abazali waphawula ukuba usana aba kwiminyaka emithathu elizimeleyo. Kule minyaka, itakane ukufunda intsebenziswano phakathi kwabantu, ukufunda ukuqonda ukuba yintoni na engalunganga yaye yintoni na elungileyo. Yaba ngeli xesha, inkwenkwe ubonakala abafuna ukunxibelelana nabantu, babe nesibindi, womelele, ukhaliphe. Ngoku ke yeyona kufanelekile ukuba abazali abo uyazibuza "njani ukufundisa le nkwenkwe," uya kunika isikhokelo ekunene, bonisa zokuziphatha kakhulu boqobo eyindoda (ngokuqinisekileyo positive). Umama kwase yokutyala "knight", kufuneka ubone oko, kuqala kwiinto zonke, umntu omncinane, ukukhetha indawo wesini ngokuncipha. Kuba self-nkwenkwe iya kuba luncedo ukuba adibane naye, anduluke womelele (umzekelo, zibonisa ukuba, ngaphandle kwalo, ubuya ngokuqinisekileyo bawile). Kwaye khumbula, imfundo yokomoya yabantwana iqala ngalo mzuzu xa abazali kubanika ukuba baqonde ukuba amalungu entsapho ngokupheleleyo-enobugcisa.