Indlela yokukhulisa umfana ovela kumntwana

Ukukhulisa umntwana yinkqubo enzima kwaye inzima. Kumele ube ngumzali. Kukho uluvo lokuba uyise ufanele akhulise le nkwenkwe, kwaye intombazana-unina. Akunanto. Umbuzo wendlela yokukhulisa inkwenkwe yindoda, ngamnye umzali uyabuzwa. Nguyise onomntu osebenza njengomzekelo wokulingisa. Xa ejonge uyise, umntwana osele ekhulayo udala ingcamango yendlela indoda okufanele iziphatha ngayo ebomini, ishishini, abafazi.

Imodeli yokuziphatha komzali ihlehliswe entloko yentsana ngokugqithiseleyo kwinqanaba elincinci. Ukuze umntwana akhule abe ngummeli ofanelekileyo kuluntu, kuyimfuneko ukumnika umzekelo omhle ukususela ebusaneni, nokuba kwimeko apho konke kungabikho kolawulo. Kunzima ukukhulisa umntwana. Unyaka ongu-1 unyaka xa umntu sele sele eqala ukwenza, kwaye imemori ukugcina ngokucophelela yonke into efumaneka kwihlabathi langaphandle. Nguye upapa omele abonise umntwana izinto ezisisiseko. Ukuqala nendlela yokuya kwindlu yangasese (umama akakwazi ukuwufundisa ngomzekelo wakhe), nokuphela nendlela yokuthetha nabafazi.

Awudingi ukuba nolwazi olukhethekileyo ukwazi indlela yokuphakamisa inkwenkwe yindoda. Kwanele ukufundisa imithetho elula yokuziphatha ngokususela ebuntwaneni bokuqala. Umzekelo, amagama aqhelekileyo:

• Ndiyabonga;
• Nceda;
• Hamba kakuhle;
• Sawubona.

Zilula, kodwa kufuneka zihlale zikhona entetho yomntu omdala, umntwana uya kukopisha, ngokukhawuleza aqonde oko kwaye yintoni. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile, ukususela ekuqaleni, ukufundisa abafana ukuba bakhusele amantombazana, bawanike baze bancede. Kodwa ngelo xesha, kwaye ukhusele indawo yabo, ukuhlalutya le nto okanye loo meko ilungile kwaye ilungile. Kakade, ayiyi kusebenza ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa ukuze ukwazi indlela yokufundisa kakuhle inkwenkwe, kuya kufuneka usebenze ngendlela yokulinga kunye nephutha. Into eya kusebenza, into - kungekhona kakhulu.

Enye into eqinisekileyo: awukwazi ukusebenzisa indlela yokunqandwa kwamacandelo. Bonke ootitshala nabafundi bezengqondo baye bamshiya ngenxa yokuba unikezela kuphela umphumo ombi. Kubalulekile ukufuna ukunyaniseka kwanomntwana omncinci. Ngaphambi kokuba akhulise umfana ngomzekelo wakhe, upapa uya kufuneka athathe ingqalelo yena ngokwakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe. Mhlawumbi into kufuneka ilungiswe.

Ngokuphathelele umama ongatshatanga, ngoko kufuneka uzinqande ngokuthe ngqo. Awukwazi ukuthwala umfanekiso womntu onobuhle (kwaye unayo nganye) kwintsana. Mhlawumbi, ukuba ngenxa yoko kukho umngcipheko wokufumana umphumo ochasene ngokupheleleyo. Umgaqo obalulekileyo oomama abangatshatanga-ootitshala beentloko ezincinci akuyikuphazamisa umntwana. Akunakwenzeka ukutshintsha ukungabikho kompapa ngokuxhamla ngokugqithiseleyo nokuxolela. Xa inkwenkwe ityala, kufuneka ijeziswe. Umzuzu wezemfundo, ongenamnye, usifundisa ukuba sinoxanduva lwezenzo zethu.

Ukuze ukwazi ukuphakamisa inkwenkwe indoda, akukho mfuneko yokuhamba malunga neengcali zeengqondo zezingane. Kunelungelo lokumxelela ukuba ngubani, kuba kutheni kulungele ukuzama ubulungisa. Ngomzekelo wedwa unokuzibonakalisa okulungileyo kunye noko kukubi nokubi.