Kuthekani ukuba umyeni wakhe ukuba omnye?

Ngandlel 'ithile, xa ukukrexeza yethu amadoda hlabathi ibonwa njengento eqhelekileyo, bathi, ukuba umntu iye umqhathile umfazi wakhe; ngoko ke akukho mntu. Kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba siqwalasele kuphela abameli kwesiqingatha olomeleleyo lobuntu, kodwa hayi kwabasetyhini. Amaxesha amaninzi ngenxa yokukrexeza kwamadoda ngokuhamba kwakhe usapho. umyeni wakhe wamshiya, yaye umfazi buhlungu kwaye ndililolo kakhulu, kuba ndingcatshe umntu lowo uthanda kakhulu kunene. Zengqondo bakholelwa ukuba ukuphuma intsapho - nobunzima kakhulu, nto leyo kuyimfuneko, kuqala kwiinto zonke, ukuze usinde, uze emva koko uthabathe amanyathelo.

Indlela yokusinda ixesha xa umyeni wakhe wamshiya omnye? Kakade ke, loo nto ilula ukuba babathiye yonke nilile iinyembezi ezikrakra, ezisola ukuba zonke kulo. Abasetyhini kakhulu babekuthanda kakhulu, kwaye ke ngoko abafumana uncedo indoda yayo yakhe ebuhlungu elide. Kodwa ke xa ingcambu ye engalunganga. Indoda ihambile kakuhle, agunyazise uhambe. Kwaye nathi sifunda ukuba indlela kakuhle lo msantsa, uze wenze izicwangciso ubomi elizayo.

Kuwe ukuba umyeni wakhe waya kwinkosikazi yakhe. Iimvakalelo ubuhlungu kwaye kubonakala ukuba yonke into ityala oko kwenzekayo. Misa! Okokuqala, akukho mntu ityala, yaye okwesibini, ngubani na kuwe ukuba umyeni wakhe babeye phezu kwenu into embi. Liphoseni zonke ezi conjectures. Akukho mfuneko ukuba bathotywe phambi komyeni wakhe, embiza iselula yakhe ecela ukuya umva. Ngaba ucinga ukuba le nto iza kusebenza? No. Le ndoda yayicinga le ndoda. Misa aphule izitya endlwini bambambe zonke izilonda iilekese. Umfazi iye yasinda umtshato uza kukuxelela ngaphandle kokuthandabuza ukuba bubudenge ndidandatheke ukuqhuba wena, ngenxa kulo, owu, kunzima kangakanani na. Iskim elisondeleyo iingcinga zenu kufuneka ngolu hlobo: ekhohlo, kakuhle, kulungile, cinga nje; Nangoku wenze konke okusemandleni; Mna zonke izinto ebomini into elungileyo. Kuya kuthatha iiveki, ukuze yiya kwinyathelo elilandelayo. Ngoku kufuneka uqonde ukuba uza kuyenza elandelayo. Uneendlela ezimbini ongakhetha kuzo: noba nina nithi sala elidlulileyo kwaye uqale ubomi obutsha, okanye uzame ukubuyela endodeni yakhe entsatsheni. Kodwa kuqala, thetha nabo, isigqibo ephila ngoko Ingaba unayo feelings for indoda yakhe, ngenxa yokuba ukuba benza njalo, musa ukukhangela ngenxa yezizathu kuxolelwano. Nkqu nabantwana ayinakuba ingongoma isigqibo ubudlelwane bakho. Uthando ayinakuba. Ngapha koko, ngaba ucinga, uya kuphila kakuhle abantwana entsatsheni apho umama notata musa zithandana kwaye baphile kuphela zabazali?

Ukuba umyeni ukuba benyukile enye, kwaye ufuna kwakhona, khumbula oku: Akuyomfuneko ukuba noxinzelelo kwakhe yaye lufaka engozini. Zonke onokuyenza uthethe umyeni wakhe sonwabile, uyawulinganisela okulungileyo nokubi, yaye ekugqibeleni bafika zifana. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho kwaqala kwakhona, ngoko ke unalo ithuba ukuqala yonke kwakhona. Musa ukuxhala ukuba indoda akafuni ukubuya. Ngoko ke, baqale balungiselele ubomi babo. Kwinqanaba zengqondo kufuneka ubone ngokwabo njengokuba umfazi lowo njalo enhle kwaye ibe zezinqwenelekayo. aphumileyo Umyeni wakhe, kodwa ke into, ihlabathi liphela akuyona yodwa axis yayo.

Tshintsha imbonakalo yakho. Umzekelo, ubunzima bomzimba, ukutshintsha umbala iinwele okanye iinwele. Ukuba unxibe iimpahla imibala engwevu omnyama, ukuyitshintsha phezu iipateni eqaqambileyo imibala kulo, ubomi bakho buya kuba mhlophe ngokuba kuvuya ngakumbi. Fumana kukuphelisa zonke izinto ezisikhumbuza kuni ngumyeni bangaphambili. Akukho mfuneko yokuba ahlale izinto ezingcwele zendlu elidlulileyo. Adibana rhoqo kunye nabahlobo, xoxa izihloko fashion, kwaye ukuba ucinga ntoni indoda yakhe, njani ngalo mntu kanye kanye sawela ubomi bakho. Musa ukuphepha ingqalelo into eyindoda, makhe kwisiqingatha olomeleleyo lobuntu okwenza yokuncoma unika izipho kwaye ikhokelela zokutyela. Mhlawumbi abantu baya kuba lowo oya kuba indoda yakho, lowo uye waphila ubomi obude obonwabisayo ubomi. A ahlangane ethile ex-umyeni, nje ukuba bathi molo kwaye ubonise zonke izimvo ukuba abonwabileyo bamkelekile. Makhe waqonda ukuba ezixabisekileyo ezilahlekileyo sayo.