Indlela ukuba ahlukane nomyeni wakhe

Wafa kude izandi komjikelo lomtshato, wayitshisa ngaphandle iminqweno kunye neminqweno - kwaye kubomi ezitshatileyo, kuninzi iye yatshintsha. Akukho onwabe koko wasondela kunye dear omthandayo, akukho wonwabile kunye nexesha elichithwa, yaye bonke ubomi kunye akukho wonwabile. Endaweni yoko, umphefumlo lwasemoyeni ukutyabuka, kwaye maxa wambi ingcamango: "Indlela ukuba yindoda yakhe?".

Lo mbono kakhulu wandile kwaye kuphakamisa imibuzo malunga nekamva ezininzi besini ngobulungisa. Ukuba - kubandakanywa nabo kwabasetyhini kunye namantombazana, kwaye nani ngamaxesha ndingayithandi ingcamango elizayo yaye, ingakumbi, yenye yezinto ezibalulekileyo: ukugqiba njani ukuba ashiye indoda yakhe, ngoko eli nqaku ubhekiswa kuni. Kuya kunikwa iingcebiso kunye nesikhokelo ngendlela isigqibo kule nyathelo kwaye wenze ekwahlukaneni kangako buhlungu.

Ngoko ke, wena ucinga umbuzo othi "Indlela ukufumana yindoda yakhe?". Ukuze uqalise kukuba ukuqonda ngokuqinileyo umthetho yegolide; soze ukwamkela izigqibo ezinjalo ngokungxama ungxamile. Ngenxa bayilwele - ubomi nekamva lakho. Kokuba kuthathwe isigqibo ukuba ukwahlukana-up, qiniseka ukuba - into eqinileyo, ayinyaniso. Ukuze wenze oku, ungakwazi uphawu zonke iinkalo ezintle zobomi bakho 'ngaphambi nasemva ", axabisa malunga" kuluhlu ukusebenza ". Ngokufanayo, ungakwazi uphawu zonke iimpawu ezintle nezimbi iqabane lakho ebomini. Ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuba ukuhlalutya nokuphonononga ebhaliweyo. Ukuba, ke, luyazedlula i "izinto ezimbi 'zokuphila kunye zingabuthisi nomnqweno ukuba ashiye indoda yakhe, ekufuneka senze isigqibo malunga eli nyathelo. Kwakhona - inyathelo ingqalelo.

Isigqibo sathathwa, esikalini zihlalutywe, kuhlala yokusombulula: ukuba ashiye indoda yakhe? Thina baphendula ngazwi-nye: elihle. Ewe, ukuba mhle. Uqhekeko yonxulumano akufuneki ibe isikhubekiso. Yonke ngoku kwenziwe ngendlela ephucukile. Ukuqala emva kokuba isigqibo mtshato kufuneka azise iqabane. Ezingenziwanga alilunganga. Inxibelelane nawe ngesigqibo sayo, nika izizathu, leyo, isimiso, Wasazisa nahlukene. Noko ke, musa ukulibala malunga ukuhloniphana. Ingxabano, umntwana, izithuko efanayo kulo mzekelo - hayi abancedisi engcono. Ingxelo elula izibakala kwi-bume ezolileyo, ngaphandle iimvakalelo ezingeyomfuneko kunye zochuku ubomi tai - koko ufuna.

Emva sibhengezo iqabane layo sigqibo akuyomfuneko ukuba ukulibazisa ukulungiselela amaxwebhu mtshato. Kamsinya wenze, ithemba ngaphantsi uya iqabane lakhe Isisombululo kule ngxaki. Akukho mfuneko ukufihla izenzo zabo yindoda yakhe; ekucwangciseni amaxwebhu kunye nokunika ukuba abasemagunyeni bakho amazise. Ukuba iqabane wayefuna ukuqala ungquzulwano, kuyo nayiphi na imeko, musa kuwa ngenxa izithuko zayo. Hlonipha wena naye. Zama ukuhamba ngesidima, lo gama kugcinwe ubudlelwane ubuncinane kancinane lobuhlobo nangentlonelo.

Emva koko yenza inyathelo elibalulekileyo yaye isigqibo (kakade, ukuba oku kunokwenzeka) - ukutshintsha indawo yabo yokuhlala, ukuze sibe sibi ukuya kwiinkqubo komtshato. Onke amanyathelo athathiweyo ezinxulumene Wahlula, iqabane ingxelo. Akukho mfuneko yokuba nantoni na. Oku kusebenza ngokukodwa imfundo yabantwana kunye ukwahlulwa kwepropati. Xa kuvela iingxaki, kubhungisana neengcali: amagqwetha, amaxwebhu, amagqwetha nabanye.

Kufuneka ucinge ukuba ashiye indoda yakhe? Ke elinye icebiso kancinane: ukuba usapho lwakho unabantwana, cinga ngabo. Ukwenzakala ononyawo akuyomfuneko. Ngalo lonke ixesha khumbula ukuba umntwana wakho kufuneka umama kunye notata, nokuba abathanga bahlale ndawonye. Oku kuthetha ukuba kufuneka senze konke ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana (ren) iye igcinwe intlonipho nothando lomntu omthandayo, wayefuna ukuya kuhlangana naye wabelane bevuya kunye nosizi. Kuphela kule isazela mzekelo nisenza isingqala kumphefumlo kuwe, kwaye musa ukuba usikhwezele ngaphambili ...