Kutheni iphupha ofunda: ukutolikwa

Ukucaciswa Dreams - umsebenzi onzima nokuba abanolwazi esoteric ithamsanqa-thamsanqa. Ukongezelela kuphela iindlela ngokwasengqondweni, intsomi ubulumko ushiye ilifa iqela enkulu izichazi ezizodwa phupha - ncwadi phupha. Ezipilisi ziluncedo, loo nto ayisoloko amaphupha Belityelwe kusasa. ukulala maxa wambi iyahlolwa ebusuku eshiya ngasemva imvakalelo kukudakumba, kufuneka ukuba siqwalasele Ndiyiqonde into efuziselwa. Ingakumbi kumayelana amaphupha elidlulileyo kude yaye kudala ulibele. Umzekelo, ngeentsuku zesikolo, yaye abantu abaye bachitha iminyaka kwidesika efanayo.

Yintoni aphuphe ofunda nabo? Ukuba waphupha nabanye ofunda nabo sangaphambili na umcimbi okanye umbhiyozo, oku kuthetha ukuba ebomini uya kuva umhlobo omdala okanye umhlobo (mhlawumbi malunga endifunda elifanayo okanye ofunda). Kutheni iphupha endifunda ezibe ngaphezu abahlobo kuwe, ukuba babethandana - ngoko ke kwintlanganiso yokuqala kunye nomntu oya utshintshe ubomi bakho. Ezi nguqu ziya kuzixhalabisa yokuqala zonke iimeko kwentliziyo. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba uthando entsha, kodwa kunjalo, esi ulwalamano uya kuzisa uvuyo nolwaneliseko.

ukuchazwa

Xa uphupha usiya bebonana, oko kungathetha ukuba Ndingathanda ukwabelana impumelelo yakho kunye nomntu, mhlawumbi bamane nje indumiso ngokwaneleyo. Oku kwakhona kuthetha ukuba awenzi unxibelelwano elula yabantu, ukuze emaphupheni yakho ubuyele elide shwaka ebomini bakho abantu ukuzama ukufumana ubuncinane uhlobo ezinye impendulo.

Kodwa yintoni iphupho ofunda ngokwawo? Xa uphupha nikhona emngcwabeni naye esikolweni, oku kubonisa ukuba iinkumbulo engasi iminyaka zesikolo sakho nale umntu othile. Khumbula, hayi ke umfana ukuba yomelele ngaphezu kwabo bonke? Kutheni iphupha wawufunda naye uphupha uthatha romance ovuthuzayo, kodwa akukho nto esikolweni ezifana oku kwenzeke, ukuba - ukungaqiniseki wakho malunga nabantu ababathandayo. Ngaba awonwabanga umgangatho wobomi yakho, cinga ngale nto.

Kutheni iphupha nomntwana ofunda naye, ukungayiqapheli ebusweni bakho, edlula, ujonge kwicala, nangona imizamo yenu yonke ukutsala ingqalelo yakhe? Eli phupha ibonisa ukuba ungaphezulu-nomdlandla msebenzi, kwaye kufuneka ukuba ukubaleka evela kwimicimbi kwaye ukuchitha ixesha elingakumbi ekhaya kunye nendlu, kungenjalo uzibeka esichengeni sokuba wedwa - vala ziya ajike emke kuwe, kufana ofunda ebuthongweni bakho.

Ekugqibeleni, encinane

Kaloku, ukuba azihlanganisele zonke utoliko yintoni amaphupha afunda - ngokucacileyo ukuba utshintsho. Ngoko ke ubomi ongena kwinqanaba elilandelayo, kufuneka ukuphulaphula wena amaphupha akho, kuqukwa, ngaphandle koloyiko uze uthabathe inyathelo lokuqala phambili - ukutshintsha imisebenzi, ukufumana uthando omtsha okanye nje ukuze bachithe ixesha elingakumbi nabantwana babo ababathandayo. Musa uyichitha amaphupha, Ndiyabaphulaphula xa kusasazwa, kodwa isigqibo ukwamkela ngokwabo kuphela, hayi ekhangela kokusemva, ngenxa yokuba ngamanye amaxesha, njengoko Freud wathi, "amaphupho nje khona."