Ubudlelwane of abafikisayo

nobudlelwane nabanye abantu abakwishumi elivisayo nakhelwe ngexesha utshintsho babo ngokwasengqondweni iimvakalelo. Adolescence luphawulwa ukupheliswa imithetho esekwe ngaphambili ukuziphatha kunye nokufunyanwa iimpawu ezintsha kunye nezithethe zoluntu. Umntwana uba nolwazi obuphezu kwabo kwihlabathi abadala, ukwandisa imida yoluntu, kukho ulwazi ngawe kwaye kukabani "Mna", self-actualization iqala.

Zonke ezi ngokutsha kwi psyche kwaye amalungu nomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo ukuba ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo kubalingane kunye nabantu abadala. nobudlelwane nabanye ngayo abafikisayo kweli xesha zisekelwe kwizinto ezininzi.

Kuye kudala singqiniwe ukuba ukuyilwa "self-concept 'yaye self-ungubani, nto leyo kwixesha elizayo kubaluleke kakhulu ekwakheni ubudlelwane phakathi elivisayo, kudlala indima ebalulekileyo ubudlelwane usapho lomntwana. Yimiba ebalulekileyo ngokwasentlaweni lomntwana: inqanaba lemfundo ngabazali, imisebenzi zabo, imeko yengqondo entsatsheni, ubutyebi eziphathekayo, njl Zonke ezi meko ubukhulu becala abantu kusengaphambili ebuntwaneni na indlela yobomi umntwana. Phantsi yempembelelo ezi zinto, kwakunye nobudlelwane umntwana eziphambili kwezemfundo yawo ebomini kunye inqaku lencwadi. Ngomhla uphuhliso lobuqu lo mntwana echatshazelwa kakhulu ulwalamano phakathi kwabazali. Le nemvukelo yokuziphatha kwabo ke yakhutshelwa ngokupheleleyo xa ukwakha ubuhlobo nabanye elivisayo. Ukuba elinomoya elingamncediyo, abazali bathi, awukwazi ukufumana ulwimi eqhelekileyo, okanye ngabazali - otywala, amakhoboka eziyobisi, its eqikelelwayo elizayo ukuze umntwana okwishumi elivisayo.

Kodwa kwiintsapho benamathuba ngokwentlalo, imfundo ukuya kumacala ahlukeneyo. Ukuba umntwana intsapho akukho malungelo, kwaye ukuziphatha yayo ilawulwa yimigaqo kunye nezithinteli, ngoko ke umntwana akhule zanomkhinkqi, ukungabikho linge, ukuba umfutho sidalwa akanakuba ilungu yinxalenye yoluntu. Kwenye imeko, xa intsapho yedemokrasi, ngoko ke umntwana abe geqe, bakwazi ukwenza izigqibo kwaye enze abantu.

nobudlelwane nabanye abantwana baqale namaqela ngokuzithandela (abahlobo) okanye lisekwa abadala (izikolo, kwiiklabhu, njalo njalo). Eli qela, njengoko umgaqo, baqale sibonakalisa iimpawu zomntu bonke abantu, yaye ukuba qela liyilwe angcono imeko yentlalo -ntle eziphathekayo yabantwana, ungquzulwano iqala. Iqela yahlulwe ngokwamaqela abo amalungu okuthile (akusoloko eyakhayo). Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo, eklasini kukho iqela elivisayo ezehla koluntu ngubani alkogoliziruyutsya, umsi kunye ukubonisa ezinye iimpawu ngendlela etenxileyo. Kukho iiklasi kunye namaqela amantombazana baselula ezithandwa ngabantu besini esahlukileyo, bakholisa ukuba uphuhliso olukhawulezayo ngesondo kwaye ezithandwa iziboniso "omdala". ukuziphatha kwabo luphawulwa kukungabikho ihlazo, iingubo eziqaqambileyo kunye makeup. La mantombazana bayafunda okubi, musa ukubeka usukelo ukuze ufumane imfundo okanye abe lilungu epheleleyo yoluntu.

Kukho iqela kunye nabantu abatsha zizakubalulwa yokuziphatha yabo, ductility, bavame ngamaxhoba amaqela utywala zolutsha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, aba ngabantwana oziphatha uhlala kulawulwa nezithintelo yabazali. Bavame phantsi ukuzithemba, zivalwe kwaye taciturn, baya wagula kumfowunelwa noontanga.

nobudlelwane phakathi kwabo elivisayo entsonkothileyo kakhulu inkqubo bujikelezwe zizinto ezininzi, kodwa indima ebaluleke kakhulu kule nkqubo fanele ukuba ubudlelwane phakathi komzali nomntwana entsatsheni.