UWe u ... Uhlobo kunye nolwalamano lwayo nolwazi

UWe awukho umgangatho oqhelekileyo phakathi kwabantu. Ukuba ibonakaliswe kulwimi lwesichazamazwi, eli xesha liyi-sophistication of thought and wisdom, ebonakaliswe kwiimpawu zangaphambili, ezikhohlisayo neziphumelelayo. Kodwa le nto ichazwe ngokubanzi.

U-Wit njengendlela yokuphila

Ngokuqinisekileyo ngamnye wethu unomhlobo owaziwa ngalo mgangatho. Abantu abanjalo, njengomthetho, bajonga ujonge, bekhululekile kwaye banelisekile ngobomi. Banamehlo avuthayo, kwaye ukuba ukhangele amehlo abo, unako, ukuthetha ngomfuziselo, qaphela ingcamango. Kuya kubonakala, yintoni ekubonakala kwayo kunye nomgangatho, ohlangene neengqondo kunye neentlalo? Kwaye nangona kunjalo ukuba imeko yangaphakathi yomntu ibonisa indlela ekhangeleka ngayo.

U-Wit umgangatho ohlala ubeka "umxholo" wakhe kumntu, into engamangalisiyo. Emva kwayo yonke into, ingumthombo wengqondo echazwe ngendlela ecacileyo yomlomo. Le mfanelo inika umntu amandla okubuyisela phantse zonke iimbambano ngoncedo lwamanqaku ebinzana. Ubungqina bomntu bubonisa indlela yokuhlaziya, ukuqonda, imfundo kunye nentetho enengqondo.

Umntu onalo mgangatho uyakwazi ukubonisa nayiphi na ingcamango ngendlela yokuba wonke umntu uyayiqonda intsingiselo yayo. Ngenxa yoko, uhlala ekholose ngamandla akhe namagunya akhe. Kwaye umntu onalo mgangatho unamathuba okuva. Ngaba sinokuyicinga ngendlela yokuphila? Ngokuqinisekileyo.

Ukujika kuFrud

Ngomnyaka we-1905, owaziwayo wase-Austrian psychoanalyst washicilela umsebenzi onomdla kakhulu. Uyaziwa ngegama elithi "Wit kunye nesimo sakhe sengqondo ekubeni engazi." Ukuba ufunda lo msebenzi, uyaqonda ukuba iSigmund Freud ibonakalisa nale ngcamango yehlazo. Oko kukuthi, ubuchule bokuqonda ukwahlula kwezinye izinto okanye ezinye iziganeko ezihlekisayo kunye neengxaki.

UFrud wacebisa ukuba amahlaya (njengamaphupha) ahambelana nokungazi mntu. I-psychoanalyst yaqinisekisa ukuba uhlaselo luzalwa xa umntu ezama ukuveza ingcamango engacatshangwanga okanye engavunyelwe kuluntu. Kodwa into ebizwa ngokuba yi-Super-Self-inoxanduva lwezenzo zezenkolo nezokuziphatha, ivumela umntu u-Ego ukuba achaze oku okanye acinga ngendlela ehlekisayo.

"U-Wit kunye nolwalamano lwakhe nokungenazi" ngumsebenzi oqaqambileyo. Ichaza iingcamango ezithakazelisayo, kwaye kunceda ukuba uqhelane nalo msebenzi. Kodwa ukuba ngokufutshane, ngoFrud, ubungqina benkcenkceshela yengqondo. Oko kukuthi, indlela yokukhusela, apho i-voltage yangaphakathi ifumana ukuphuma.

Sebenza kuwe

UWe ngumgangatho onzima kakhulu ukuphuhlisa. Le ngcamango yabelwa ngabantu abaninzi. Kukho indawo ekhethekileyo kuyo. Mhlawumbi isipho. Igama elithi "charisma" lifanelekileyo. Emva koko, ekungoko, kungekhona nje kuphela iimpawu zangaphandle ezenza ukubonakala komntu kube mnandi. I-Charisma yinto ekhethekileyo yomntu ngamnye ngengqondo. Kodwa baninzi abantu banomdla kwindlela yokuphuhlisa. Ewe, yonke into iyinyani.

Okokuqala, kufuneka ube yingxaki ngokumalunga nawe. Ukuba uhlala uhleka phezu kwayo yonke into, ungabonwa njengomntu onobuqili, kodwa unobungozi obubi. Kodwa umntu owaziyo ukuba "uzenzele" ngokungathandekiyo, ubangela ilungiselelo. Abantu abanjalo babonakala bechanekile, banobubele kwaye bavulekile.

Okwesibini, amahlaya kufuneka ahlaziywe. Ngenkampani yabahlobo abasondeleyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, masithi amanqaku avela kwinqanaba "ngaphantsi kwebhodibhodi". Nangona kunjalo, kuluntu kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukuzityhila kakuhle, kodwa kumnandi.

Okwesithathu, kufuneka ukuba ungabi nzulu. Abantu abahlala eholide bajonga, baninzi abantu abathanda. Kufuneka sifunde ukuziva ukuhleka kweminye kwaye sizame ukuba yedwa.

Isigama

Akukho konke malunga nombuzo wokuphuhlisa indlela. Nangona kunjalo, into ebaluleke kakhulu ukukuxelela ngokwahlukileyo. Ngohlobo lwenkqubela, okwenene, isigama.

Unokuwuzalisa (kwaye uyayifuna) ngeendlela ezininzi. Iincwadi, iifilimu, iinkqubo zokuqonda, abantu abanomdla - kukho imithombo engapheliyo yolwazi olujikelezileyo. Singawafumana amagama, amabinzana, iimpawu kunye nendlela yokuphila esiyithandayo. Abantu, bamangaliswa ngumbuzo wendlela yokufunda, umntu makafunde.

Isigama ebantwini sifana nesethi epheleleyo emotweni: ngokubanzi, kulunge. Indoda ngokwakhe iya kuqala ukuziva iqinisekile. Kwaye nayiphi na inkampani kunye noluntu kuya kuba njengeentlanzi emanzini, ukuba uyazi iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuthetha, iindlela kunye nokuziphatha. Oku kubonisa ukuchaneka.

Ukungabikho kwesakhelo

Enye enye into ehlukanisa umntu onobuqili. Emva koko, ngokwenene, yintoni imida kunye nemida? Yilokho eqhuba yonke into kwimigangatho, ekhoyo kwihlabathi lanamhlanje. Yaye yintoni imigangatho? Kubuhlungu, ukungabikho kokuqala, okuyingqayizivele.

Abantu baseWitty babona ihlabathi ngokuhlukileyo. Bafunda iinjongo zethu kuzo zonke iintlobo zabo, ngokuqwalasela naluphi na iinkcukacha, kwaye bekhumbula ngokugqithiseleyo, okungaqhelekanga, oku kusetyenziselwa kubo ebomini. Imizekelo yobungqina kulo mboniso ininzi. Ngethuba le ncoko okanye incoko ecacileyo, xa kuyadingeka ukuba unike impendulo, umntu angenza ikhefu ngokucacileyo aze abuze ukuba umchasi wakhe weva malunga nesimo esithile? Emva koko ukujongana nayo, ukuxelela, kutheni malunga nayo ikhumbule, ukubonisa ukuxhumana, ukwenza iingxabano. UWeb akayena nje umva. Kwakhona ukwazi ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza.

Ukuhleka kwexesha lokuqala kusoloko kuxabiso

Ngaphezulu kwaxelwa ngokumalunga nokungazi kunye nokukwazi ukusebenzisa lesi sipho. Kulungile ukuba unike umzekelo wamagama ambalwa abonakalisayo.

Kwisiqingatha sokuqala se-20 leminyaka, kwakukho ubomi kwaye wenza umculi odumile waseMerika njengo-Oscar Levant. Unayo ibinzana elithi: "Ndenze isigqibo sokunyamekela. Wayeka ukutshaya nokusela, wathabatha ukutya, wala ukudla ukutya okunzima. Kwaye kwiiveki ezimbini ndilahlekelwa iintsuku ezili-14. " Kunzima ukuphikisana nokuqala kwalolu dictum. I-Levant yayingumntu onobuqili kwaye onobukrakra, kwaye omnye unokuthetha ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba, ngokuyinxalenye, waba ngumdlali kunye nomculi ngenxa yalo mgangatho.

U-Yuri Nikulin unamazwi amaninzi amanandi. Bona, njengomzekelo wangaphambili, awunanto. Nantsi, mhlawumbi, yinto engcono kakhulu yento athi: "Ungalokothi uziphindelele kubantu ababi. Yonwaba nje. Kwaye abayi kuphila. "

Ungesabi ukuba ungabikho nto

Lo ngumyalelo wokugqibela omele ulandele ukuba ufuna ukuba ngumqambi. Ngamanye amaxesha kungafanelekile. Ukholelwa kunye nomlobi odumile waseMerika uMark Twain. Unayo ibinzana lokuba nanamhla ivakalisa ukumncoma nakwabo bavayo. Kwaye kuyavakala ngathi: "Ukuyeka ukutshaya kulula. Ndaphosa amaxesha angama-50. " Kule meko, ukungabikho kobuqhetseba kuxhomekeke ngokunyaniseka. Ungayisebenzisa kwaye unciphise. Kwiimimoya ezifileyo zaGogol, ngendlela, imimiselo efana nayo ihlala idibana nayo.

Apha, ngendlela, kukuqinisekisa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukufunda iincwadi-ezivela kuyo unokufunda izinto ezininzi ezithakazelisayo.