Yintoni eza phandle? Bephuma: ixabiso

I-revolution ngesondo wanika amadoda nabafazi inkululeko yokuzikhethela nabo ngesondo. Oku kukhokelele ekuyilweni zibini-sex. Ngelo xesha kukho izinto ezintsha, enxulumene iinkalo ezithile zobomi kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu kunye nokhetho lokuya ocansini ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, la ngamagama asemzini, yaye ngokucacileyo ngokupheleleyo kubemi, kude ukusuka 'blue "kunye" ezipinki "umxholo.

Umzekelo, asinguye wonk 'ubani uyayazi into ephuma. Njani yahlukile ingcamango efanayo "olulodwa". Ngelo xesha, kwezinye izangqa nto idla ngokusetyenziswa yokuvakalisa into ayicingayo, Ude iholide yalo nyaka. Kodwa izinto zokuqala kuqala.

Yintoni eza phandle?

Eli gama abolekwe kulwimi IsiNgesi kwaye eliguqulelwe lithetha "disclosure", "ngaphandle closet." Nokuba yeliduna, nokuba yelithokazi, ngokuphandle yaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, wavuma ngokuzithandela ngayo ngesini okanye isimo sabo aligcuntswana isini, lenza isenzo ekubhekiswe ngokuba iphuma. Njengoko umthetho, inkcazelo isicelo ngokunxulumene lesbian, eqaqambileyo, abantu ulala kunye kobakhe (efinyeziweyo njengoko iqela labantu ekubhekiswa kubo LGBT) ngubani bayavuma ukuba kukhetho zabo zesini okanye ukuba umzimba wabo ayihambelani imeko yabo ngokwengqondo.

Ukuphuma - it Kwakhona wabonisa esidlangalaleni into ubomi lobuqu engaqhelekanga, kodwa abanye ngohlobo yobundlobongela, nxamnye ukuthanda zobufanasini. Oku kwenziwa ukuze esichengeni ndoda ayiphange igama lakhe, umsebenzi, ukutshintsha izimo zengqondo zabantu kuyo, kuba kuwo onke amazwe kukho abantu abathandana. Nokuba kuluntu mihla, asingabo bonke abantu abakulungeleyo ukuvula ucango egumbini lakhe, kodwa kukho abo bonelisekile ngakumbi noluntu ephuma isiza kukha ingqalelo bona ukuba ukuthandwa extra, ukuba abantu nesawo. Esi simo aqheleka kakhulu show ishishini.

A bit of amanqaku ngembali

Ixesha lokuqala esisiseko ingcamango Cuming-out ndicinga ngo-1869. I kwaba igqwetha isiJamani nentatheli, nokukhusela amalungelo kunye neminqweno abambalwa, uKarl Genrih Ulrihs. Waye banoluvo lokuba xa ufuna ukuba abonakale, kufuneka avakalise ngokwayo kakhulu ebudeni-out. Ukubaluleka esi senzo, ngokutsho amaJamani, ezinkulu wavula ulifanasini kungaba nefuthe elikhulu ebantwini kunye negunya ukuyisebenzisa. Umntu ebalulekileyo yoluntu bokuqala wayengoyiki ukuxelela inyaniso ngaye, waba imbongi American uRobert Duncan. Yena ukwenzile ephuma, yaye kungekudala lazithwebula emkhosini. Emva koko, kwiphephancwadi, wathi kweli lizwe nakwihlabathi liphela yabacudisiweyo amancinane.

Phakathi kwinkulungwane ye-20, ingcamango "iphuma" ngenxa ngengqondo Evelyn ihuka, oye wachitha ixesha omninzi umsebenzi wakhe ukufunda uluntu eqaqambileyo; asiyo kwiintetho behamba isigama yenzululwazi.

Ukubaluleka Cuming-out

ulwaneliseko Yokuziphatha ebomini kwenzeka umntu kuphela xa ephila ngokuvisisana nje kuphela kodwa nabo kunye noluntu. Ukuphumeza oku, kufuneka ube nesibindi ukuze achaze ekuhleni ukhetho zabo zesini. Ukuba indoda okanye ibhinqa ngokwenene gay, balamkela oku kwaye siqinisekile ekukhetheni yakho, kufuneka Asinakukufihla, sifihle yokulala, nokuba umtshato nxamnye intando yabo ngenxa yoluntu. Oku kuba nefuthe elibi kakhulu isimo sengqondo somntu. Apha uyakwazi ukunceda kuphela eza ngaphandle. Ixabiso ityala abe nempembelelo entle kurhulumente, isimo, kuza isiqabu elide ilindelwe.

Oku kunjalo yokuqonda ngakwicala abaphulaphuli. Kodwa ke, xa kusenziwa, oku kuyenzeka akusoloko. Kungenxa yoko le nto kukho uncwadi oluninzi malunga nesihloko "Yintoni ephuma" njani yaye nini ukuze kube ngcono. Enye ncwadana ezininzi ezaziwayo-kakuhle, ebhalwe ngumbutho American "Bazali, usapho kunye nabahlobo athandana namanye kunye nezitabane."

Inkqubo ingqalelo

Cuming-outs - a ezintsonkothileyo iinkqubo multi-step. Zengqondo ukucebisa ukuvula ngcembe bonke ngayo ngesini, ukuqala kukhethwa kunye umhlobo okanye losapho ilungu olusondeleyo abasahleliyo nangoku abona baninzi efudumeleyo, womelele, naye nokumthemba. Ngokufuthi kuyenzeka ukuba bazi non-zemveli zabantu bonke oogxa kunye nabahlobo bakhe, kodwa abaqapheli nezizalwane. Ndithi ngamanye amaxesha owasemzini kulula ngaphezu kwakhe. Olunye uphando, ozinikeleyo Cuming-out kunye nokuvuleka jikelele woMntu eluntwini, zibonise ukuba ngaphantsi umntu sizifihla kwabanye, i ngaphantsi uye kulala, luvo, ungakhathazeki.

Ukunakanwa abazali

Enye yamanqanaba zinzima Cuming-out kucingwa ukuba ingqalelo phambi kwabazali babo. Abakwazi ukufumana ulwazi ngokuchanekileyo ngokuqonda. Abazali ndothuka ndakufumanisa ukuba umntwana wabo ayikho njengaye wonke umntu. Kufuneka ixesha kunye noncedo ukusuka ngengqondo. Abazali abaninzi bayala ukwamkela oku, asohlwaye abantwana, ngoyaba, aphoswe ngaphandle endlwini, ukuze abanike phezulu. Ezinye ixesha uzama ukuthintela naziphi na iincoko kwizihloko ngesondo, ekholelwa ukuba bonke obu budenge, ubudala, indleko, ukuba anithanga ingqalelo kule ngxelo, bonke iya ngokwalo.

Abanye abazali cinga nzulu ubufanasini sisifo, aqale baphathe abantwana babo ngoncedo unyango reparative. Zonke ezi zenzo yoomama kunye ooyise baphemba umonakalo omkhulu engqondweni yomntwana, kuyakhula le meko.

2013 - konyaka Cuming-out

on October 11, lusuku esemthethweni xa bonke khumbula kudityanwe ntoni, kwakunye bukela ukwamkelwa esidlangalaleni kuphela abahlobo nezalamane, kodwa ke abantu ezibalulekileyo odumileyo kuloo ndawo. Unyaka nonyaka inani abezopolitiko LGBT, iimvumi, abadlali beqonga, nto leyo ebonisa ukuba abantu ngaphantsi yaye ngaphantsi woyika yomgwebo zabantu, kwaye ukhetho non-zemveli isiba yinto yamihla le. Kukhuselekile ukuba ngo-2013 anihlawulelwanga elilodwa nokuvuma kwemini, kunabela 365. Xelela onke ukuqatshelwa nakwenzeka, yenani labo enkulu, kodwa oko kulindeleke kakhulu kwaye kakhulu sivakalisa:

1. Dzhodi Foster wenza kuye ephuma ngexesha lokuthweswa ibhaso kwi iimbumba yayo Golden.
2. nomdlali American eWentworth Miller wavakalisa ngokuthandana yakhe kwileta nokwala beze eRashiya, njengoko kukho homophobes ezininzi.
3. Diver British Tom Daley wathabatha ividiyo kunye uvumo yakhe, wayibeka phezu Internet.
4. nomdlali Canadian kunye nemvumi Victor Garber uvumile ukuba yena gay yaye kubudlelwane kunye nendoda kangangeminyaka eli-14.
5. NBA basketball Dzheyson Kollinz, ngubani na isigqibo sokuba ufuna ukuba sinyaniseke wonke.
6. imvumi Philippine Charris.
7. Robbi Rodzhers wathi ukuba eqaqambileyo, kwaye umhlala-ekhatywayo.
8. nomdlali Irish Endryu Skott, bayeka ukufunda ulwimi Russian e Putin kaThixo iintetho uV emva wenza umthetho abantu abathandana.
9. Uprofesa wezifo Dinesh nesisu.
10. Emkhenkceni Brian Boitano.