Yobudala Transitional. Hayi indlela ekunzima ngayo!

Nokuba izolo, silindele ukuba ukuzalwa komntwana, ngaba ukhe wacinga ukuba ekhula ngayo, yintoni emlindeleyo kwelizayo, babecinga ukuba ukulungele ukwenza yonke into iyenzeka. Umntwana wazalelwa, mna ndakhulela, kwaye ngoku usana izolo wathi yena imbono yakhe, ukuba akayidingi iingcebiso, kwaye maxa wambi abazali abakwazi ukuqonda ukuba kwenzeka ntoni, nendlela onokubanceda ngayo abantwana. Kodwa ngokwenene, lixesha, xa umntwana "unodoli," kodwa okwangoku "ibhabhathane". Kwathi ke yobudala nzima.

Ewe, ixesha iyabhabha ngokukhawuleza. Umntwana ungena ebudaleni, yaye endleleni eya kobu bomi uya kufumana into kukuba ukulungele okwangoku, kodwa ke imithetho yomdlalo ukwenza abadala ukho kum. Enoba zinzima kangakanani, abazali kufuneka ibe inzala ukuhlangula ngokuthi abazintloko kunye nenkxaso ngeli xesha linzima.

Xa abantwana bangene lokufikisa, ukuba utshintsha nje ngokomzimba kuphela, kukho utshintsho sezingqondweni kwimbono yehlabathi. Le ephilayo lukhula, kukho inkqubo kwinqanaba lokufikisa uyahluka psyche. Ukususela ukuba zonke iinguqu ezithi zenzeke ngokukhawuleza ngokwaneleyo, luvo uthambekele ekubeni ukucima kombane, umntwana uba nochuku, kwaye wayedla nochuku. Xa ufikisa kukho uphuhliso inkqubo olukhawulezileyo zamadlala ezithile njengendlela isiqinisekiso ngokupheleleyo zonke utshintsho nokomzimba.

Lokufikisa kubafana kwi kunyaka omnye okanye emibini eqala emva amantombazana, ithatha iminyaka emine ukuya emihlanu kunye nokungena kakhulu esebenzayo ngakumbi. Iba umehluko obonakalayo phakathi kwabo kwiminyaka 12-13. Lokufikisa emantombazaneni kuza emva kweminyaka emibini ngaphezu amakhwenkwe, ubaleka ngokuzolileyo iphela ngokukhawuleza.

Kwasekuqaleni ulutsha lenguqu-ubudala ziqalisa ukubonisa ngeempawu lokuba ngesondo kwabo. ntoni Nangona eshumini kuzo zombini amakhwenkwe abe ecacileyo imida amantombazana ukusuka kwiminyaka eli-10 ukuya kwengama-17, iisayikholojisti kunye noogqirha such a yobudala lotshintsho, kuhlenga ukuba ukwanda okanye ukuhla xesha. Ukufikisa kwahlulwa zibe ngamanqanaba amathathu.

Inqanaba lokuqala (ekuqaleni esakhula) - oku ixesha xa umzimba kwakunye engqondweni, ukulungiselela utshintsho ezizayo. Inqanaba lesibini (ukufikisa) - kunene yobudala nzima. Ixesha lesithathu (nabantu abadala) - postpubertatnom xa zigqityiwe ukwakhiwa nokomzimba nangokwasengqondweni. Xa isiphelo zonke iinkqubo, kwaye yobudala nzima sele iza kugqitywa, kukho umsebenzi ngesondo kwaye benomdla kumntu wesini esahlukileyo.

Ukongeza utshintsho zangaphandle, ukutshintsha ukuziphatha nabalinganiswa. Lo mntwana uba touchy, bakrwada, hypochondriac kunye categorical, ngokufuthi uthi ukuba nangaliphi na ixesha. Hormone kumzimba elivisayo isizathu kozinzo ngokwasemoyeni kunye iingxaki zengqondo zinganefuthe urhulumente ngokwasemzimbeni.

Ngelo xesha xa umntwana ekhula, akukho namnye kulula ukuyisebenzisa ubunyani ukutshintsha, umsebenzi iphambili nabazali - ukuba ibe phakathi nokunceda basinde inzala bonke ubunzima kunye ilahleko ncinci emntwaneni kwaye intsapho xa iyonke.