Zazo communication

Buqhinga kunxibelelwano kwenzeka rhoqo, kwaye nangona kusenokuthetha negative obekwayo ngale ndlela, akusoloko okubi. Kweli nqaku sijonga le mizekelo ngokuqhelekileyo yokuntlokothiswa kunxibelelwano phakathi kwezalamane, kulwalamano abantwana Umzali kunye kunxibelelwano ishishini.

Entamo ngokuba nefuthe liqabane zonxibelelwano ukuze kufikelelwe ezinqwenelekayo kuye. Kwaye le isiphumo ibithethwa zifihliwe, xa umntu omnye othetha, efuna ngaphezulu. Zazo kunxibelelwano esetyenziswa rhoqo kuphela kubaqeshwa naliphi na inqanaba lorhwebo ukuze inzuzo. Bayazi okanye hayi, wonke umntu usebenzisa omnye okanye elinye ibinzana ukugcina omthandayo / bayibiza letyala / amandla ukuba uyavumelana kunye neqabane lakho. Ungacinga ukuba loo imidlalo ngasentla isidima sakho, nokuba nawe, njengokuba umntu onengqondo, musani kula tricks? Khumbula, xa usiva / usebenzise ibinzana ngonaphakade: "Nguwe kuphela ukuqonda kum", "Wena akundithandi konke konke!", "Ukuba uhamba, I ...." Arsenal is alipheli. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi ukhetho ngo wobudlelane babonakala kangako ukuba sibi yaye sisukela ekujoliswe ezincinane. Akukho mntu uza kukwenzakalisa banal "Akukho yenza iti emnandi!".

Zazo e sokunxibelelana kolulwa ixesha. Abasisigxina nokugcinwa ingqalelo uncamathiselo into ezisetyenziswayo nezikhumbuzo okulungileyo ngamava, kunye zexabiso izipho, ukutshintshwa komhla uxanduva uxinzelelo zoluntu yokuziphatha ...

Abazali nabantwana

Umxholo yokuntlokothiswa kubudlelwane bomzali nomntwana ukuze kube mlonyeni, kodwa thina sonke kwikhompyutha mdala ezinye "impahla" ukususela ebuntwaneni, kumaxesha amaninzi ukusebenzisa ubuchule bafunda kwintsapho okwangoku. Yokulawula ingozi xa injongo yazo - ukondla bahlambe usana ngexesha langokuhlwa ngaphandle inkampani. Noko ke, kukho abathile "owalela" kubazali abafuna ukuba bakhule bazithembe yaye ihlabathi yabantu eziyingqongileyo. Le manipulation iimvakalelo zothando, uloyiko, ubutyala self-ngokungathandabuzekiyo ( "Ukuba awukwenzi ndithi, Ndiya kumnika ngumakazi wasemzini").

emsebenzini

Zazo e kunxibelelwano ishishini nawo yande kwaye zisekelwe phezu arsenal efanayo. Basebenzisa ikratshi, amampunge womntu; kunokusetyenziswa namaqhinga ezizodwa. Umzekelo, ukuba ngoyaba, oko kukuthi ukungaluxabisi ngabom. Eli cebo ijolise ekudaleni ukukhathazeka, ukungaqiniseki ngokwayo. Ingasetyenziswa iintshukumisa amaqhinga xa kudalwa lukhuthazo ukwenza imisebenzi yabo ngomnye umntu.

Indlela ukusingatha

Ukuba ucinga ukuba iphenjelelwa, kwaye musa uza kuqhubeka kunikezela, kukho iqela lezindululo njengoko ukuxhathisa. Ngaphezu kwako konke, themba ngeendlela zakho kunye namava. Ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba iqabane lakho ayikho kakhulu ukunyaniseka, mhlawumbi, uba nesizathu sokuba. Mhlawumbi kunika yobuso, ithoni yokutshintsha. Kwaye ukuba ungabona ukuba kukho ezantsi yesibini ityesi, cinga ngento yonke. Into ebalulekileyo yokuntlokothiswa kunxibelelwano - a isizathu efihlakeleyo. Ukuba sele kucace kuwe, nawe nje sophazamiso wena balimala umdlalo, ukwenza kucace ukuba loo mntu ukuba thelekelwayo yakhe injongo. Kwimeko close kunye dear ngayo kakhulu buhlungu kwaye kwakugcwele komsipha yonxulumano. Uyakwazi ukusebenzisa ayityhile inyaniso ngeenjongo zabo, kodwa ke kufuneka ukuba intloko epholileyo kwaye ube liqothaqikili kancinane.

Iingcali zengqondo nithi ukuphululwa kukuthi njengesixhobo unxibelelwano, kodwa ngenxa ngokwabo "ezilungileyo" okanye "embi." Kubalulekile, indlela kuchaphazela ubomi bakho kunye nobungakanani apho ukwazi ukumelana nazo. ulwazi olungaphezulu luyafumaneka kwi iindibano zocweyo, iiseshoni zoqeqesho, apho izakhono zisenziwa ukukhusela nxamnye nokwenza izinto. Abo abaqala nje ukuba ukufunda ngalo mxholo mkhulu, kusenokuba kuhle ukuba aqhelane umsebenzi Eric Berne, onibizelayo kobakhe ukusetyenziswa "imidlalo". Ngaba indlela ngokwasengqondweni le ngxaki. Phakathi kwabo baxhomekeke le ndlela kwezentlalo, kuqala - bakweli AP Egides enika imbono ecacileyo ukuphululwa kunye neendlela ukulwa nabo.