Kuthekani ukuba i "Bandulukile" kwi-mthetho?

Kule mihla oomolokazana abaninzi badla ezikhala ulwalamano gingxi kunye unina indoda yakhe, wathi ngokoqobo loo-mthetho "got". Ngaphezu koko, eli binzana lidla wenza nje kuphela abo nje ukutshata yaye akazange abe nexesha ukuqhelana amalungu entsapho amatsha, kodwa abo sele kukho amava ngokwanelisayo ophucukileyo. Kufuneka wenze ntoni xa imeko apho umama yesibini nje ayiniki ezikhathazayo rhoqo uphazamisa ngeengcebiso zabo oluyimfuneko engeyomfuneko? Enye into kukuba qiniseka: ukuba "ulifumane" ku-mthetho, ngoko ke akufunekanga kwakhona lithabathe, ngenxa ukuba sokungenela kungaphelelanga ngexesha, uya kuqhubeka ukufumana kuphela mandundu.

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Masiqalise nesibakala sokuba xa omdala ukutshata uhlala nabazali bakhe kwindlu elingelayo, oko phantse lonk iphakamisa iingxaki ezininzi. Ngaphambili, xa babephila abantu neentsapho ezinkulu, apho kuyo kwizizukulwana ubuncinane ezithathu, kuphakama imibuzo efanayo, nangona, kodwa enziwe mpuluswa kukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo, uninzi baphila, le meko iye yamkelwa. Iwonga lalo kunye nempembelelo ngayo ilungu ngalinye lentsapho kwakuxhomekeke ngeminyaka yakhe yobudala. Ngoku bonke nokufuna ukuzimela yaye, ke ngoko, iimeko ezinjalo kuba uninzi lwabantu abatsha azamkelekanga. Yiyo loo nto, ukuze ukuba "nakukufumana oko," ku-mthetho, nto leyo lalenze isicwangciso ukuba ubomi eyahlukileyo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba abazali bobabini indoda kunye nomfazi. Makube kumphati yokuhlala efikelelekayo, makhe kuya kuba nzima, kodwa akukho bani uya kumphazamisa wena ukwakha ulonwabo lwabo lomtshato.

Kuthekani ukuba unina-ukuba 'sivuke'? amacebiso aluncedo

Amathuba ukuba intombi nonina nomyeni wakhe wayeza kuba ngabahlobo emangalisayo, ngokufanayo njengoko amathuba ukuba aya kujika abe iintshaba ekrakra. amatyala Real xa zingafumani yokungavisisani, enyanisweni, bembalwa kakhulu, yaye ukuba zithe zenzeka, ezinxulumene okanye abakhubazeke ngengqondo, okanye sisaqhubeka okungaqhelekanga kwi unyana. Zonke ezinye zifo kwaye kufuneka koyiswe. Ukuba 'ukufumana' e-mthetho, okokuqala sonke simele sizame ukuba ziziswe kwincoko phandle. Zama ukuba ukuzibeka endaweni yakhe. Akukho lula kakhulu ungamthabathi unina, ulundulule komntwana wakhe, apho bonke ubomi kuye imali. Ngoko ke kufuneka loomntu ngokuzolileyo izizathu kuye ukuba uthanda unyana wakhe, kungekho ngaphantsi kwe kuye. Zama ngokuzola ukuphulaphula icebiso lakhe yaye iingcebiso, makuthethe mnandi, kodwa ngaxeshanye wenze njengoko ubona kufanelekile. Ngamanye amaxesha unobangela ukruqukile kwi-mthetho kuba nekhwele lakhe. Kulo mzekelo, intombi waqonda ukuba nokudliwa ukuba "Okrut" waza wamthabatha unyana wakhe amthandayo. Kulo mzekelo, kufuneka ucele omnye wakho omthandayo ukunika ingqalelo umama ngakumbi kuye Awunayo nemvo nasekusweleni. Nantsi enye indlela elungileyo ukuba usebenzise ukuba i "Bandulukile" kwi-mthetho imiba yezoqoqosho. Ibizwa ngokuba "unyango inkanuko". Ukuba umama yesibini uyakuthanda ukunika iingcebiso zabo, ngoko kuye engalindelekanga imbonakalo evakalisa uvuyo, yaye ebhekisela nomsebenzi wakhe umsebenzi zonke iimeko apho (ngokoluvo yakhe) uyiqonda ngcono. Khawulezisa ke hamba kude umsebenzi okanye ngayo nayiphi na imfuneko, ngokuhlwa ukubulela ngokunyanisekileyo khawundixelele into nguwe uyoyika kuhlangulwa. Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukuba ukufumana nokuqina nesibindi eli thuba lokulungiselela utshintsho. Kwaye apho, egumbini, yonke ngokuthe ngcembe noziqulathe-kulungiswa.