Diffidence. Indlela onokuwoyisa ngayo?

Abantu abaninzi namhlanje unengxaki xa bengakwazi ukuthetha. Ngenxa yoku, abakwazi ukuya ekholejini okanye ufumane umsebenzi oyifunayo - konke kuba baziva ukungazithembi. Basoloko becinga ukuba silindele omnye ukusilela, ukuba uya wokhanyelwa ngokuba ningabachasi zabo ngcono nowomeleleyo. Ngenxa yoko, ukuba ayeke ukulwa kunye ukuphuma, ngaphandle kokwenza inyathelo incinane ukuya iphupha lakhe. Enyanisweni, xa bengqondo akukho into enjalo njenge "ithemba" okanye "ukungazithembi", lo mntu ngokwakhe ubeka nestampu. Konke kuxhomekeke nokholo ngokwakho, ukuba ucinga ukuba nina nonke kakuhle, ngoko unayo ukuzithemba okulungileyo phezulu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho abantu ezibe ziyidanele ngokwabo, iingcinga zabo, iimvakalelo kunye zengqondo, ngokulandelelana, ukungazithembi kubo aqhelekileyo ngakumbi.

Umlinganiswa lomntu ngamnye ezahlukeneyo, ngoko ke abathile ubomi wrestlers nikholwe ukuba bonke kunokwenzeka ukuba kuzuzwe, ngoxa abanye besoyika ukwenza enoba inyathelo encinane ukuze iphupha lakhe, ngoko ngokuqhelekileyo musa ukufezekisa nto. Amathuba kule bomi, bonke bayalingana, kodwa umntu omnye amalungelo abo kuwukhusela emsebenzini, nangona kusenokwenzeka ukuba akazi ukuba kulungile. Ke namanye iza kwenza phakathi kwehlabathi lonke imisebenzi wabelwa ukuba abaziintloko esinye isiqingatha abalingane. Ngoko ke kufuneka baqonde ukuba ukuzithemba kunye self-kwamathandabuzo zidlala indima ebalulekileyo ubomi. Kwaye kamsinya uqalisa ukutshintsha ezinye iimpawu kubo, ngokufuthi luxelela ngokwakho ukuba wena unako ukukwenza oko, le ngokukhawuleza uya kukwazi ukwenza naziphi na izicwangciso.

Yiloo nto abantu abaninzi bamangalisiwe soyise njani self-kwamathandabuzo. Abanye liphenduke iisayikholojisti kwaye unyango imali eninzi; Ezinye utshintsho phantsi kwempembelelo naziphi na iziganeko ezibalulekileyo ebomini babo. Ngokomzekelo, ebonisa engakhuselekanga yena uvakalelwa kukuba ekugqibeleni wafumana ulonwabo lwabo - ngakho kuba nentembelo ngakumbi kwaye luzimele yabanye, izimvo neembono.

Kukho abantu ubunzima ukungaqiniseki ubomi. Apho bathe ukufezekisa into, ukuba uthi: "Mna omhle," kodwa xa baqweqwediswa ethile ingxaki, ukuba bakhuthaze ngokwabo, zonke ezimbi, aze ancame. Kubhetele ukuba bafune uncedo lobungcali okanye ufunde iincwadi luncedo kulo mbandela. Kwi-Internet kukho iincwadi ezininzi, nto leyo echaza ngokupheleleyo amatyala ezahlukeneyo, kwaye uyakwazi ukufumana amanye amacebiso aluncedo ngendlela balahle self-kwamathandabuzo.

Nazi ezinye izikhokelo ezilula kwabo bangamaziyo soyise njani ukungazithembi:

- badla ukumamela umculo elungileyo nobumnandi. Kuya kukunceda ukuba uhlale nomxhelo owonwabileyo ulibale ngeengxaki zabo. Xa uziva okulungileyo lutho endibulala abantu nangoko qaphela ukuba baze umdla kuwe. Ngapha koko, amcele kakhulu ukuba baxoxe izitabane kunye nomntu okuchwayitha, Kunokuhlala yazala lowo uba nto.

- cinga ikuba kunye naye ukumnika lonke ixesha lakhe nanceba. Ukuba ubhala imibongo okanye umculo kokuqamba, apapashe indalo zakho uboniso (inokuba ungaziwa). Bona into abanye abantu bathi ngomsebenzi wakho, oko kunceda ukukholelwa ngokwabo. Nje musa ukulibala ukuba konke konke akumkholisi bonke abantu!

- ukuncuma yaye benze imisebenzi emihle. enyanzelisa Oku ukuba ukholelwe ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuze umntu kweli hlabathi ukuba uyathandwa, wena abakulindele. Ngapha koko, xa unceda umntu ongamaziyo, wena nje ngcono kwaye ufuna ukufunda into ngayo ukuze sizazi. Yiloo ndlela ziya kuncothulwa nina bantu, ukuba ube ngobubele yaye ngakumbi mnandi.

Enye obalulekileyo cebiso: musa ukuthetha ngeengxaki zabo bonke abantu. Abantu abafani: ezinye ukuphulaphula nje, kodwa kwezinye nemihlali. Kukho bambalwa ngubani na ngokwenene akuncede. Zama ukwabelana kuphela nabo basondeleyo ngenene kuwe kunye nomntu omthembileyo 100%. Abantu abanjalo kuphela baya kufumana la mazwi achanekileyo, uya kuba nako ukuxhasa uze uqinisekise ukuba yonke into aya kuba kakuhle.