Fundisa umntwana imbiza - kulula okanye kunzima?

Esikolweni umntwana kusembizeni isoloko ilula, ingakumbi ekukhanyeni ukusetyenziswa kwexesha elide amanabukeni ezilahlwayo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, umntwana uqala ukusebenzisa kuyo isigqibo ufikelela kwiminyaka emibini. A impendulo ecacileyo nomba into ubudala ukufundisa umntwana embizeni, kunzima kakhulu. Uninzi abantwana olu inzululwazi ezintsonkothileyo kwiintsuku nje ezintathu ukuya kwezine, ngoxa abanye kuya kufuneka ukuba benze iiveki ezimbalwa, okanye iinyanga. Nakuba kunjalo, ukwenzela ukuba kube lula le nkqubo kwixesha elizayo, ungenza uqalise ukufundisa usana lwakho ukuba ucoceko ukususela kwiinyanga ezintathu ukuya kwezine.

Ukuze kamva kube lula ukufundisa umntwana embizeni, abanye abazali kule ubudala ukusebenzelana "yokutyala 'of ilweyile wakhe, postelennuyu phantsi. Kulungile ukwenza oko emva kokuba kuvuka umntwana, okanye ixesha elithile kamva, emveni kokuba bedlile. Xa ubona ukuba umntwana kangangeyure - isiqingatha womile, unako kwakhona yibambe ngaphezu ilweyile okanye isinqe. Ezi zazo ezilula kunokwenza lula kakhulu umsebenzi wenu kwixesha elizayo.

Kubulungisa kufanele kuqatshelwe ukuba ayizizo zonke oomama bafumane "otyalwe" abantwana iinyanga ezintathu okanye ezine. Ngokuqhelekileyo kids siyancwina, abangenazigqibo kunye nawenu, yaye ngokufuthi abazali ngokwabo azinazo umonde - bafake ukufundisa umntwana 'imvula of "musa nkqu yaqalisa. Nakuba kunjalo, kufuneka zibonise sithintelo: kamva ukufundisa umntwana imbiza kuya kuba lula kakhulu. Ukugcina umkhondo kuya kufuneka ukuba ixesha ukuba sihlale ilweyile, kungcono ukwenza ngaphandle kwiintsuku ezimbalwa "amanabukeni" okanye "haggis".

Beka wosana imbiza kungaqala akuba eneminyaka kweenyanga ezisixhenxe okanye ezisibhozo, xa kuya kuba kuhle ukuba ahlale. Bembiza kufuneka ibe ukhululekile (ngcono - kunye ngasemva, ngokohlobo kweenyawo). bumpers awo ibe banzi ukwenzela ukuba uthathe imilenze. Okokuqala, iisayikholojisti acebise ukuba umntwana phezu nepoti kwi iimpahla ukuba nje ndikuqhelile esi sifundo sitsha. Ukuba itakane kuba likhankanya yokulwisana iinzame ukufundisa umntwana imbiza ngcono kodwa angavumi. Ezinye iingcali isincomo okwethutyana ukususa embizeni, kodwa abanye, phezu koko, kucetyiswa ukuba ushiye kwindawo esemboniselweni - ngoko ke umntwana uza kusetyenziswa kuyo ngokukhawuleza. Emva kwexesha elithile, umzamo kufuneka uphindaphindwe. Ungasusa ilweyile akayi kuba xa usana ukoyika. Qiniseka ukuba ukuqinisekisa ukuba imbiza wayengekho kubanda - umzekelo, othe phantsi umsinga wamanzi ashushu, okanye isimo sengqondo umntwana emibi kuye.

Ezityalwe wosana kwimfuno imbiza ngexesha elifanayo. ukuqonda isizathu oku kuyimfuneko, kucetyiswa ukuba, umzekelo, ukuba uhlunguzele idandalazisa okuqulathwe bembiza kulo ilweyile okanye wenze izandi ezifanelekileyo. Kwakhona zama ukuba ' "kwi unodoli nepoti okanye ibhere, acacisele umntwana ukuba uza kuyenza. Yeyiphi indlela luza kuba sisebenzayo ityala lakho, akunakwenzeka ukuba ibone. Inye into esiqiniseke ngayo yile: ukufundisa umntwana kusembizeni iya kuba nzima ngakumbi xa uyenza ngamandla. Kubhetele ukuba uqeqesho nobunono kwindawo umdlalo lula nalula, achukumisa iimvakalelo ezintle. Apha sinokukhumbula, umzekelo, indlela lamaqhinga isincomo yi unina i American; yena yavalwa efrijini ice iityhubhu ezimibalabala, bawafaka embizeni, waza wacela ukuba unyana wakhe, "aim" kubo. Kodwa ngale ndlela - i ngakumbi abo banomdla, indlela ukuziyela ukuqeqesha umntwana kule minyaka-2 okanye kunjalo.

Kwezo meko, xa yakwazi "kumbamba mzuzu" kwaye ukuba ehlise usana ekuhambeni kwexesha, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba badumise, ngesisa. Pot kufuneka sihlale phakathi kufikelela, kunye nemfuneko ukhuthaze umntwana ukuba ahlale yedwa. Ukuba wenza njalo ngokuchanileyo, ngokokuqhelekileyo unyaka abantwana ezinesiqingatha sele becela ukuba imbiza okanye ubaleke ngokwabo ukuya kuyo xa kuyimfuneko. Musa ukuxhala ukuba umntwana lowo sele becela ukuba imbiza, ngesiquphe bayeke ukwenza njalo. Amaninzi, inyaniso kukuba lo mkhwa ekubhobhozeni, ngoko musa tumbuluxeke - in kwiintsuku ezimbalwa yonke into iza kuhamba kakuhle, yaye kwiminyaka emibini umntwana sele liphuhlise nobunono ixesha elide.