Indlela ukwahlula umntwana ubisi lwebele?

Ibele a inkalo zentlalo. Umzekelo, abasetyhini basoloko ukumamela izimvo zabanye anika iingcebiso ukuyeka emva konyaka ukondla usana lwakho, kuba unokukhawuleza ibele, oko iba nefuthe elibi kwimpilo yabantu basetyhini, umntwana uya kubhuqwa ubisi abaqhubeki izibonelelo, njl Kuba unina kufuneka ibe header enye kuphela egqiba ngexesha kulunyulwa umntwana ebeleni - umnqweno wakhe ukuyeka olu hlobo lonxibelelwano abanabantwana.

Indlela ukwahlula umntwana libele-ukondla ukuya inkqubo yalula ukuba zombini-nxaxheba bayo? Uphuhliso ubisi lwebele kuxhomekeke umnqweno yomfazi ukugcina ulwalamano kunye nosana. Ngamanye amaxesha ubisi liyalahleka kwiinyanga ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa kancinane, ngenxa yokuba mhlawumbi abazange ukubonisa umnqweno ukunxibelelana ngale ndlela naye, okanye ezinxulumene nayo nayiphi na ezinye izizathu kwengqondo okanye ukusebenza komzimba.

Oomama abaninzi uzibuze ukuba ukugqiba njani ukuncancisa ukuba usana akusayi udlayo, ngokufuthi ucela esifubeni sakhe ukuba ukugqiba ukusebenza umfazi? Noko ke, akukho namnye unelungelo emxelela ngexesha ekufuneka iyenzile loo nto. Kuphela unina ugqiba xa kukho lo mzuzu.

Ukuba wenza isigqibo sokuba ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka emva kweminyaka usana ezimnyaka mnye ubudala, ungakhetha ngeendlela ezininzi ukuze ayeke njani nokuncancisa. Nazi ezona ziphambili:

1. "Amsongele Soft" ukusuka esifubeni. Isethi lezindululo, leyo iqulathe uluhlu iincam yenzelwe ukunceda umama kule nkqubo, njengoko umthetho, Ndiyaqhubekeka yokuba kufuneka wenziwe kakuhle. Indlela ukwahlula umntwana uyancancisa kangaka? Umama Kufuneka buye ukunciphisa inani ibele emini uze ebusuku.

iimpawu ezintle kule ndlela kukuba ubisi ngokuthe kunciphisa. Ebusuku, nokuqhubeka ukondla, wena inkxaso nelebhokhwe engqondweni, ngubani ngeli xesha sosuku asemngciphekweni kwaye kufuneka sifumane uncedo ngendlela eqhelekileyo kuye.

Phakathi izinto ezimbi indlela enjalo ibizwa ngokuba neengxaki kwenzeka umama xa lunciphisa inani isicelo imihla ngemihla. Oku kubanga yokusabela onganambithekiyo umntwana, iinyembezi, waqala ukuba ufuna oko ebenziwe ukuya kweli xesha. kwiimeko ezinjalo lusizi kuba nefuthe elibi kwi imeko nangokweemvakalelo umama: yena uyakwazi lincothule phezu itakane, udinwe inkqubo enjalo ebeleni, zobisi kakhulu kuvalela. Ukongeza, abasetyhini kufuneka rhoqo ukwenza incoko nomntwana isizathu akakwazi ukufumana i "tityu" ezifunekayo, kusetyenziswa amabinzana afana "ubisi phezu", "Tityaev ibuhlungu", "ubisi ibhuqiwe." Umntwana akakwazi ukuqonda isizathu sokuba akazange avunyelwe ukuba uqinisekise ukuba yonke into ukuze, kwaye ungazifumani nje izinto ozifunayo.

Ukuze siqonde indlela yokwahlula umntwana uncancisa ekusebenziseni le ndlela yeyona buhlungu ubuncinane, kunokwenzeka ukuba ufunde ezi zincomo zilandelayo:

• Dlala kunye nomntwana wakho ngakumbi ukuba waziva uthando lwakho ukuze bakuthathele ingqalelo;
• musa ukuvumela ukuba intsapho yakho izimvo lokondla kunye nexesha laso, umntwana kuphela iinkumbulo ezintle ngelo xesha.

1. Indlela 'ixesha-excommunications. " Le ndlela idla ngokusetyenziswa xa oomama kufuneka ukuba ukusebenza ngoko nangoko ikhefu okanye uye esibhedlele. Oko kukuthi, unina ngaxa lithile eyeka ukutya. Oku kunokubangela ndlongo phezu inxalenye itakane, uyayitshintsha ukuziphatha kwakhe, ngokufutshane, kule ndlela kunganeziphumo ukuboniswa kwi imeko nangokwasengqondweni umntwana.

Umama kulo mzekelo, kukho iingxaki umbuzo ukuba ayeke njani imveliso ubisi lwebele. Ukuze wenze oku, oogqirha isindululo okanye uthathe iipilisi ezizodwa sokupheliswa lokwaphusa, okanye ukubeka ikhaphetshu amagqabi esifubeni sakhe, ukuthatha ntlungu. Ukuba kukho intlungu kakhulu, ungenza nokuba ukuthatha iyeza olungqongqo unalo impahla wokuqeda.

Ngamafutshane, kungcono ukuba udibane nogqirha amacebiso. Unako kwakhona indlela izilumle umntwana evela lokuncancisa. Kodwa kungcono ukuba ukhethe ukhetho ngokwayo, ngokusekelwe kwi imeko yayo.