Izijekulo Non-ngomlomo kunye neentsingiselo zawo

Ngamanye amaxesha amagama abantu bakaThixo ngokwezabo iinkolelo zabo oyinyaniso neenjongo. Ukuze uqonde into ecinga iqabane lakho liya kunceda izimbo non-ngomlomo yintoni ngokwenene. Yiba ngakumbi kancinane ingqalelo ngexesha ukulalana. Oku kuzakuvumela ukuba ufumane inkcazelo engakumbi kunokuba Ndingathanda ukudlulisa umdlali welinye icala.

Yinyaniso le?

Abantu abaninzi sokuthandabuza umba ezifana nonxibelelwano non-ngomlomo. Izimbo, amabinzana yobuso zibonwa njengento yendalo zoomatshini. Kodwa wanikwa le nyaniso, singakwazi ukuthetha yindlela non-ngomlomo esemagqabini. Zengqondo baye bazinikela umsebenzi omninzi yenzululwazi umba. Kodwa xa abagxeki kwaye oku ingxabano, ukuqhuba uphando oluzimeleyo kwanele. Umzekelo, ukufunda States iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo nabo babathandayo, yaye kamva uya kukwazi ukubona bangaphandle.

Kakade ke, asimele silibale ukuba kukho Niyazi ukuba umthetho. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu ubenakho ukuthatha le okanye isikhundla nje amandla mkhwa. Ukongeza, kuyenzeka ukuba akayi ukuba uziva kakuhle okanye ukuba iimpahla engonwabanga. ukuziphatha kwabantu kungaba lobushushu nempembelelo ebalulekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, kufuneka singayithatheli phantsi indima yonxibelelwano non-ngomlomo. Noko ke, ngaphambi kokwenza izigqibo zokugqibela, kubalulekile ujonge ngokusondeleyo kwi iimeko apho incoko kwenzeka.

Yintoni na izandla ezipokothweni zakhe

Ngokufuthi, oko kunokubonwa njengomntu ngexesha lencoko ngezandla zakhe ezipokothweni zakhe. Umntu ucinga oku kubonisa nambeko. Kwakhona, musa ukuyigatya kungenzeka ukuba umntu aphantsi emkhenkceni, ngoxa iimeko lobushushu engonwabanga. Nangona kunjalo, xa sicinga non-ezomlomo ulwimi lomzimba, unako ukuza izigqibo zilandelayo:

• Izandla ifihlwe ezipokothweni zakhe, kungaba uphawu lwe ingqalelo kakhulu. Umntu kule ndawo isenokuba yinto ukucamngca okanye ukwakha isicwangciso samanyathelo. Noko ke, ukuze abe dlalisa kancinane okanye umqulu ukusuka isithende ukuya toe.
• Enye mibhalo yale senzo - oko sisithukuthezi. Umzekelo, kwi iintlanganiso elide okanye iintlanganiso abantu behlabathi badla ukuhamba, izandla zakhe iipokotho zakhe, kuba nina aninako ushiya lo mcimbi, kodwa ke akukho nto umdla kuyenzeka kuyo. Ngoko ke, ukuba iqabane lakho uthathe isigqibo efanayo, ungafuna Ukuyekisa ukufowuna okanye ulithumele a track umdla ngakumbi.
• Ukuba izandla kwipokotho yakhe ukufihla umphulaphuli kunye isithethi, oko kusenokubonisa nohanahaniso yakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kuba isandla ukunika ubuxoki, kodwa ngenxa yokuba abantu ngokwemvelo kukugusha ukuze musa ugqibe iinjongo zakhe.
• Kungenjalo, izandla epokothweni enokuthethwa sengqondo angenzi interlocutor yakho. Akayi mhlawumbi akanamdla okanye abafuni ukwenza oko umxelela. Kodwa ngenxa ke, Kakade ke, kuya kuxhomekeka kumgangatho wakho ngegunya.
• Ukuba sicinga izijekulo non-ngomlomo babantu, ngamadlelane amanenekazi ngezandla ezifihliweyo epokothweni trouser (iblukhwe nje!) Ukuthetha azithandayo yobuntu. Kodwa xa kusingethwe namalungu isini sabo, ngoko ke, ebonisa amandla geqe.

ebonisa ukugqwesa

Ukwazi izimbo lenta, unako lula kakhulu ubomi bakho, kuba zinokuthi zisetyenziswe ukuqonda ngeenjongo yokwenene interlocutor yaye zifikeleleke kuwe. Umzekelo, xa umntu uzama ukubonisa ukuzithemba, kwakunye ukongama namandla phezu kwenu, oku kuqondwe mpawu zilandelayo:

• Le ndoda ubeka izandla zakhe ngasemva kwakhe, lifutha esifubeni sakhe phambili. Ngenxa yoko, uzama ukubonisa isibindi sakhe.
• Izandla encokola owaphosa kucebisa, nomzimba impressively ekhululekile. Ngenxa yoko umntu uzama ukubonisa ukuba ubakhathalele ngaye, yaye ingabangeli.
• Ngamanye amaxesha umntu indelelo kuthatha isimo ukuzithethelela, iingalo zakhe wawela esifubeni sakhe, bawurhuqa nasesithupheni phezulu. Oku kuthetha ukuba nangona uzama lokuzithethelela, kodwa uziva ukongama phezu kwenu.

intsebenziswano lafaka

Kucingwa izijekulo non-ngomlomo, kufuneka sinikele ingqalelo ekhethekileyo intsebenziswano oyivileyo kunye interlocutor. Ngoko ke, singakwazi ukuthetha oku kulandelayo:

• Ukuba intlanganiso kunye umhlobo okanye isalamane uthe wabuwola, qha elifutshane kufuneka athathe akukho ngaphezu kokuba irhafu isidima somntu.
• Opo kuthetha ukuba abantu babe ndidikwe kwaye Ndiyavuya kakhulu ukukubona. Noko ke, ukuba yokungakhuseleki womelele kakhulu, kwaye ngokoqobo ukomiwa ngayo, kusenokwenzeka ukuba umntu uzama kuphela ukwenza uvuyo okubonayo.
• Ukuba, ngethuba esentlungwini umntu okuphatha nikhathazeke kwaye uziva ukhululekile, uzithetha malunga nokuhlonipha wena.
• Xa udibana nomntu evula isandla sakhe ukuba ukuxhawula, ithetha ithemba lakhe olungathethekiyo ngawe.
• Ukuba, ngethuba umntu ukuxhawula asithatyathwa ukuba ngesandla, kwaye kufutshane kunene, ithetha isimo sakhe ekrokrisayo. Kwaba njalo nangemihla uBukhosi baseRoma khona mazitshekishwe ukuba ikrele umngxuma naye.
• Ukuba umntu unikina isandla sakho ngokuqinileyo amagwegwe okanye ngezandla zozibini, behlunguzela ngamandla (mhlawumbi akwenze ukungakhululeki), kubonisa uvuyo lwakhe ngokunyanisekileyo kuphela xa yokuhlangana.
• Ukuba, ngethuba ukuxhawula uvakalelwa kukuba interlocutor isandla sakho ngababuthuntu, incoko elinemveliso ayikasebenzi, ngenxa yokuba iqwalaselwe qha wena.
• Xa umntu ethatha isandla sakhe , wesundu phantsi, kwinqanaba ienjini, egxile ikulawule.
• Pat ngasemva isimo sengqondo friendly. Ukongeza, le senzo sibonisa inqaba interlocutor kunye nokulungela kwakhe ukunceda.
• Lumka labantu ngexesha incoko ubambe kuwe ngengalo. imvakalelo ukungathembani yakho, nabo bazama ukukhangela kuwe kuye, yaye bhekisa ukuba ube ngumhlobo wakho ethembekileyo. Kodwa lo senzo alusoloko ngokunyanisekileyo, kuba iindlela ngokwasengqondweni enjalo aphela rhoqo asetyenziswa ngabantu ngeenjongo zokuzingca.

Indlela ukuqaphela uvelwano

Enye yeengxaki ezinkulu yobudlelwane phakathi ngokwesini esahlukileyo - oku kungathenjwa ncam. Maxa wambi ngaphezu amazwi onokumxelela unxibelelwano non-ngomlomo. Izimbo ezibonisa uvelwano, oku kulandelayo:

• Komso emehlweni akhe - akukho yintsomi. Umntu sihlangabezana uvelwano, eneneni, ikhangeleka kancinane ezahlukeneyo, kwaye inwebu uba hydrated ngakumbi. Ukongeza, abafundi baya ndakha kwandiswa.
• abantu luvutha kwinqanaba ienjini, ndizama ukumkholisa. Ngenxa yoko, kule ntlanganiso, yena wenza zazo ezahlukeneyo imbonakalo yazo: silungelelanisa umva, encothula esiswini, elungi- iinwele zakhe.
• Omabini la madoda namabhinqa bazama ukutsalela ingqalelo kwiimpawu zesini lwangaphandle. Oku sibeka iminwe phezu umbhinqo ibhulukhwe, imilenze ebanzi-set, unbuttoned phezulu iqhosha ihempe yakhe.
• izijekulo Active (ngamanye amaxesha ezingafanelekanga) nako kube ngumqondiso of novelwano. Into yokuba umntu thando ulahlekelwe ukulawula izenzo zabo.
• Vavanya iinjongo interlocutor kunokuba bejonge amehlo akhe. Ukuba akubheka emehlweni, kukho isizathu sokukholelwa ukuba unomdla kuwe njengomntu. Kwaye khangela, yahamba ngeenxa emzimbeni, nto ayithethi ngaphezu inkanuko yesini.
• Ukuba umntu wesini esahlukileyo liqhubeka njalo lizama ukufumana kufutshane, okanye ngaphantsi azisebenzisele, ukuphathaphatha, akukho ukuthandabuza sympathies zakhe.

disinterest

Ngamanye amaxesha umntu kuqhubeka ibali, esazi ukuba elinye icala le ingabangeli ngokupheleleyo. Yizani uncedo lonxibelelwano non-ngomlomo. Izimbo ezibonisa ukungakhathali, zezi zilandelayo:

• Ukuba omnye lo umntu iwele iingalo zakhe, yena ngethuku lemvelo luvalwa phezu kwakho. Wazazi mnika, okanye lingakholisi.
• Qaphela apho uluvo interlocutor ithunyelwe. Ukuba ukhangela naphi na, kodwa hayi ebusweni bakho, kuyimfuneko ukuba agqibe incoko.
• Ukuba umntu ufuna ukuphelisa le ncoko, iya kunika zasikrwaqula rhoqo emboniselweni yakhe. Kwakhona ukunxiba izihlangu zakhe ingabhekiswa ukuya emnyango.

iimpawu zobuso

Kuninzi enokuthethwa indoda imo yakhe yobuso yakhe. izijekulo Non-ngomlomo, kubonakala ebusweni, uyakwazi ukuthetha ngezi zinto zilandelayo:

• iingqameko amehlo kunye ufike sithethe mood noburhalarhume;
• amashiya kunye amehlo kuthetha isimanga;
• kwimo komlomo uloyiko wazolula ububanzi, kunye neekona zabo ubuza;
• ulonwabo lubonakala ngokuba wondela ezolileyo waphakamisa ezikoneni zomlomo wakhe kancinane;
• indoda buhlungu kuzisa namashiya bakhe behla neekona emilebeni.

lalinjani ilizwi

Yeendlela eziphambili wokosulela iinkcukacha - ngomlomo. izijekulo lenta ngayo ukubonisa ukuba ndlebe naye uzama ukufihla. Akukho ulwazi kangako inokuba ithoni onokukuxela ngoku kulandelayo:

• fast and lokungahambisani ngayo ngezandi mpaku ibonisa uchulumanco olukhulu;
• incoko bazithembe yaye elikhulu ubungqina ngothakazelelo esebenzayo;
• ukuba umntu uthi ngababuthuntu, bewuhlisele ithoni ekupheleni binzana, oko kudinisa;
• kulinganiswa nentetho kade, nto leyo lubonakala ngokuba ilizwi rhoqo, ubungqina ikratshi interlocutor;
• umise esisigxina ngentetho, iimpazamo elingenzi nto ibonisa Uvalo nokungazithembi.

iimpawu amanga

Ukwazi ukubaluleka izimbo ezingezizo ezomlomo zokuva ubuxoki interlocutors. Ngoko ke, sinikela ingqalelo ezi ngongoma zilandelayo:

• zinde ixesha ukuqala ibinzana okanye hluleka rhoqo;
• asymmetry kwi imisipha yobuso;
• imizuzwana engaphezu kwe-10, ukuba indawo yobuso;
• iimvakalelo kuvela emva kwexesha kwaye ayifani umxholo intetho;
• ololulele ngoncumo akudali umgca egosogoso kwaye imxinwa zomlomo;
• ukungabikho ngemehlo;
• balawula izandla neenyawo (uthinte, twitching) kunye nemilebe zakusyvanie;
• Zama ukugcina gesticulations ifayile;
• zokuphefumla onzima kunye nokuphuculwa lomgadi lalinjani ilizwi;
• ivaliwe ume iingalo wawela kunye nemilenze, wazolula umva;
• bezihlikihla impumlo okanye kwinkulungwane (isenokuba yinto afterthought kwaye kunzima okuphawuleka);
• kwicala lasekunene (ngokwemiqathango ulwimi lomzimba) iyasebenza ngaphezu ekhohlo;
• iimvakalelo ngokubaxwa kwaye nezijekulo;
• ukuqhwanyazaemva rhoqo.

ibanga

Ukuqwalasela indlela non-ngomlomo izimbo zomzimba, ngeke sithethe malunga ugqatso, ibanjwa phakathi kwabantu kwiimeko ezithile. Ngoko ke, eyamkelekileyo imida zilandelayo ingqalelo:

• ukuya kwisiqingatha semitha - ngumgama olusondeleyo phakathi kwabathandekayo Ukwalamana sentembeko;
• ukusuka 0.5 ukuya 1.5 m - le lokubekana kumgama zokunxibelelana nabanye abantu;
• 1.5-3.5 m - umsantsa ukuba ukhululekile ukuba unxibelelwano phakathi abasemzini, ngokunjalo kwimiba yoshishino;
• 3.7 m - yinto umgama uluntu apho intsebenzo ebanjwe phambi abaphulaphuli abaninzi.

Useful ukwazi ngamnye

Max Egger onemoto igalelo elikhulu ukuya kwizifundo lo mbuzo, njengendlela izimbo non-ngomlomo. Waba inkqubo lwemiqondiso 75, ezona ziphambili zezi zilandelayo:

• intshukumo ye Adam ka-apile show yimincili okanye interlocutor ukuba uthetha inyaniso;
• ukuba izandla ukunxibelelana nayiphi na into, oko kuthiwa ukungaqiniseki;
• ukuba umntu nangesandla nasesilevini sakhe, yena ucinga isithembiso;
• zakusyvanie umnwe, ipensile okanye iitempile kuthetha ukuba loo mntu uqhuba;
• irobhothi umva entanyeni unomsindo okanye ukuziva zisengozini nguwe;
• ukuba umntu likhuhla zezandla zakhe, ulindele ukufumana izibonelelo;
• iikawusi xa iinyawo ngaphandle esandleni, umntu uziva njengabongamileyo kuwe.

isiphelo

Ukuba ufuna ukwazi ngaphezu koko uthi, kuyimfuneko ukuba afunde ulwimi lwezandla. Unxibelelwano Non-ngamazwi kunzima ukulawula, yaye ngenxa yoko kokuba kube nokuqwalaselwa kakhulu njongo. Noko ke, ungaze ulibale ukuba izijekulo ezithile ukuze ezinxulumene kakuhle-ntle okanye impembelelo lwangaphandle.