Kubeleka. Sesikolweni xa engakanani ngobudala ingcono ukuyinika kuzala, yaye ngoba?

Lo mbuzo, "sesikolweni xa engakanani ngobudala ingcono ukuyinika ukuzalwa 'umdla kwabaninzi. Ngesi sihlandlo, rhoqo mpikiswano eqhubekayo. Imibono oogqirha antsonkothileyo. Abanye bathi kubhetele kuzala okokuqala phambi kweminyaka yobudala engama-25, abanye bathi ubudala kuFeliks - Yiminyaka 19-20 ubudala, kunye nabanye, ngokusekelwe kumava, bakholelwa ukuba inkosikazi eneminyaka engama-30 ubudala ingaba ndithwale uzale umntwana onempilo. Makhe zama ukulungisa lo mba.

Kwaye ukuba aphendule, kubhetele kuzala, siyaqala ukuba ingxoxo amalungu ababhinqileyo. Umzimba female liphuhlisa ngokukhawuleza kakhulu. Nokufika sexesheni, yena akhulelweyo kakuhle. Ngokuqhelekileyo, le sexesheni yokuqala emantombazaneni ekuqaleni kweminyaka engama-12. Kodwa lo yobudala asifanele ukuba ngumama. Kufuneka uthathe ingqalelo into yokuba ephilayo yintombazana ekhulisa iminyaka 18-19 (kuxhomekeke ngeempawu nokomzimba ngamnye). Ewe, uyakwazi ukufumana ukukhulelwa emva uqala ukuba sexesheni. Kodwa ngoku kuzala, ukuzala kwakhona kweli xesha Kukudandatheka kuya kuba nzima. Kwaye engqondweni yomntwana kakhulu kodwa ukulungele ukuba ngumama.

Yintoni na ubudala ingqalelo efanelekileyo kakhulu ukwenzela ukuba ukucwangcisa ukukhulelwa?

ukuzala First kunye nokukhulelwa - kube nzima ukuba nawuphi na umfazi. Kubalulekile ukuba umzimba obhinqileyo akukho ivuthiwe kuphela yokumitha, kodwa waba luphile. Eneneni, iiveki elide-40 zokukhulelwa, umfazi yatshintsha nje ngaphandle nje kuphela kodwa ngaphakathi. umzimba wakhe yakhiwe ngokupheleleyo, yaye ezinye iinkqubo ukutshintsha umsebenzi wabo. Umzekelo, umfazi omithiyo kwandisa umthamo wegazi, nto leyo ekhokelela ekubeni umsebenzi eyandisiweyo imisipha yenhliziyo. Lowo bantliziyo uyagula, sinjani ngokwakhe emngciphekweni omkhulu.

Ngoko ke, zingaphi iminyaka Kulungile kuzala ukuba ngunina abonwabileyo umntwana onempilo? Zaleni yobudala abafazi makhulu kakhulu. Uthatha kwixesha lokuqala sexesheni phambi kokuba ukuqala ukuya exesheni. Kubonakala ukuba ixesha elaneleyo, kwaye umbuzo, into ubudala ingcono ukuyinika kuzala, musa elibukhali. Noko ke, akukho mfuneko yokuba bezixelele ukuba istokhwe iminyaka emininzi yaye musani sukela. abafazi abaninzi bakhetha ikhondo ukuba ngumama. Nakuba kunjalo, kufanele kuqatshelwe ukuba yokuqala yokuzalwa, umzekelo,-letneny 35 amabhinqa azisoloko yimpumelelo. kube nzima iza kuba ukuthwala uze uzale. Kwaye ukhulelwe 35 ezinzima. Ingakumbi xa phambi ubudala isisu, ngayo i kwezifo yamanina, lalisebenzisa ipilisi ixesha elide. Hi ndlela leyi, izifo yabasetyhini kakhulu buthathaka zokuzala, imenza umsebenzi wabo kukhokelela ukungachumi. Ukongeza, umfazi, ongayi kunikwa ekuzalweni ukuya kwiminyaka-35, kukho umngcipheko ukukhawula umntwana abanala makhwiniba kunye ukutenxa kwisiqhelo.

Oogqirha bayakholelwa ukuphendula umbuzo, into ubudala ingcono ukuyinika kuzala, kwaye ulalelwe izimvo zabo, ukususela 19 ukuya 30 Ngaphezu koko kakuhle, kamsinya ngakumbi. Kutheni? Okokuqala, umfazi ithwala iqanda inkcazelo yakhe yemfuza. Ukutyhubela iminyaka, ngokunjalo phantsi kwempembelelo indlela yobomi, isondlo, imikhwa izinto zangaphandle, olu lwazi icinyiwe kwaye ilungiswe. Okwesibini, umfazi, hayi wazala ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukeneyo, ukuya kwiminyaka 30-35, ngokuthe ngcembe uyayeka ukuba banqwenela ukuba abe ngunina. nethuku bakamama imane kude. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngeli ubudala, ukuba sele ukusekwa ngokupheleleyo, ukwakha umsebenzi kunye isihlalo nomntwana ebomini bakhe (njengoko ayikho buhlungu), ukuba akunjalo. Okwesithathu, emva abafazi 30 bangaphathwa zizifo ezahlukahlukeneyo izifo. Iingxaki zixhaphakileyo kunye zamaqanda, isibeleko, kunye namanye amalungu ukuba banoxanduva akhulelwe ukukhulelwa eqhelekileyo.

abafazi abaninzi, xa ecinga, oko ubudala ingcono ukuyinika kuzala, kwaye elinye ngumama, bazibeke yokuba kuphinda oko kuthetha ntoni ukuba abantwana. isohlwayo inkwantyisayo wesini intle, musa unyuke. Ngapha koko, injongo yobomi - e phambili yayo. Nature wanika nje umfazi isipho - ukunika ubomi ukuqhubeka nobuhlanga. Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba ziwushiye ngokuzithandela?