Bhaliso lomtshato. Imiyalelo ezili-10 zeMatrimony ehambelanayo

Ngoko, usenqume ukutshata nomntu wakho womtshato. Sinikela imiyalelo e-10 eya kukunceda emva kokubhalisa umtshato, musa ukuxabana nokuhlala ngoxolo noxolo. Ngoko, makhe sichaze imiyalelo elishumi yomtshato ohambelanayo. Si ba dwelisa.

1. Khumbula ukuba zonke iingxaki ozikhathalelayo, nokuba ngaba azikhathalele nina bobabini, kufuneka uxoxe nomphefumlo wakho. Khumbula ukuba ngoku usapho kwaye ngoku ke zonke iingxaki kufuneka zixoxwe kunye. Ukuba awuhambisani nalo mgaqo, ukubhaliswa komtshato wakho akuyi kuhlala ixesha elide.
2. Emtshatweni, awukwazi ukubona, khumbula kwaye uvale yonke into. Kufuneka ukhumbule oku kwaye uxoxe ngokuzithemba okukhulu kwisiqingatha sakho sesibini, kungenjalo kutheni ubhalise umtshato uze udale intsapho nomntu ongathembekiyo kwaye akrokre into yonke.
3. Musa ukugxeka kwaye udla ngokugxeka umlingane wakho womntu. Zibeke kwindawo yakho yesiqingatha sesibini. Ukuba uhlala ugxekwa kwaye unamathele kuwe? Kude kube nini ubekezelela zonke ezihlazo? Ezi ngcikivo ziya kuphuhliswa kukusetyenziswa kakubi nokusetyenziswa kakubi, ukuxhatshazwa kwintsapho kuya kukhula kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukubhaliswa komtshato akusayi kuhlala ixesha elide. Criticze kakhulu kakhulu, kwaye kuphela ukuba oku kubaluleke kakhulu! Musa ukugxekisa ngezinye izinto ezincinane, zama nje ukuzisebenzisa kwiintsilelo ezincinane zeqabane lakho.
4. Zama ukuphepha i-scandals ezinamandla kunye neziqhwithi eziqhwithiyo kunye nomphefumlo wakho womlingane, zama ukuxazulula ingxabano ngaphezulu kwezopolitiko kunye nokunciphisa ama-scandals kunoma yiphi indlela efanelekileyo kuwe.
5. Ungaze uxabane phambi koonyana bakho. Oku kuphazamisa i-psyche yezingane, kwaye uya kulahlekelwa ngabaphathi babo. Abantwana bafanele bakholelwe kwintlalo yoluntu yabazali babo kwaye babone ubudlelwane obuhle babazali, bathabathe kubo umzekelo wentsapho yolonwabo. Abantwana abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba isizathu sokuba abazali baxabane, oku ngokwabo, nokuba abazali baxabana ngenxa yabo, baya kuziva benetyala.
6. Ngaphambi kokuba wenze nayiphi na isenzo kufuneka ucinge ngawo onke amaxesha asixhenxe. Mhlawumbi lo msebenzi awuyi kuhlawula ingxabano apho angakhokelela khona. Yaye ukhumbule ukuba inani leengxabano alikwazi ukulingana, kwaye kungekudala okanye emva koko kukhokelela ekutshatweni komtshato.
7. Yonke imibuzo malunga nokukhuliswa kwabantwana ihlala isigqibo kunye kunye, ungalokothi uthathe naziphi na izigqibo eziqakathekileyo kuwe, qho qhagamshelana nomntu wakho womntu.
8. Ungalokothi uthabathe udoti ngaphandle kwendlu, vumela ukungafani kwakho kungabi ngaphezu komda wendlu yakho. Yenza intsapho yakho ibe nobungane kwaye ingabikho ukungavumelani kwintsapho.
9. Kwi sibini esitshatileyo, emva kokubhaliswa komtshato, akukho ndawo yokunyaniseka kunye nokuqwengqa.
10. Khumbula ukuba ulonwabo lwentsapho luya kusekelwe kwimimiselo elandelayo: uthando, imvume yokubambisana, ukubala ngokubambisana.

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