Indlela yokwakha ubuhlobo kwintsapho emva kokuxabana?

Iimvumba kunye neengxabano zasekhaya ziyingxenye ebalulekileyo yokuhlala kunye. Iingcali ezininzi ziqwalasela ukuba iminyaka engama-3-5 yomtshato ngamnye kunzima, kodwa ubomi obuthatyathwa ngokutsha buzenza izilungiso zabo, kwaye aba sele batshatileyo bangakwazi ukufikelela kwisivumelwano kwinkalo yokuqala. Amantombazana anamhlanje awafundiswa indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho, njengokuba benzayo kwiintsuku zakudala, ngoko kufuneka uhlalutye ngokusebenzisa ityala lakho kunye nephutha.

Umtshato onoyolo kwaye ungatshintshi ngumphumo wophuhliso olushukumisayo jikelele. Ukubambisana kunye nokufihlwa kweengxaki kubangela ukuba ingxabano iqhubele phambili, idibanise kuyo amanqaku omdlalo obalaseleyo. Ukuze uqinise kwaye ngamanye amaxesha uphinde uphilise ubomi obudibeneyo, abatshatileyo kufuneka baqaphele indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane kwintsapho ngaphandle kokuphulwa kwamalungelo elinye lamalungu ayo.

Into ephambili ukubuyisana

Okokuqala, yonke ilungu lentsapho, nokuba lincinci, limele liqonde umgaqo wobomi obonwabileyo-ingqubuzana ayikwazi ukunqandwa, kodwa umphumo weyiphi ingxoxo okanye ingxabano kufuneka ibe nokuxolelana okupheleleyo kunye nokungahambelani.

Ukungabikho, inzondo kunye nekratshi ngokukhawuleza kamva uphakamise imeko yangoku kwi-ajenda, ngoko umlinganiselo weengxabano ezinqabileyo uya kulingana ne-cataclysm yehlabathi. Indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane entsapho emva kwesi siphepho, unokuqonda kuphela ngoncedo lweengcali.

"Indlela ejongene neCold"

Iingcali zeengqondo zehlabathi zisebenza kwinkalo yokuxolelana kwezibini ezitshatileyo kwaye unyaka ngamnye iirejimenti zamathala eencwadi zizaliswa ngeenguqulelo ezintsha ngegama eliphakamileyo: "Indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho." Iingcebiso eziphambili zeengcali ezikhokelayo zisoloko zilawula "indlela yokubanda". Impikiswano nganye ineengcambu, ngoko ke ngexesha lempikiswano kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukujonga ubunzulu beengxaki. Amancinci amancinci amancinci kuphela umqondiso obonakalayo wokukhathala kwabantu kunye nokuqhagamshelana nokuqhagamshelana.

Ukuphelisa ukuxabana kwale nqanaba kunokuthetha ingqinileyo, ukuphumla okukhuselekileyo kunye noshintsho kwiimeko ezithandekayo. Eyona nto izalisekile kwaye iyamkela i-atmosphem endlini, ivelisa ngokubanzi ukuthetha kunye nentsapho nganye. Ngamakhaya amancinane kuyafaneleka ukuxubusha imiba emininzi, ukwenzela ukuba umntwana uzive echaphazelekayo kwaye kwinqanaba elithile elijongene nenkqubo yokudala impilo enokufanayo. Abantwana kufuneka baqeqeshwe ukuba baqonde ukugqithisa kwamacangca aphilileyo, ukuze ngekamva akufanele bacinge ngendlela yokuseka ubudlelwane kwintsapho. Emva koko kuya kuba lula ngabo ukuba baphile.

Impendulo efanelekile

Abazali abaninzi abazi indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho emva kokuxabana, indlela yokufumana unxibelelwano olufanayo ekuxoxaneni nabantwana abaselula. Kwimeko yokugqibela, kuyimfuneko ukubhekisela kwindlela "yerekhodi endala". Njani? Ukuba umntwana ufumana uhloniphekile, nokuba impendulo evela kubazali, ukuvukela kunye nokugqithiswa kwemimoya kuya kuba yinto engekho nto. Ukukhala kunye nokuhlambalaza ekujonganeni nabantwana abanobudlova basoloko bedlala ngecala labantwana abafanayo.

Ngoko ke, indlela echanekileyo iya kubakho ukuzimanyaniswa nokuzimisela ngokupheleleyo kwisigqibo esithathwe. Thatha uhlangothi lomntwana kuphela kwiimeko apho kunokufumaneka khona ukuchaza zonke iingxabano.

Umyeni washintsha

Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, iinqanawa zentsapho, zokubhukuda elwandle elinololileyo lobomi obonwabileyo, zigijimela e-iceberg ebizwa ngokuthi "ukugwenxa." Ubudlelwane obungaphandle kwentsapho kamva okanye emva koko kukhokelela ekuphazamiseni okupheleleyo okanye okukodwa kobudlelwane. Yintoni enokuyenza kwimeko apho indoda ibuyele kwintsapho? Indlela yokwakha ubudlelwane emva kobugwenxa? Amabhunga amantombazana ukuba asuse eso siganeko kwixesha leentshukumo zentsapho sebenza kuphela ngethuba lencoko.

Ubomi bobubomi, kunzima kubafazi ukuba bamkele ukunyaniseka njengombonakalo wenhlekelele enkulu. Uninzi lwabesini obuthathaka lubona oku njengento yokuhlambalaza kunye nokuthengwa. Ngoko ke, inkqubo yoxolelwaniso ilibaziseka ixesha elide.

Kutheni oku kwenzekayo?

Kwiingcambu zayo, ukutshatyalaliswa, bobabini nabesifazana, kukubonakalisa ukuphelelwa lithemba, ukuphazamiseka nokukhathala okukhulu. Ubume bendoda buphantsi kokukhangela rhoqo into enhle kwaye ekhangayo. Kwaye abafazi kumjikelezo weengxaki zemihla ngemihla bayakulibala ukukholisa umlingane wabo, ukuzikhathalela ngokwabo kunciphisa ukucoceka kwasekuqaleni, kwaye ukudlala ngothando kunokungaqhubi.

Indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane kwintsapho kunye nomyeni oye watshintsha? Ukwenza isigqibo esifanelekileyo, kubalulekile ukufumanisa, ngenxa yezizathu ezenza umyeni enze isigqibo. Ukuba le ngxaki ixakeke kwi-aesthetic exhaustion, ibhinqa kufuneka lihlolisise ikhabethe layo, xubusha nomyeni wayo yintoni imifanekiso ayithandayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo yintlupheko ebonakalayo yomfazi ephosa umlingane ukuba athole amabhinqa angabonakaliyo nabangenakukhutshwa.

Nabani na umfazi kufuneka aqonde umgaqo wokuqala wokuhlala kunye namadoda - musa ukuziqhelisa ukucima kunye nokuhlambalaza, nayiphi na ingxaki inokulungiswa kunye. Ukuba intombazana iyakwamukela inkohlakalo kwaye igqibe ukuqhubeka nobomi bayo bentsapho, kufuneka iqaphele ukuba ukungathembeki komyeni wakhe akufanele kube yindumalo kwisandla, ebonakala njalo xa kunzima ukuphikisana naye.

Ubukho ebomini obusondeleyo

Indlela yokuseka ubudlelwane phakathi kwentsapho emva kokungcatshiswa, ukuba isizathu sokungathembeki sisisigxina sezesondo? Iingcali zamazwe amaninzi azicebisi kulo mbandela ngokukhawuleza ukugqobhoza ukunqoba ii-top of BDSM okanye ukuguqula. Isisombululo esona sisisombululo sinokuthi singanyaniseki kwaye, ngokubaluleke kakhulu, ingxoxo enokwakha, ngexesha apho kucacisa ukuba yintoni iqabane ngalinye elinayo. Ukuba ingxaki ixazululwe, wonk 'ubani kufuneka abe njengengqinileyo kunokwenzeka kunye neqabane lakhe, emva koko, ukucinga kunye neenqweno kungenziwa kuphela xa zivakaliswa.

Ukuba iqabane liye latshintsha ...

Enye ingxaki enzima ngokulinganayo ihlala ingumbuzo wendlela yokuseka ubudlelwane kwintsapho kunye nomfazi oye watshintsha. Okokuqala, indoda kufuneka iqonde ukuba ukungathembeki kwabasetyhini akunqabile ukunyanga ukunyamezela, mhlawumbi, ingcambu yayo ingukuthi ukuvalelwa kweemvakalelo. Ukuseka ubudlelwane nomfazi, kubalulekile ukwenza yonke into elahlekileyo ngexesha lomtshato. Emva kokuxolelana, umfazi kunye nomyeni wakhe kufuneka bafumane umsebenzi oqhelekileyo, ukuzaliseka kwayo kuya kuba mnandi kubo bobabini, kwaye ngaphandle kokubangela ingxabano okanye ukungavumelani.

Isiphelo

Ukhohlakele luyinto eqhelekileyo yeentsapho, apho abantu abajongani nantoni na ngaphandle kwegama. Ngoko ke, xhathananani ngokuhlonipha. Njalo bonisa umyeni wakho (okanye umfazi) oyithandayo ngokwenene, nokuba iminyaka emininzi yokuhlala kunye idlulile.