Ephupheni ukuba bazibona abakhulelweyo.

Ukulala - le yenye yeenkqubo ezininzi isimanga ezintsha ezithe zenzeka emzimbeni womntu, oko kukuthi ebuchotsheni. Iminyaka emininzi, oosonzululwazi ndizama ukusombulula imfihlelo amaphupha uze unike ingcaciso ubengo, ngenxa yale meko. Kwaye ke kwengqondo abaziwayo baye bazama ukwenza utoliko iziganeko ezenzeka ngexesha ulele, kuqhina nabo iziganeko ngokwenyani kwaye zisekelwe iithiyori zenzululwazi.

Kukho ezininzi iingcamango amaphupha. Kwiminyaka yokuqala, abantu babekholelwa ukuba ngamaphupha bakwazi ukubona ikamva, kodwa akusoloko kusenzeka ukuba ukubeka iziganeko amaphupho ububanzi leyinene.

Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kukholelwa ukuba xa ulele, ingqondo yethu ngokubonakalayo iinkqubo ingcaciso efunyenweyo ngosuku, kwaye ulunika ulungiso kwi nobuntu kunye nobuqu umntu. Ngoko ke, zonke iingcinga zethu yaye unqwenela ukuba ngamanye amaxesha bayoyika ukuvuma ukuba nabo ngokwabo, ukubonisa amaphupha ethu.

Kweli nqaku Ndifuna ukuxelela amaphupha apho mphuphi okanye mphuphi ubona yena okhulelweyo okanye ukubona nje umfazi okhulelweyo.

I zengqondo kakhulu ezaziwayo-kakuhle, esasisebenza ngamaphupha, i uSigmund Freud ezaziwayo-kakuhle. Waba imfundiso yakhe ubuthongo. Kodwa ngawo namhlanje akayi kuthetha nathi.

Yintoni ephupheni ukuba bazibone abakhulelweyo (ukukhulelwa ukulala)?

Loo phupha ingcaciso. Kule ncwadi iphupha, ukuba ngoku nendlela kunjalo, ukutyhilwa kwalo buyaphikisana kangangokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ukuqonda oko sifuna ukuxelela ienjini yethu. Ngenxa ephupheni zonke ienjini iphuma kwaye usixelela iminqweno yethu.

Le ncwadi iphupha esibhaliweyo Freud edume wabhala ukuba ukukhulelwa iphupha (emithi ephupheni), nto leyo iyelenqe indawo enkulu, uthi: "ukuzalwa" igalelekile into entsha ebomini bethu. Ukuba ephupheni ukuba bazibone abakhulelweyo (oku kusebenza abafazi), kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhulelwe okanye ukukhulelwa kungekudala. Okanye kusenokuba kuthetha ngakumbi umnqweno wakho ienjini ukuba nabantwana. Kodwa ke inkcazo ngqo yenjongosenzi ubuthongo.

Kukho kwakhona ingcaciso ifuzisela iziganeko ezinjalo. Ephupheni ukuba bazibone wakhulelwa kaninzi isibabula isiqu na isiganeko ibalulekileyo ebomini bakho kwixa elizayo, nto leyo kumele ukuba kwenzeka kwaye silindele ukuba oku kanye.

Kusenokuba umntwana wakho kwimisebenzi yabo kwezomsebenzi wobungcali, ukuphunyezwa ingcamango yokuba uye lwamaJuda. Okanye, phezu koko, ukuvela iimbono ezintsha, izicwangciso ezintsha, into ngokomgangatho entsha ebomini bakho.

Ukuze umntu ukubona umfazi omithiyo kwi ubuthongo yakhe (kuba ukuba umfazi wakhe okanye naliphi na umfazi) ithetha ukuzalwa ingcamango entsha, iprojekthi, nto leyo ibaluleke kakhulu kuye ukuba umsebenzi, nto leyo ebonakaliswa umfazi zingqondweni ephupheni umntwana-ethwele umntwana yokomfuziselo.

Omnye angabaluleka ukuba ephupheni ukuba bazibone ukhulelwe, into ukuvela iimpawu ezintsha ubuntu, apho de kube ngoko wayengekho kubomi abazi sifundo.

Lo isenokuba ukufezekiswa ezinye izimiso yobomi kunye kokuhluma, kule meko, ukuqonda iziganeko ngokwenene ebomini mphuphi bakhe.

Noko ke, utoliko yamaphupho eyazisa alohlukaniswa ngokwemeko iphupha, zithathelwa iziganeko akhawunti zisenzeka ngexesha ulele, leyo zingqonge umfazi omithiyo umntu ngoxa ephethe umntwana wakhe, apho kuthe kwehla, yintoni umbala ke liphupha (kakuhle okanye kakubi).

Kakade ke, sonke oku kufuneka nakanjani kuqhagamshelwa iziganeko ngokwenene ezenzeka ngosuku ngaphambili. Ke ngokwenene iphupha uba ecacileyo nefihlakeleyo, yaye sinokufunda ukuwuqonda kunye nemiqondiso subliminal ingqondo yethu ukuhlalutya nokuqonda oko simele senze okuthile ukuze aqaphele okanye nemihlali.

Ngenxa yoko, amaphupha ethu izaliswe ayaziwa nebalulekileyo ezininzi, oko ulwazi ukuba miss ngamanye amaxesha, ukuhlalutya izenzo zabo.