Iimpendulo eziliqela ukuya kumbuzo kabuhlungu sokuba akukho abahlobo

Ukuba umntu - a ngokwasentlalweni, zibonakalise ngokungeyomfuneko. maxa wambi nkqu introvert kakhulu igqityiwe ufuna ukuthetha xa musa, ngoko ke ubuncinane uhlale ekuhlaleni umntu azive inkxaso umntu okanye ukuqonda ubuncinane kunye novelwano ukuya iinkqubo ezenzekayo emphefumlweni. Noko ke, ngakumbi nangakumbi abantu ebudaleni bethu technogenic unesizungu kwaye bayazibuza kutheni andinayo nabahlobo? Siphila-asikho kwi kwisiqithi entlango, macala onke - eninzi yabantu, wabiza umhlobo obuthile ... Kwaye ke thina, kuba ukubala, makhe ubuza umbuzo: Ngubani na lo "umhlobo", nendlela kwahlukile "umhlobo" yaye "umhlobo."

Kungenzeka, ngamnye kuthi ubuncinane kanye ebomini bakhe, kodwa amava friendly waba (elungileyo okanye embi - ngomnye umbuzo). Khumbula eyahlula loo mntu kwabanye? Okokuqala, uye wafuna ukunxibelelana ngokufanayo. Wena usoloko kwafuneka kuxelela omnye. Kwaye ningoyiki ukwabelana nalo mntu iingcinga zabo ezifihlakeleyo, ngaphandle koloyiko eya bakugculele okanye ihlukane yanto. Okwesibini, wena kushukunyiswa nomnqweno ukunceda umhlobo wakhe, wena Wayevelana nishube zonke neyokudinga kwayo kunye novuyo. Kwaye, okona kubaluleke kakhulu, ngaba akukhathalwa kuba yintoni na, oko kukuthi, musa ukuzama ukuba 'aphathe' nokufundisa. Wabanika icebiso, ukuba ukunyanzelisa iimbono zabo, kanye njengoko wayemiselwe cebiso ngobubele nje yaye iingcebiso, kwaye imiyalelo kunye nokuziphatha. Ngoku lixesha lokuba aye umbuzo wokuba kutheni umntu izele abahlobo, yaye akukho abahlobo bokwenene?

Umntu ongenangqondo ityala ngokwakho ukuba awunayo "igunya", leyo banobuhlobo. Umntu ongenangqondo ityala kwabanye, bona akanandaba kudlula kwaye awufuni ukubona umntu emangalisayo wena. Sekunjalo, impendulo umbuzo malunga sokuba akukho abahlobo, ilele lo moya ka kunxibelelwano nabanye wena kunye noluntu yakho zendawo. Umntu abahlobo 100, akoyiki ukuvula ukuya kwabanye. Ngale ndlela, singatsho ukuba ubuhlobo - oko kuyingozi ngokwenene. Kodwa njengoko bathi, nto sendide, ukuba akukho mntu usele champagne.

Ndikholelwe, kukho kwindawo zakho kubantu kuwe ngaphandle kwenzala. Kuphela, mhlawumbi, bambalwa phakathi kwabo ziqhu kangaka nomonde ukuzinyamezela "lokhwalimanzi nengwane zijoje" bakho.

Mhlawumbi lodwa yakho ine isiseko salo: ukungcatshwa ekuthiwa-abahlobo bangaphambili ukuze ezikhawulezileyo ukuthembeka lonke uhlanga lwabantu. Noko ke, ukuba umntu athembeke kuwe, oko akuthethi ukuba omnye umntu uya kwenza okufanayo, ewolo - ". Andinamntu abahlobo ngaphezulu" akukho sizathu ukuba bathi, Ukuba - i introvert, wena abanakufane unesizungu, kodwa ihlabathi yakho elingaphakathi Wayengavumi ukuba uvumela omnye umntu apho. Qala i blog uze ubhale phantsi amava akho kunye nezimvo umdla - ngokuhamba kwexesha uya kucelwa ukuba "buddylist" virtual - ngubani owaziyo? - banokuba ngabahlobo bokwenene ebomini.

"Ngubani uthanda - uthando" - kuvunywa le ngoma elidumileyo. Impendulo umbuzo malunga sokuba akukho abahlobo, ngokufuthi axhomekeke kule Ukungavumi okanye ukungakwazi uthando. Ufuna ukwabelana iimvakalelo zakho, kuwuvakalisa ubunzima, kodwa kakhulu enesithukuthezi ukuphulaphula amabali malunga yezilonda izenzakalo usapho lwabantu kancinane-eyaziwa somnye? Zama ziphathwe hayi njengendlela abantu ukuba ndiwuphalazela kum umphefumlo wakhe, kodwa kwabanye ihlabathi, engayaziyo umdla kakhulu.

Masithi ngaka ityala esahlukileyo: Ufuna ngokwenene umthanda lokumba ubomi bomnye umntu, Ndiyakuthanda ukuphulaphula amabali abanye abantu kunye izimvo ngubani wenza into elungileyo, kodwa ngubani na ngokwesiseko engalunganga. Ngokuba zonke zizwana kwakho nomnqweno ukuba zinikelwe ezinye icebiso lobulumko (! Kuba sele ukwazi ubomi), kungekudala kakhulu uya kuqalisa ukuziva ngeenxa utshayela uze uzibuze axakwe: kutheni andinayo nabahlobo? Ubuhlobo isekelwe kwintlonipho omnye njengomntu. Makhe na ingcebiso nanini na kuvela ithuba, kodwa kuphela ukuba abantu okunene babuze kubo. Ukuba afundise, hayi moralizing, yaye nayiphi na imeko musa ukulawula abantu.