"Mna enye," okanye elivisayo malunga wedwa

ubulolo waphatheka ukufikisa ingakumbi sibi. Ivuthwa umntu liqalisa sigxeke ngakumbi yena nabanye, akulindeleyo kunye neemfuno ziyahluka. Ingxaki: "Ndiye akukho ezinye" kuba buhlungu kakhulu. Indlela yokunceda umntwana wakho ukumelana lilolo? Ngawaphi amagama ukufumana?

Ukuba unyana okanye intombi yakho uthi: "Ndiye Akukho enye," oko kuthetha kuye: "Ndiziva embi." Zama ukuba babe ingqalelo kangangoko ukuba umntwana ngeli thuba. Thetha naye kanye ayifundisi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kwaye uzame ukuqonda. Yiba ngokunyanisekileyo, ukwabelana iingcinga zakho neemvakalelo, iinkumbulo kwakho wakhula ngayo, kwakubalulekile ntoni kuwe ngoko. Awu, ngaphezulu elivisayo ayibonakali ngenxa iingxaki zabo, kwaye akhethe ukuba banxibe. Noko ke, kukho Imiqondiso ethile. umzali Smart okanye utitshala uya baziphawule kwaye zama ukuzinceda.

Okokuqala ngokucacile ukuphepha nokugxekwa! Khumbula ukuba naziphi na izimvo zibonwa kunye nentiyo kuba buhlungu umphefumlo sele intekenteke akuqolanga. Xa abakwishumi elivisayo, a ukuzithemba iyaxokozela kakhulu, ufuna kuphela ngokwabo indawo yazo kweli hlabathi. Ngoko ke, ukuba la mazwi: "Ndiya kuba umhlobo," wena uphendule nokugxekwa ( "Akukho kuba akwanelanga .... smart, elungileyo, uyathandeka, uhlobo, zama") kunye neetekisi ezifanayo - qiniseka ukuba unayo qha nomntwana ezilahlekileyo ngonaphakade. Musa ukucinga ukuba izimvo zakho kuya kumnceda ukuba alungise iziphene ukuba uya kuba ngcono. Le yenye amaphutha abazali inkulu. Ngokwahlukileyo koko, badumise elivisayo rhoqo kangangoko, umnika ithemba ubuchule bakhe kunye nomtsalane. In search of imvume kunye nokunakana abantwana uya baye zifezeke enesiqhamo, ngamadlelane abo lilolo nje tsakanga. Akafumani indumiso nokuqonda entsatsheni esikolweni, baqala ukujonga kubo kwiinkampani ezahlukeneyo, azisoloko zithembekile kwaye imimoya elungileyo.

Kwakhona, khumbula, yaye malunga nendlela maxa wambi ndinobukhwele izidalwa abaselula kwabo nontanga babonakala ngakumbi aqolileyo, ngempumelelo, ezintle. , Kuba intombazana ndacinga, "Mna akukho ezinye" ngokusondeleyo ivame kumzekelo abahlobo abaye bezisoloko guys apho. Kuyinto ngexesha bekhula sifuna ukuba ngcono kunabanye, ukuba ube nomtsalane nethandwayo. Akukho nto ibangela ukuba ubenentloni - le yinkqubo eqhelekileyo self-isiqiniselo kunye nokwakhiwa nesazisi.

Kubalulekile ukuba elivisayo uze best friend zomntu, ukuba unako ukwenza into yokwenene, hayi uzame ukutshintsha. Ukufumana akukho inkxaso koontanga babo, bakholisa ukuba basebenzisane nabantu abadala, abantu abadala. Kwakhona kwandisa uhlobo "udumo" nomntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo emehlweni akhe kwaye ngokoluvo abafundi eklasini. Kubalulekile kakhulu ukuba uthethe uhlala nabantwana babo umxholo we zokunxibelelana nabanye abantu. Kuyimfuneko ukuba abafundise ukuba baqonde ngokwabo, ukuba ukuphulaphula ilizwi lakho elingaphakathi. Kwaye ukuba sahlule ngokwenene ethabathela ezinkozweni ese exolweni. Lo mfo umhlobo ukuba amantombazana amaninzi kangako omnye lowo unako ukwabelana kakhulu yakho eyimfihlo, onokuthenjwa, yaye omnye lowo ndifuna ukubonisa kwi iqela 'abaqhayisa' ukuze eklasini nomona. Oku, kakhulu, liqonga eqhelekileyo ukubunjwa kunye nophuhliso. Ngoko ke, musa ukusondela ukusola elivisayo ukuba wayengasiqondi abantu. Zama ukuqonda oko kwaye udale imo ukuzithemba. Kuphela ngale ndlela nga kumnceda nge xesha linzima.