Indlela onokuwoyisa ngayo ukoyika kwezakho?

Man kwabantwana abancinane engqongwe abanye abantu. Kodwa ke, nangona kunjalo, kuba abantu abaninzi, qhagamshelana ne uluntu isoloko ngumthombo iingxaki. Ibiya kuthetha ukuba xa sisoloko ukunxibelelana bume babo, kufanele ukuba akukho nokoyika abantu. Kodwa ngandlel 'ithile, phambi iintetho zoluntu, imfuno iintlanganiso ezibalulekileyo emsebenzini kwaye kwezinye iimeko ezifanayo apho kufuneka ukuba izimvo zabo, kubonakala ukuba akukho ukulungele. Indlela woyisa uloyiko lwakho? Indlela ukuba akwazi ukuzimela?

Kwezinye iimeko, ukoyika kungachazwa ezinye iziganeko ezibuhlungu ezichaphazela psyche, iba umthombo lumo, xa umntu akafuni ukuba aphume, woyika ukunxibelelana nabanye. Kodwa iimeko ezinjalo zinqabile.

A ingxaki eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo kuxa umntu usempilweni, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile abafumana ubunzima abanye contact ekuhlaleni. Ngokomzekelo, umntu uzithembe ilungelo lakhe, kodwa ukuze akhusele nembono yabo akakwazi. Abanye abazi ukuvakalisa indlela iimvakalelo kangokuba aqondwe abantu abasondeleyo kuye. Ezinye ngenxa titsongahata abo kunye ingqiqo esikhathazayo ubuchule ayoyika lokuqhagamshelana nomntu imnandi kuwo. Bathanda into uzibambileyo ngaphakathi, angavumeli ukuba kwakhiwe ubudlelwane ekuhlaleni. Umntu ixhomekeke izimvo zabanye abantu, izinto ukuhlola krwaqu ngoko ke ibamba lonke ixesha emthunzini, ke enguye ngokufihlakeleyo ufuna ukuba abe yinkokeli. Ekuhambeni kwexesha, ezi ngxaki kunokukhokelela ubukrakra, ingqumbo phezu wesekethe ehlabathini kwi 'icala. " Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Indlela onokuwoyisa ngayo ukoyika kwezakho?

Indida siyifumana yokuba sikuphephe neentlobano ngenxa yokoyika lwabo asiyonto indlela yokuzikhusela. Kuphela efika kuqala kubonakala ukuba kwisekethe yakhe ezweni labo kwenza ubomi ekhululekile. Enyanisweni akunjalo.

Yindalo yomntu kukho okuphosakeleyo. Ukuba bume uvakalelwa uloyiko lwakho, kwiimeko ezininzi, kuphela self-isiqiniselo ungalinda endaweni kumnceda ngenxa "skromnyagi". Kakade ke, kukho amaSamariya iiyunithi abakwaziyo kukhuza niboleke isandla, ukuba babone ukuba umntu olufunekayo. Kodwa umthetho, abantu - "ngamarhamncwa." Ngoko ke kufuneka ukuba uzikhusele ngokwakho kubo kakhulu. Ngoko ke, njani woyisa uloyiko kunye ukulwa emva imeko enzima?

Ukungaqiniseki baninzi abazisa ukusuka ebuntwaneni: Abazali engqongqo, ootitshala musa nokuqonda (nangona engaqondanga) kakhulu ukuba aphule ubuntu komntwana, kufuneka zingeniswe. Kukoyika bahlala abantu abaninzi.

Unako ukoyisa uloyiko, ngaphandle kokubhenela kwi uncedo lwangaphandle. Ukuze wenze oku, wena awufuni kwengqondo, ungenza kuyenza ngaphandle "zangaphantsi" abahlobo nezalamane.

Ukuze bahlukane kuloyiko kunye siyaqiniseka ngokwabo kufuneka baqeqeshwe (okanye umthambo). Impumelelo kwezemidlalo ixhomekeke izihlunu ubunzima kunye sharpness nezakhono. Kwakhona kubomi bemihla ngemihla ukuba liya kufuna uqeqesho kwimpumelelo. Ngoko ke, ukunxibelelana kangangoko kunokwenzeka, nokuba uvakalelwa le mfuneko. izithuthi ezinika, nabathengisi evenkileni, abamelwane - wonke umntu "Abaqeqeshi" ukuphuhlisa ukuzithemba kwakho kwaye nenkululeko engenaloyiko. Ngoko ke niya kuyiqonda ngokukhawuleza ukuze soyise njani uloyiko, kwaye akwazi ukumelana nayo.

Xa inkqubo yonxibelelwano mxube kwi interlocutor yakhe yokuziphatha yangaphandle, hayi uzama uku bana phandle ukuba ebecinga njengokuba ubona, yaye yintoni ezingqondweni eniyivelisayo kuyo. Kufuneka ufunde ingqalelo unxibelelwano lwangaphandle, kungalelwa i 'ngaphakathi monologues, iingxoxo' ukuba zibangela ukuba kubuzwe lo amaxhala kakubi. Oku kuya kuvumela ukubona indlela abasabela ngayo interlocutor, ukuze baqonde oko anako engqondweni. Ukongeza, ukuze ukwazi ukufumana ibhalansi kwangaphakathi kunye ukuphelisa iingxaki komzimba kunxibelelwano (emqaleni owomileyo, abanale, umbilo ebunzi) kunye nasengqondweni (uya kukulibala into ekufuneka kuthi kwaye yokulahleka).

Ungazama babhenele indlela ngqondweni imbilini yabo - ukwenza uluhlu ebhaliweyo, uze awutshise. Oku kuya kubakho inkululeko engqondweni koko ndoyika kuwe ngaphambili. ukufumana nje inkululeko ephakathi kwaye uqala ukunxibelelana kwi ngokulinganayo, uya kuqonda ukuba ukoyisa njani uloyiko.